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    Hello!

    I turned 18 last month and am currently still in my last year of sixth form and am hoping to go to uni in September. I recently met a guy on Twitter and we have been talking constantly over the last few days. I really like him, but he is 30!

    I would normally consider a 30 year old willing to date (as I think that is the direction we're heading in) an 18 year old to be creepy and to be avoided, but he comes across as one of the most interesting people i've ever spoken to. He is well educated and travelled, has a well-paid job in finance, and is witty and funny. I am contemplating travelling from Plymouth (where I live) to London to meet him, but would have to do so w/o family knowing as they would disapprove.

    I am aware that i need to be v cautious, but cannot stop wondering if it IS simply weird for successful guy to be interested in a young, nïave girl, or if I should go with my heart and not care what people think.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello!

    I turned 18 last month and am currently still in my last year of sixth form and am hoping to go to uni in September. I recently met a guy on Twitter and we have been talking constantly over the last few days. I really like him, but he is 30!

    I would normally consider a 30 year old willing to date (as I think that is the direction we're heading in) an 18 year old to be creepy and to be avoided, but he comes across as one of the most interesting people i've ever spoken to. He is well educated and travelled, has a well-paid job in finance, and is witty and funny. I am contemplating travelling from Plymouth (where I live) to London to meet him, but would have to do so w/o family knowing as they would disapprove.

    I am aware that i need to be v cautious, but cannot stop wondering if it IS simply weird for successful guy to be interested in a young, nïave girl, or if I should go with my heart and not care what people think.
    Lol this is so like my thread I've made
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    You talked to him for a few days and you already really like him?

    Imo it does seem a bit sketchy but if you are going to go through with it you should take someone with you or at least tell people where you're going and what for
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    For him, this is going to be like the internet has turned into reality.
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    seems a bit strange no offence lol, but see how meeting him turns out and then go from there, just be careful you don't get catfished
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    (Original post by Trinculo)
    For him, this is going to be like the internet has turned into reality.
    What do you mean?
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    Ooo i'm from Plymouth also
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    Completely fine. Do as you please.

    That being said, I'd recommend meeting him in public initially for a few hours (I'd recommend this to anyone).

    Good luck finding some measure of happiness in this life :borat:
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    My OH and I were 28 and 18 respectively when we got together, still together 5 years later. Just follow your instincts and if worried get a sensible friend to come with you to meet him, and be sure to tell people where you're going
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello!

    I turned 18 last month and am currently still in my last year of sixth form and am hoping to go to uni in September. I recently met a guy on Twitter and we have been talking constantly over the last few days. I really like him, but he is 30!

    I would normally consider a 30 year old willing to date (as I think that is the direction we're heading in) an 18 year old to be creepy and to be avoided, but he comes across as one of the most interesting people i've ever spoken to. He is well educated and travelled, has a well-paid job in finance, and is witty and funny. I am contemplating travelling from Plymouth (where I live) to London to meet him, but would have to do so w/o family knowing as they would disapprove.

    I am aware that i need to be v cautious, but cannot stop wondering if it IS simply weird for successful guy to be interested in a young, nïave girl, or if I should go with my heart and not care what people think.
    30 Wow. You may have the next Jimmy Savile on your hands, then again Jim fixed it .
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What do you mean?
    Let's just say he's a regular 30 year old dude. He's in stable work, earns a bit of money and has long since got the student life behind him.

    He probably works all the time, plays on his Xbox or football with his friends and goes out once a week. Any women he's now meeting are nothing like they used to be. They're either very difficult to meet due to his lifestyle, incipient cat ladies who sew their own Disney Princess dresses, or really desperate to have babies.

    Suddenly, boom, he starts chatting to an 18 year old on the internet. This lines up perfectly with the enormous volume of pornography that he views. Sure, he'll have to talk a lot of rubbish about making a connection and how much he feels like he's known you for so long etc - but everything in his mind is going to be concentrated on what an absolute hero he is for getting with an 18 year old.

    If you're anything better than an average physical specimen, he's might as well grow a beard and call himself God.
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    lmao
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    What he says online could be made up bearing in mind.
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    (Original post by ByronicHero)
    Completely fine. Do as you please.

    That being said, I'd recommend meeting him in public initially for a few hours (I'd recommend this to anyone).

    Good luck finding some measure of happiness in this life :borat:
    This is lovely and best of luck to you too :suith:
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    Let's think about this rationally, why would a 30 year old guy in a well paid job, who's witty and funny go for an 18 year old he met online?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is lovely and best of luck to you too :suith:
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    My OH and I were 28 and 18 respectively when we got together, still together 5 years later. Just follow your instincts and if worried get a sensible friend to come with you to meet him, and be sure to tell people where you're going
    That is very sweet Thank you + i'll make sure to inform people!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello!

    I turned 18 last month and am currently still in my last year of sixth form and am hoping to go to uni in September. I recently met a guy on Twitter and we have been talking constantly over the last few days. I really like him, but he is 30!

    I would normally consider a 30 year old willing to date (as I think that is the direction we're heading in) an 18 year old to be creepy and to be avoided, but he comes across as one of the most interesting people i've ever spoken to. He is well educated and travelled, has a well-paid job in finance, and is witty and funny. I am contemplating travelling from Plymouth (where I live) to London to meet him, but would have to do so w/o family knowing as they would disapprove.

    I am aware that i need to be v cautious, but cannot stop wondering if it IS simply weird for successful guy to be interested in a young, nïave girl, or if I should go with my heart and not care what people think.
    Put it in this context, if a thirty year old and as you have described successful man cannot find a woman of a similar age that is willing to be his partner, and instead goes for a young lady almost half his age; what does that say about himself?

    You are young. To use another analogy, (courtesy of my great aunt), men are like a forest, and you are wandering through it, do not focus on a single tree and lose focus of the fact that there is a forest. Similarly, I trust that you are a sensible individual, but do not meet this man is my advice; however, it is your decision to make, in which case do so in a public space and remain in areas with other people at all times.

    The internet is beautiful, because people are able to craft their responses, be careful and sometimes going with rationality is more important than the heart.
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    How about you focus on your education instead of getting with rich old men
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    Too many girls these days are not having any goals in life and more interested in dick.
 
 
 
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