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Still alone.
It's always hard to put feelings into words, both positive and negative. I've sat for ages deciding weather or not to post what I'm about to say. I can only apologize for wasting your time.
Nearly a year ago, I moved away from my parent (who I was very close to), my friends stayed at my home town or went to different universities, and the comfort of home was something of the past. The one person who kept me going was my girlfriend, who again, was at a different university. She was my closest friend, and I think that is what hurts most.
A month later, she tells me that it isn't working no more. Completely out of the blue, she decides to give up, to not even try work things out. She tells me this over the internet. A relationship of two years summed up in 30 seconds. I fall into deep depression, stop going to university, stopped socilising, stopped everything. It's a miracle I passed my first year.
Now it's a year on, and people believe I'm back to my old normal self. But I'm not. I no longer feel alive. I've made very very few friends in the last year at Uni because I fear rejection or being hurt by anyone, female or male. I have one good friend, who without, I can't say I'd be writing this right now.
I want to go back to how it all was. Waking up with the girl I felt so strongly about, my closest friend, the only one who has ever truely understood me.
I just don't know what to do with myself. I feel alone no matter who's around me. I don't think it's her I miss, but the feelings, and the happiness I felt when being with her. I want to be able to trust again and see that people out there are not purposefully trying to hurt one another.
But what can I do. I'm sorry this post couldn't be of a happier nature.
Nearly a year ago, I moved away from my parent (who I was very close to), my friends stayed at my home town or went to different universities, and the comfort of home was something of the past. The one person who kept me going was my girlfriend, who again, was at a different university. She was my closest friend, and I think that is what hurts most.
A month later, she tells me that it isn't working no more. Completely out of the blue, she decides to give up, to not even try work things out. She tells me this over the internet. A relationship of two years summed up in 30 seconds. I fall into deep depression, stop going to university, stopped socilising, stopped everything. It's a miracle I passed my first year.
Now it's a year on, and people believe I'm back to my old normal self. But I'm not. I no longer feel alive. I've made very very few friends in the last year at Uni because I fear rejection or being hurt by anyone, female or male. I have one good friend, who without, I can't say I'd be writing this right now.
I want to go back to how it all was. Waking up with the girl I felt so strongly about, my closest friend, the only one who has ever truely understood me.
I just don't know what to do with myself. I feel alone no matter who's around me. I don't think it's her I miss, but the feelings, and the happiness I felt when being with her. I want to be able to trust again and see that people out there are not purposefully trying to hurt one another.
But what can I do. I'm sorry this post couldn't be of a happier nature.
Sadly the fact that she wasn't prepared to work at your relationship suggests that she'd firmly decided that it was over, and unfair as it is when you are still in love with her, there is nothing that can be done to make her change her mind. You're pushing away others because you fear rejection but they could be the very people who can help you enjoy life again even if you can't see that now. Surround yourself with your family and friends and concentrate on making a new life for yourself at your university. Consider the fact that your ex is at another uni a bonus as it leaves you free to make a clean start. You managed to pass your first year despite the circumstances and without really trying. Just think what you could do if you actually tried. Best of luck x
Try not to be so independant on one/a few people.
Open your friend circle a bit and trust a few people so that if one leaves you don't feel so bad. It's always easier lying on a bed of pins that standing on one.
Build up your confidence and do things that make you happy rather than perhaps finding people that make you happy
Open your friend circle a bit and trust a few people so that if one leaves you don't feel so bad. It's always easier lying on a bed of pins that standing on one.
Build up your confidence and do things that make you happy rather than perhaps finding people that make you happy
Get a new hobby.
Um nah you're not.
Anonymous
But what can I do. I'm sorry this post couldn't be of a happier nature.
Um nah you're not.
Chances are, if it was meant to work out between you two, it would have. And you've gotta accept that before anything else is going to work. It sounds like a bit of a vicious circle - you're feeling down about this all, so you're not trying to move on as much as you could, so then you feel down about it...tell yourself that bit of your life is over. and you cant go through life with the attitude that you dont want involved cos u might get hurt.
Look on the bright side that u passed your first year of uni...you can do these things if you put your mind to it. Surround yourself with new people and don't be afraid to trust - everyone's had their heart broken a couple of times, you'll not be the only one afraid of it. but you cant keep clinging to what you had a while ago and being afraid in case it happens again.
cos what if it does work out the next time? think of what you'd be missing.
phew, essay over.
Look on the bright side that u passed your first year of uni...you can do these things if you put your mind to it. Surround yourself with new people and don't be afraid to trust - everyone's had their heart broken a couple of times, you'll not be the only one afraid of it. but you cant keep clinging to what you had a while ago and being afraid in case it happens again.
cos what if it does work out the next time? think of what you'd be missing.
phew, essay over.
J-Curve
You need to open up. I felt alone as well at one point but I started doing more activities. I'm doing three A-levels, going to the gym, starting Karaté and maybe even break-dancing. The fact of the matter is I don't want to spend one evening at home alone!
i know what your mean need get out the house more and get on and enjoy it!!
Anonymous
It's always hard to put feelings into words, both positive and negative. I've sat for ages deciding weather or not to post what I'm about to say. I can only apologize for wasting your time.
Nearly a year ago, I moved away from my parent (who I was very close to), my friends stayed at my home town or went to different universities, and the comfort of home was something of the past. The one person who kept me going was my girlfriend, who again, was at a different university. She was my closest friend, and I think that is what hurts most.
A month later, she tells me that it isn't working no more. Completely out of the blue, she decides to give up, to not even try work things out. She tells me this over the internet. A relationship of two years summed up in 30 seconds. I fall into deep depression, stop going to university, stopped socilising, stopped everything. It's a miracle I passed my first year.
Now it's a year on, and people believe I'm back to my old normal self. But I'm not. I no longer feel alive. I've made very very few friends in the last year at Uni because I fear rejection or being hurt by anyone, female or male. I have one good friend, who without, I can't say I'd be writing this right now.
I want to go back to how it all was. Waking up with the girl I felt so strongly about, my closest friend, the only one who has ever truely understood me.
I just don't know what to do with myself. I feel alone no matter who's around me. I don't think it's her I miss, but the feelings, and the happiness I felt when being with her. I want to be able to trust again and see that people out there are not purposefully trying to hurt one another.
But what can I do. I'm sorry this post couldn't be of a happier nature.
Nearly a year ago, I moved away from my parent (who I was very close to), my friends stayed at my home town or went to different universities, and the comfort of home was something of the past. The one person who kept me going was my girlfriend, who again, was at a different university. She was my closest friend, and I think that is what hurts most.
A month later, she tells me that it isn't working no more. Completely out of the blue, she decides to give up, to not even try work things out. She tells me this over the internet. A relationship of two years summed up in 30 seconds. I fall into deep depression, stop going to university, stopped socilising, stopped everything. It's a miracle I passed my first year.
Now it's a year on, and people believe I'm back to my old normal self. But I'm not. I no longer feel alive. I've made very very few friends in the last year at Uni because I fear rejection or being hurt by anyone, female or male. I have one good friend, who without, I can't say I'd be writing this right now.
I want to go back to how it all was. Waking up with the girl I felt so strongly about, my closest friend, the only one who has ever truely understood me.
I just don't know what to do with myself. I feel alone no matter who's around me. I don't think it's her I miss, but the feelings, and the happiness I felt when being with her. I want to be able to trust again and see that people out there are not purposefully trying to hurt one another.
But what can I do. I'm sorry this post couldn't be of a happier nature.
Youre not the only one going through this. I know its hard but you have to try and hang on in there, There will be lots of people you havent met yet that will bring happiness into your life. I appreciate the feelings you had for your ex but , sadly ,in this world , relationship breakdown is a process that few people manage to avoid.
good luck
OP, without meaning to offend you, have you considered the fact you may be depressed? You say that you no longer feel alive and you always feel alone, which just makes me wonder if you are. Perhaps go and talk to your GP. Counselling or something like cognitive behavioural therapy may help make you feel better. Good luck and PM me if you want to chat. x
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