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I'm just plainly stupid
Basically, my ex dumped me 8 months ago, he cheated on me...
Recently we've been on terms of speaking on Yahoo Messenger, he asked me how he could add me on Facebook, he knew for ages ago when we were in relationship that I had Facebook profile and he had as well but acted like he just joined Facebook
. So, we added each other..
I didn't declare any relation with him on Facebook like broke up but get along great ect...
He doesn't have many friends on there, 6 including me, and from the profile I could read the profile of a girl whom he dated before me and he claimed he hated her very much
they even have like : "dated too long that they were practically married " ( they dated for 8 months or so) and "broke up but still get along great ". And another girl : "hooked up, dated, lived together, etc". I feel extremely offended after reading that since maybe I'm just gonna be another girl on the list 
( he was my 1st boyfriend !)
I don't know what is on this guy's mind? The thing is we live far away from each other and its unlikely that we'll meet someday. He even asked my number since he lost all numbers, he remembered my old number which i dont even remember a digit, i gave him my new one, well, he hasn't texted me yet. I have no idea what is he planning for ? 
There's no need to text me cos he can send offline messages
I feel confused ans stupid, feel like I'm gonna be walked on over like a doormat again...
Sorry for my post since it seems not to go anywhere but I need some advice if someone has ever experienced with a jerk like this ?
Recently we've been on terms of speaking on Yahoo Messenger, he asked me how he could add me on Facebook, he knew for ages ago when we were in relationship that I had Facebook profile and he had as well but acted like he just joined Facebook
. So, we added each other..I didn't declare any relation with him on Facebook like broke up but get along great ect...
He doesn't have many friends on there, 6 including me, and from the profile I could read the profile of a girl whom he dated before me and he claimed he hated her very much
they even have like : "dated too long that they were practically married " ( they dated for 8 months or so) and "broke up but still get along great ". And another girl : "hooked up, dated, lived together, etc". I feel extremely offended after reading that since maybe I'm just gonna be another girl on the list ( he was my 1st boyfriend !)I don't know what is on this guy's mind? The thing is we live far away from each other and its unlikely that we'll meet someday. He even asked my number since he lost all numbers, he remembered my old number which i dont even remember a digit
, i gave him my new one, well, he hasn't texted me yet. I have no idea what is he planning for ? There's no need to text me cos he can send offline messagesI feel confused ans stupid, feel like I'm gonna be walked on over like a doormat again...
Sorry for my post since it seems not to go anywhere but I need some advice if someone has ever experienced with a jerk like this ?
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Just facebook as others have said, why would you want to go back to being walked over?
I'd say just delete him if you're worried he's going to mess you around again; it sounds like he's the one with the problem.
Doesn't it seem to be rude if I just delete him without any reason after 2 days ?
Just leave him on your friends list if you want, just be civil I guess. You aren't an idiot.
well just leave it & dont let him get close again. you could even not write back coz ur too busy with work or (if on phone) you have no credit.
& ur not stupid, just a lil confused - & everyone gets confused, especially bout relationships
& ur not stupid, just a lil confused - & everyone gets confused, especially bout relationships
Me and a girl worked together on a team, the "Abduct Maddie - Portugal Branch" team, during the Summer of 2007.
We weren't really. You are being stupid, but not for the reason you think.
We weren't really. You are being stupid, but not for the reason you think.
As most people are saying - just leave it. There's nothing really to it, he probably doesn't realise what he's done wrong (as stupid as he can be!). Just cut off ties with him and let it be.
Who cares if you delete him a couple of days after adding him? If he's freaking you out then you have every right to get rid of him
Who cares if you delete him a couple of days after adding him? If he's freaking you out then you have every right to get rid of him
Anonymous
Basically, my ex dumped me 8 months ago, he cheated on me...
Recently we've been on terms of speaking on Yahoo Messenger, he asked me how he could add me on Facebook, he knew for ages ago when we were in relationship that I had Facebook profile and he had as well but acted like he just joined Facebook . So, we added each other..
I didn't declare any relation with him on Facebook like broke up but get along great ect...
He doesn't have many friends on there, 6 including me, and from the profile I could read the profile of a girl whom he dated before me and he claimed he hated her very much they even have like : "dated too long that they were practically married " ( they dated for 8 months or so) and "broke up but still get along great ". And another girl : "hooked up, dated, lived together, etc". I feel extremely offended after reading that since maybe I'm just gonna be another girl on the list ( he was my 1st boyfriend !)
I don't know what is on this guy's mind? The thing is we live far away from each other and its unlikely that we'll meet someday. He even asked my number since he lost all numbers, he remembered my old number which i dont even remember a digit, i gave him my new one, well, he hasn't texted me yet. I have no idea what is he planning for ? There's no need to text me cos he can send offline messages
I feel confused ans stupid, feel like I'm gonna be walked on over like a doormat again...
Sorry for my post since it seems not to go anywhere but I need some advice if someone has ever experienced with a jerk like this ?
Recently we've been on terms of speaking on Yahoo Messenger, he asked me how he could add me on Facebook, he knew for ages ago when we were in relationship that I had Facebook profile and he had as well but acted like he just joined Facebook
. So, we added each other..I didn't declare any relation with him on Facebook like broke up but get along great ect...
He doesn't have many friends on there, 6 including me, and from the profile I could read the profile of a girl whom he dated before me and he claimed he hated her very much
they even have like : "dated too long that they were practically married " ( they dated for 8 months or so) and "broke up but still get along great ". And another girl : "hooked up, dated, lived together, etc". I feel extremely offended after reading that since maybe I'm just gonna be another girl on the list ( he was my 1st boyfriend !)I don't know what is on this guy's mind? The thing is we live far away from each other and its unlikely that we'll meet someday. He even asked my number since he lost all numbers, he remembered my old number which i dont even remember a digit
, i gave him my new one, well, he hasn't texted me yet. I have no idea what is he planning for ? There's no need to text me cos he can send offline messagesI feel confused ans stupid, feel like I'm gonna be walked on over like a doormat again...
Sorry for my post since it seems not to go anywhere but I need some advice if someone has ever experienced with a jerk like this ?
I'm really failing to see the issue . . .
Okay, so he dated girls before you. Did you know about this at the time? No need to feel offended that you are just another one on the list. What is he supposed to do when he breaks up with his first girl, say "I'd better not date anyone else in case they feel like just another one on my list"? Be realistic. If he didn't tell you about his previous partners, that is a little odd, and maybe something to feel odd about, but the relationship is over. Why bother investing emotions in this guy?
As for the asking for your number, why not? If you didn't want him to have it you needn't have given it to him. In fact, if you are worried about being "walk all over" then why are you getting into contact with him, adding him to facebook etc? Hardly makes sense. Just delete him from facebook and forget about him.
Maybe I have missed something, but that seems like the extent of the issue.
Sabira
Ur man needs to please his ego by having more people on his facebook. He is an ex for a reason. You can do better than worrying over that cheater's action plan and moves!
I think so as well
But does it sound rude if I delete him from my friends list w/o having any angry conversation ? I can put him into limited profile list but it will look too obvious because all he can see is my name and some small info details ?
This guy just drives me mad to be honest
After he dumped me, he claimed not to ever talk to me again then kept asking his friend how I was doing etc, then sent me offline messages wishing me would have good summer
...then asked my number but didn't text, now just disappears mysteriously on both Facebook and YMI just don't know what he's trying to do
All I need is a *******ing apology from him for the relationship but it seems he just acted like nothing ever happened !
Sabira
Ur man needs to please his ego by having more people on his facebook.
He has 6 people.
You can't read too much into Facebook. Plus, he is obviously a dick coz he cheated on you so do you even want people to think you had a lovely relationship that he obviously stopped caring about? Just forget it, don't bother deleting him coz it doesn't mean that you have to really be friends or anything else. I'm sure he cared about you, otherwise he wouldn't want to talk to you know, but don't allow him to get too close unless you're prepared to be hurt again!
Thanks all the posters so far
I shouldn't have read too much in Facebook but this guy is just a weird type of guy... I don't know what to say
I shouldn't have read too much in Facebook but this guy is just a weird type of guy... I don't know what to say
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