Fresher's week problems

hey lots of people have posted saying they're having rubbish fresher's week because they dont like clubbing and partying. this may sound really weird but im kind of having the opposite problem.

back home my friends and i are quite outgoing and love going out and dancing and having fun. here, my corridor mates are quite nice, but they're pretty quiet and dont go out that much. ive tried to meet people on my course, but the course has more than 300 people so its hard to get to know people, especially when the only time you have to bond is the five minutes before and after the lecture. i have three other people in my tutorial group and they are honestly the least friendly people i have ever known. ive never heard one of them speak, he only nods, and does his work. the other two are girls, and one is so shy she only smiles and says yes, and the other is not very nice - the first time i met her, she was declaring loudly that everyone here was a bitch.

i just feel kind of stunned because i thought people would be really outgoing and friendly and wanting to make friends. i have never had a problem making friends before, and im an outgoing, chatty person, who talks to everyone. but somehow here i feel like ive drawn the short straw. ive been going to clubs and societies in an attempt to make other friends, but people seem to go to them in groups, and then stick to these groups. i just dont know what to do. i desperately want a loud lovely group of friends like i do at home and its just not happening.

help? i feel so lonely! and im so scared that everyone else has already made friends!

Reply 1

noodles!

14

OMG I wanna live where you're living! My flatmates are right now blasting music and having some party. The walls are PAPER THIN and so I can't even consider going to sleep =/

That aside, go and talk to some of the quieter ones, it could be that they're being quiet because they're also not around their louder friends.

I wouldn't say that I have any new friends here yet. But at home with my friends I'm totally different with my friends. You should see our parties! The best. However I'm being totally quiet. But I'm sure once I make friends I'll be louder etc.

I really hope that made sense, I'm so TIRED!!

Reply 2

dobbs

17

Anonymous

help? i feel so lonely! and im so scared that everyone else has already made friends!

All I can say is wait, it's really the only advice that is there! You can't be expected to fall into the best group of friends straight away at Uni :smile:

If you are joining societies/clubs where people are going out in groups, all you need to do is get chatting to one or two people there and ask if you can come along (most of the time they should just invite you anyway!) and then you're sorted.

Try to get your friends who don't like going out to arrange to go to a university event or something. Even if they don't seem up for that sort of thing - just suggest that a big night out for you all would be a good idea? Especially if it's something at your Student Union where they can feel "safe" and drinks are cheap, etc. :smile:

Hope you start to enjoy it. What university are you at, by the way?

Reply 3

Sarahl89

15

OP try making friends with the quieter people, theyre probs just nervous & shy & wishing they could make friends to go party with rather than being off with you. i think i sometimes come across as quiet and people think i therefore enjoy just being quiet etc. or something :s-smilie:

but actually you may be surprised once you get chatting :smile:

also noodles... why dont you go join in the party then? :s-smilie:

how are you meant to make friends otherwise... theyll just think youre shutting yourself away & dont wanna make friends or have parties :s-smilie:

Reply 4

noodles!

14

Sarahl89

OP try making friends with the quieter people, theyre probs just nervous & shy & wishing they could make friends to go party with rather than being off with you. i think i sometimes come across as quiet and people think i therefore enjoy just being quiet etc. or something :s-smilie:

but actually you may be surprised once you get chatting :smile:

also noodles... why dont you go join in the party then? :s-smilie:

how are you meant to make friends otherwise... theyll just think youre shutting yourself away & dont wanna make friends or have parties :s-smilie:

well i did that on the first night, but never actually got invited out again. i physically got out of bed, got up and joined in, but never felt welcome since. and if im brutally honest i dont particularly like them =/

Reply 5

Saiming

Ouch, reading this suddenly got me worried about my future corridor-mates xD

Fresher's week problems

Related discussions

Articles for you