Bit Depressed ATM

If your gonna De-Anon just delete it please...

Basically im feeling really down at the moment , My GF's gone out to a friends party somewhere tonight which im fine with but ive just never got anything to do.

It probably dosn't help that i have 2 jobs , one in the morning till dinner time , and one EVERY NIGHT at 8pm till bout 10pm which means i cant go out and do stuff coz i have to get back for work.

Even though we love each other very much and i have gone through everything with her ( even have tats about her on my body ) i just get the feeling that sometimes she dosn't want me to go out ETC.

She says she trusts me ETC and i believe she does but its just a bit weird.

Shes going out to her friends party tonight , and all of my best mates are going out to her best mates party ( who is also my friend , just not a very close one ) .
My GF told her friend that i wouldn't go to her party if she (my gf) wasn't there , so her friend says "Make him come after" , and my GF says things like "He wont want to , i know he wont want to come all that way after work"
and stuff like that.

But the thing is , i do want to go out and see my mates sometimes...
She's going to a lot of 18th's soon and i think if i kick up a fuss about it she will get in a piss.

But if it was the other way round i think she would get funny with me if i wanted to go somewhere without her. ( not that i wouldn't want her to come , just for example if it was some of my friends she didn't know )

Like how i wanted to go down town for my mates 18th , and even though i had work in the night she was still like " Nah don't go " " You've got work Anyway" and stuff like this.

Thinking of giving up my night job so i can go out more as its really depressing me at the moment , as all i do is work , come home and do nothing for about 5 hours (unless she's with me) ( or im walking her to work which i do A LOT ) then go to my other job , come home and sleep , and repeat. its killing me...

She says she wants me to quit my job so we can do more stuff ( go to cinema more and not worry bout getting back for 8) ETC but if i want to go out with mates down town , or bday parties ETC i don't know if shes gonna get pissy.

I guess the main point im making is she goes out and does stuff ( get drunk ETC at mates bdays ) with people i hardly know , what would she be like if i went out with people she hardly knows ( from past experience im thinking she will go mad ) sometimes she will even get funny if i go out with best mates who she knows if theres gonna be girls.

She seems to change the "rules" to suit her and if shes wrong she just completely denies being wrong.... ive heard her say sorry about twice in 2 years...

please chat i feel so **** :frown:

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

please anyone...

Reply 2

e-lover

Hey friend :smile:

Sorry to hear to about your bad time. 2 jobs can be tough on you. Is there no way you can re-negotiate your hours?

You just have to speak to your girlfriend about the Birthday issue and let her know you feel a little taken advantage of and calmly talk over it. Tell her that you've only ever heard her say sorry twice in 2 years and you feel neglected by her. If she loves you, she will help you. If not, get rid.

I know things are tough at the moment, but hang in there. Chin up and think tomorrow will be a new day with new opportunities and a chance to straighten things out with your girlfriend and cheer up a bit. :smile:

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

thanks a lot :smile:

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the one thing i hate most is not having the balls to talk to her about it because from past experiences ive confronted her and shes just got in a piss and says things like " whatever " " i dont do that " ETC
and gets in a piss with me and i end up worrying all day and end up saying sorry and apologising till she listens to me and stays pissy at me for a bit...
im just so scared of losing her or something.

Reply 4

e-lover

I'm sorry but she doesn't sound like a nice person. A girlfriend is supposed to be a companion. A partner you can rely and talk to and chat to about whatever, whenever. The fact that she doesn't even compromise is a bad sign.

She's treating you pretty bad mate. You need to sort it out or tell her to go. Your better without the "worrying all day" and "only to say sorry" when it may well be the case that your not even in the wrong!