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(For girls at Uni)what is acceptable/creepy when a staranger guy approachs you?

hi,i have started uni 2 weeks ago,i made friends from my course and some outside the course.

the thing is that i want to meet girls and talk to them coz my course has 2 girls only and i came from an all boys school so i wanna make a change at uni,i had a girlfriend and girl friends so i dont feel shy or something.i have few questions and need girls opinion on them

(the enviroment is uni bar,student union,society,nightclub)

1-would you find it creepy if a stranger guy comes up to you and intreduces himself?

2-if i'm in a nightclub and want to dance with a girl,is it better to ask her to dance or just go up to her and start dancing with her?

3-is it acceptable to ask a girl for her number after you have broken the ice and had a small talk?

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Reply 1
These are my opinions :

1 - no, thats perfectly fine. but it depends on how you introduce yourself, a simple, 'hey, how you doing? i'm X' is good for starting a conversation.

2 - Usually best to try and gain some eye contact with her first, and smile at her, if she smiles back, then head on over and say she looks nice or something and then start dancing with her and see what happens.

3 - its good to ask a girl for their number and they will almost certainly give it to you - unless theyre with someone obviously. It shows youre interested, and girls like to know that - not too forward tho. Or you could give them yours? Tho some girls do like to be chased. not too much tho, a hint is a hint. haha

Hope this helps :smile:
Reply 2
Here's some helpful chat up lines to get you started:

"Hey baby, fancy going fifty-fifty on a rape charge?"

"I really want to kiss you"

"You keep staring at my crotch, do you want to give me a blowjob?"

"I've got AIDS, let's shag"
HAHAHA ^^ I've tried the last two and they generally don't work sorry. However if at first you don't succeed try and try again as they say.
Reply 4
thanks alot FreeBird,that was really good.if you have time and feel in the mood of writing,can you write more about what makes a guy looks creepy and how to avoid being that.

there is another question: do i need to tell the girl a reason why i'm actually talking to her(make a story or something) or would she assume that i'm intrested in her?

punktopia,i dont think i would use these lines coz lines dont work at all but they are funny and good for a laugh.thanks again FreeBird :smile:
Reply 5
rshawk
1-would you find it creepy if a stranger guy comes up to you and intreduces himself?


Depends on the guy. As a general rule if say I was next to a guy at the bar and he smiled and said hey my name is [insert name] - what's yours? And then sort of got chatting then it'd be fine. Basically if you act natural then the worst that can happen is she gets the giggles and legs it - at least being at the bar she has a good excuse to leave without being rude.

2-if i'm in a nightclub and want to dance with a girl,is it better to ask her to dance or just go up to her and start dancing with her?

I don't think I've ever been ASKED to dance - but I'd appreciate you didn't randomly start grinding on my ass. Try to make eye contact - if you guys keep looking at each other at the same time and smiling then sure go for it

3-is it acceptable to ask a girl for her number after you have broken the ice and had a small talk?

Yes - and 9/10 she'll probably give ti to you with no idea whether or not you'll eventually call.

do i need to tell the girl a reason why i'm actually talking to her(make a story or something) or would she assume that i'm intrested in her?

If you're in a pub or club then she'll almost definitely assume you're interested. Even I do and I'm neither particularly confident or good looking - just it's hard enough to hold a conversation in a club - nobody's gonna bother if they're just looking for a nice chat :smile:
Reply 6
rshawk


1-would you find it creepy if a stranger guy comes up to you and intreduces himself?


For me, I get nervous if I'm approached in a pub/club as that's not the kind of environment I want to meet someone in - especially as I generally can't hear half of what they're saying. I don't mind being approached at the bar, however - it's usually slightly quieter music-wise, so that conversation can be heard, and, being at the bar, I know I'm able to leave without problems. I'm more likely to talk to someone at the bar, but out in the main club I avoid conversation.


rshawk


2-if i'm in a nightclub and want to dance with a girl,is it better to ask her to dance or just go up to her and start dancing with her?


I can't stand people who start dancing behind me, or next to me, out of the blue - yet on the other hand, I've never been ASKED to be danced with. I think as some of the posters above have said, the best thing is to get eye-contact and a smile first. If I see someone looking at me, and I'm really not interested, I'd let them know by turning away.


rshawk


3-is it acceptable to ask a girl for her number after you have broken the ice and had a small talk?


Yeah, it's acceptable to ask for a number, and generally you'll get it.
Reply 7
1-would you find it creepy if a stranger guy comes up to you and intreduces himself?

2-if i'm in a nightclub and want to dance with a girl,is it better to ask her to dance or just go up to her and start dancing with her?

3-is it acceptable to ask a girl for her number after you have broken the ice and had a small talk?


1. Nope

2. I was asked to dance last night and my heart just melted, it was so sweet that I couldn't say no

3. Yep!
punktopia
Here's some helpful chat up lines to get you started:

"Hey baby, fancy going fifty-fifty on a rape charge?"

"I really want to kiss you"

"You keep staring at my crotch, do you want to give me a blowjob?"

"I've got AIDS, let's shag"


Just do all of the above and your right in there haha. LOVE IT!
Reply 9
earthredalert89
HAHAHA ^^ I've tried the last two and they generally don't work sorry. However if at first you don't succeed try and try again as they say.


I love the way you say they "generally" don't work....
Reply 10
rshawk
thanks alot FreeBird,that was really good.if you have time and feel in the mood of writing,can you write more about what makes a guy looks creepy and how to avoid being that.

there is another question: do i need to tell the girl a reason why i'm actually talking to her(make a story or something) or would she assume that i'm intrested in her?

punktopia,i dont think i would use these lines coz lines dont work at all but they are funny and good for a laugh.thanks again FreeBird :smile:


Haha nooo no story needed! A stranger coming over to you and striking up a conversation with you is enough of a clue that theyre interested. She'll get it straight away. Though mentioning she looks good would be a good move, tho that technically is a reason you're talking to her :P

But no, saying to her 'I think you're really pretty so I had to come over and talk to you' while looking her up and down seems a bit cheesy and creepy, but you never know, would probably work on some of us!
Dont talk a lot, ask more questions about her (but not too prying lol), make jokes. And if she's answering your questions and laughing then you're definitely off to a good start!
Dont be weird and stare her out, be a bit polite, but a little cheek is also good :P
"Go get your coat, youve pulled"
"Did it hurt" ..."Did what hurt"..."When you hell from heaven!"
"Is your name Gillette"....."No...., why?"......"Because your the best a man can get
"Is that a mirror in your pocket?" "Why?" "I can see myself in your pants"
"You look like a parking ticket.." "Why :s-smilie:?" "Youve got fine written all over you!"
"Heres 20p, go call your mom and tell her you wont be coming home tonight"
1. No as long as its like as before "Hi, I'm X etc etc"
2. You could get around this, by doing the first, talking and then asking to dance? OR just smiling, if they smile back ask them if they want to dance?
3. Yeah ask for their number, as long as you get along obviously

And, the things about what makes a guy creepy - I would say oiled back hair/wearing a suit in a nightclub/REALLY tight jeans .... but thats just me

(and girls will always assume you're interested in clubs, and they will probably be very blunt if they're not interested)
Reply 13
Me
"Go get your coat, youve pulled"
"Did it hurt" ..."Did what hurt"..."When you hell from heaven!"
"Is your name Gillette"....."No...., why?"......"Because your the best a man can get
"Is that a mirror in your pocket?" "Why?" "I can see myself in your pants"
"You look like a parking ticket.." "Why :s-smilie:?" "Youve got fine written all over you!"
"Heres 20p, go call your mom and tell her you wont be coming home tonight"


That last one is fantastic I must say.
A good squeeze on the arse always goes down well.
punktopia
Here's some helpful chat up lines to get you started:

"Hey baby, fancy going fifty-fifty on a rape charge?"

"I really want to kiss you"

"You keep staring at my crotch, do you want to give me a blowjob?"

"I've got AIDS, let's shag"

you forgot "do wanna puts two's on a bastard?"
Reply 16
I still think 'does this smell like chloroform to you?' is the best chat up line ever.
Robob
I still think 'does this smell like chloroform to you?' is the best chat up line ever.


very gd very ****in gd. will be using that at weekend.
Reply 18
A few rhohypnol thrown in as well for good measure work a treat with the ladies.
Reply 19
Personally I love it when randomers begin conversations when I'm out. Go for it :smile: