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    I'm 20 and slept with 11 guys is that a lot or no? Is a person body count really that important?
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    This is the only Body Count that matters.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlk7o5T56iw
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    Well, only you can decide if 11 guys at age 20 is too many. I suppose it depends on what age you were when you started. But the bottom line is the body count doesn't matter, in my opinion, because it should be a private thing. A future partner may want to know but it's up to you how honest you are with that information. Whereas, of course, you want to be totally honest in life with your partner this is one area that he doesn't really need to know the total truth on especially if the number could be somewhat high and cause unnecessary stress. If you know you will be totally faithful and that you'll be a respectful, loving partner then the past is the past. Just my opinion.
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    (Original post by Hopefully1)
    Well, only you can decide if 11 guys at age 20 is too many. I suppose it depends on what age you were when you started. But the bottom line is the body count doesn't matter, in my opinion, because it should be a private thing. A future partner may want to know but it's up to you how honest you are with that information. Whereas, of course, you want to be totally honest in life with your partner this is one area that he doesn't really need to know the total truth on especially if the number could be somewhat high and cause unnecessary stress. If you know you will be totally faithful and that you'll be a respectful, loving partner then the past is the past. Just my opinion.
    Why would you lie to your partner on this if you don't think it's important?
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    Why would you lie to your partner on this if you don't think it's important?
    Because what happened in the past shouldn't have a bearing on a current relationship and full disclosure could potentially cause undue stress and even ruin a budding relationship. Decisions made in the past (as long as one isn't carrying an STI into a new relationship) are in the past. It shouldn't matter if you've been with 2 partners or 7 if you know you are going to be a true and faithful partner to your current relationship. I do think that if you just want to sleep around or have a sexual addiction that causes you to have an extraordinary number you should seek counseling regardless before entering into the next committed relationship. If you are talking about a ons then you get what you get. If you've been with a number of partners but you know you want to be in a committed, monogamous relationship and who you were with in the past has no influence now then it can just be your own personal information. My opinion.
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    (Original post by Hopefully1)
    Because what happened in the past shouldn't have a bearing on a current relationship and full disclosure could potentially cause undue stress and even ruin a budding relationship. Decisions made in the past (as long as one isn't carrying an STI into a new relationship) are in the past. It shouldn't matter if you've been with 2 partners or 7 if you know you are going to be a true and faithful partner to your current relationship. I do think that if you just want to sleep around or have a sexual addiction that causes you to have an extraordinary number you should seek counseling regardless before entering into the next committed relationship. If you are talking about a ons then you get what you get. If you've been with a number of partners but you know you want to be in a committed, monogamous relationship and who you were with in the past has no influence now then it can just be your own personal information. My opinion.
    I'd highly advise you reconsider your opinion. A potential partner may see things differently. If you are getting into a relationship you need to lay all the cards on the table so that whoever you're getting into a relationship with is given the choice to decide for themselves. If they body counts matter to them then they'll be incredibly upset once they find out.
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    if she hides it, yea

    if we discuss it early but not too early I might
    but where I live it's KIND of a small world, not completely but you run into the same people, at least I recognise ppl by face alone
    So if I'm with a girl and all those lads have bed her everyone will chat **** about it and mug me off

    Like I've been in group convos where the lads are circle jerking about a girl's private parts giving explicit details on it because they all had her, and they jumped/gang fought the guy who was with her cos they took him for a div
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    Whenever anyone mentions body count I just think of this,
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YKCbJ2bS1sg
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    It's important to me.
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    If she's a serial killer then yes that's pretty significant.
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    I'd highly advise you reconsider your opinion. A potential partner may see things differently. If you are getting into a relationship you need to lay all the cards on the table so that whoever you're getting into a relationship with is given the choice to decide for themselves. If they body counts matter to them then they'll be incredibly upset once they find out.
    Some people don't care anymore, as long as they get what they want.
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    If she's a serial killer then yes that's pretty significant.
    Wow! Morbid joke...
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    Nope. Don't really care as long as they haven't cheated, paid for sex or have a std.
    If they had slept with loads of people I'd just be more wary that they only wanted sex, but wouldn't not date them because of it.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    If she's a serial killer then yes that's pretty significant.
    Mmmm, I'd gone through double that at 20.
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    (Original post by ILoveExo)
    Some people don't care anymore, as long as they get what they want.
    Sad isnt it...
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    Sad isnt it...
    I agree!
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    I'd only date a guy with a body count of 15+. Only the top hitmen for me thx. Annoying Ex's? No problem, he'll take care of them. Take care of them how, you ask? Nothing you can prove.
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    Quite important, I wouldn't be with somebody that's killed any less than 5 people.

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