Difficult situation

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I broke up with my ex about 2 weeks ago, having gone out with her for 6 months. However about 3 months ago, whilst i was going out with her, i met this amazing girl. She was intelligent, sophisticated, and was ridiculously attractive. I got talking to her, and realized she was the one i was supposed to be with. From then on my relationship with my ex started to go downhill. This girl wanted me to end it with my ex, however i didn't ( something i regret HUGELY). I subsequently lost contact with that girl.
Now that i finally ended it with my ex, i have started speaking to this girl again. However i think she feels i am only speaking to her because i broke up with my ex, and therefore looking for some action on the rebound. However this couldn't be further from the truth.
Should i just explain this to her, saying that i genuinely am interested in her and always was, even if theres a risk she doesn't feel the same? Or have i screwed it up and just move on.
Please don't reply if your just going to say well its your own fault. I know this, but its in the past and nothing can be done.
All i want is her...

Reply 1

dh00001

tell her you always liked her. and due to being in a relationship you didnt do anything because its not like you etc.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

how can i expect her just to come running back though, even after she asked me to end it with my ex? I feel awkward putting her in that situation because i respect her so much.

Reply 3

dh00001

you cant. its a choice you make. you could risk it and loose her or keep her and never find out or risk it and get her.
its up to you really

Reply 4

dobbs

Anonymous

how can i expect her just to come running back though, even after she asked me to end it with my ex? I feel awkward putting her in that situation because i respect her so much.

What actually happened between you two when you were still with your ex? I think for a girl who you've just been "talking to" to ask you to split up with your ex has got to have some pretty messed up ideals.

Not that I encourage or support cheating, but if you had been seeing this girl behind your ex's back then I could see why she'd ask you to split up with your ex as something serious had begun.

Anyway, don't feel bad that she had asked you to end it with your ex, all you have to say is that you weren't sure how you felt and it was an unusual situation to be put in. Don't seem desperate - put it across that you'd like to see how things between you two go and that if she would like some more time before you both get into a relationship to show that it's not just you on the rebound then that's cool with you. If you tell her that she might feel happier about what you're telling her :smile:

Reply 5

Mikemaria

i guess you will have to try and tell her how you feeland then just hope for the best. You have to accept that sometimes there are things you want that you just cant have. She probably wont be the last girl that you are crazy for but thats not available to you. This life om afraid. take care and stay happy