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    My ex told me that she had wished I were more spontaneous with sex, the who kind of chuck her on the bed and have sex kind of thing. I had said that I didn't want to force or pressure her and that consent was important. She then said that if I did anything she didn't like she would have stopped me. I had thought that by the time she had said to stop I would already have committed sexual assault.

    Does anyone have any tips about how best to have spontaneous sex but not do anything untoward?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My ex told me that she had wished I were more spontaneous with sex, the who kind of chuck her on the bed and have sex kind of thing. I had said that I didn't want to force or pressure her and that consent was important. She then said that if I did anything she didn't like she would have stopped me. I had thought that by the time she had said to stop I would already have committed sexual assault.

    Does anyone have any tips about how best to have spontaneous sex but not do anything untoward?
    One word: CONSENT.
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    "untoward" who is this guy

    there is no "proper" way to mash at it spontaneously

    just randomly feel her up and seduce
    if she wants you to get rough get rough

    She's your ex now though
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    Nah thats effort lol.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My ex told me that she had wished I were more spontaneous with sex, the who kind of chuck her on the bed and have sex kind of thing. I had said that I didn't want to force or pressure her and that consent was important. She then said that if I did anything she didn't like she would have stopped me. I had thought that by the time she had said to stop I would already have committed sexual assault.

    Does anyone have any tips about how best to have spontaneous sex but not do anything untoward?
    Your dicks hard at that point and you're in the mood. And then she says no because she's not in the mood looool. So annoying being in that situation. That's why I always ask first.

    a quick, 'wanna shag?' is what I ask beforehand. Thats spontaneous enough for me lol.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My ex told me that she had wished I were more spontaneous with sex, the who kind of chuck her on the bed and have sex kind of thing. I had said that I didn't want to force or pressure her and that consent was important. She then said that if I did anything she didn't like she would have stopped me. I had thought that by the time she had said to stop I would already have committed sexual assault.

    Does anyone have any tips about how best to have spontaneous sex but not do anything untoward?
    This is what safe words are for.
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    Get the lotion out, massage her elbows then BAM! Hit her with the caboose killer which will instantly get her in the mood
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    Netflix and chill
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    Ask her if she wants to have some "coffee".
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    Be spontaneous.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My ex told me that she had wished I were more spontaneous with sex, the who kind of chuck her on the bed and have sex kind of thing. I had said that I didn't want to force or pressure her and that consent was important. She then said that if I did anything she didn't like she would have stopped me. I had thought that by the time she had said to stop I would already have committed sexual assault.

    Does anyone have any tips about how best to have spontaneous sex but not do anything untoward?
    Spontaneous sex seems to have shades of rape
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    (Original post by SGHD26716)
    Spontaneous sex seems to have shades of rape
    Yes, a bit like 'surprise sex'.
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    Yes, a bit like 'surprise sex'.
    Well that is why I was always like I was, consent every time - please don't insinuate I'm a rapist as that is what I spent the last year trying to prevent.
    Just wanted some advice about how to continue the consent but not ruin the mood because it seemed I wasn't doing it well.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well that is why I was always like I was, consent every time - please don't insinuate I'm a rapist as that is what I spent the last year trying to prevent.
    Just wanted some advice about how to continue the consent but not ruin the mood because it seemed I wasn't doing it well.
    There was no insinuation that you are a rapist - you're reading too much into it.
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