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Belongings of my ex boyfriend

Ok its been nearly four months since I broke up with a guy - it was a long distance break up so stuff he had lent me I never returned.

I moved house shortly afterwards and now am in the process of unpacking and there are a few things which he would be able to buy new ones of but I am thinking I should bung them in a box and post them of to him and if I want my own to buy them.

He hasn't asked for them but I think I should send them to him, what do you think?

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Reply 1
Send them
Reply 2
Hmm personally, it depends how you broke up and what terms you're on now..and how expensive/valuable the belongings are.

If you have more of a 'sour'ship than a friendship then try to think whether or not it will arise the past.


It's down to good thoughts to send them. Although I didn't give my ex's his belongings back heh but we ended on sour terms!
yeah I agree send them as a nice gesture
I think you should send them.
Reply 5
I asked my ex when he wanted his stuff.. he replied "keep it"
Cheers mate there over £50 worth of stuff there!

Yea send them it's a nice thing to do
Li Surf
Hmm personally, it depends how you broke up and what terms you're on now..and how expensive/valuable the belongings are.

If you have more of a 'sour'ship than a friendship then try to think whether or not it will arise the past.


It's down to good thoughts to send them. Although I didn't give my ex's his belongings back heh but we ended on sour terms!

I was unfaithful and he hasn't spoken to me since I confessed to him. It was a complete and utter mistake (not the confession part, the unfaithful part) and I know why he stopped all contact with me.
Reply 7
Then maybe he won't want to be reminded.
After 4 months hes probably written it off as a bad debt.
Reply 8
ebay
Reply 9
a_musical_gal
I was unfaithful and he hasn't spoken to me since I confessed to him. It was a complete and utter mistake (not the confession part, the unfaithful part) and I know why he stopped all contact with me.



Arg. I wouldn't send them to him now, not 4 months down the line. It'll probably upset both of you.
Reply 10
If they're worth much you should send them to him. If it's just a couple t-shirts or something, don't bother (charity shop maybe?).
spit_fire90
If they're worth much you should send them to him. If it's just a couple t-shirts or something, don't bother (charity shop maybe?).

A couple of playstation two games plus the guides (about £35 there) and a screwdriver set (probably about £15)

There are a few other things but without unpacking futher I couldn't say what.
Reply 12
Burn them, preferably on his front lawn!!!
Reply 13
I would send them. It's not a huge amount of money, but still I think it's a bit sore not to. He'd probs appreciate it.
sooty1230
Burn them, preferably on his front lawn!!!

Why? When it was all my fault.
Reply 15
a_musical_gal
A couple of playstation two games plus the guides (about £35 there) and a screwdriver set (probably about £15)

There are a few other things but without unpacking futher I couldn't say what.


A screwdriver set probably doesn't have the highest sentimental value. I'd say just mail them, it's a nice gesture.

Oh, and don't include a note or anything. That'd sting.
Reply 16
I'd send them. It being been four months, he shouldn't be too upset (hopefully) by the idea you're still out there and are mature enough to return his stuff.

a_musical_gal
I was unfaithful and he hasn't spoken to me since I confessed to him. It was a complete and utter mistake (not the confession part, the unfaithful part) and I know why he stopped all contact with me.


This makes me feel sad :frown: I'm too soft...
Reply 17
Send them my way :biggrin:
Well I got one or two things of my ex-girlfriends and she still has a couple things of mine she borrowed, I am really dreading having to give them back due to all the awkwardness but I know I have to give them back.
email him first and ask him.