I've never been someone to rely on others and this is something my friends have known, they've often said to me that I'd make my life so much easier if I just leaned on others during hard times/talked about my problems more. I've never left any of their sides during difficult times but I didn't mind that and I'd happily do that over and over again.
Recently I've been dealing with some health issues and some hard hitting realities. I'd say for the first time in my life I required some support and kindness from my friends. Some of them haven't even seen me cry in 8 years of friendship. After telling them what's going on which led to me crying in front of them, however, all of them have been nothing but distant. No one's really checked up on me, and when I have seen them ie in a group setting, I'd get a 'you're no fun anymore,' type comment. No one has really asked me how I'm doing or what's been going on since. It's got to a point I wish I hadn't told them, or asked for their advice because it feels like I've lost friends during a period of time I needed them.
I can't really understand how they can act this way, I don't know if I'm being narrow minded. They've all told me I could rely on them more but now it's got to it, they haven't stepped up. It's not something I want to confront them with, I don't want to push them further away at this point in time. Is it me? Is it them? Did I make a 'type' of friend for them to all act in the same way? Another perspective would be nice. Thankss