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I've been thinking about this too. I'm in a situation where my boyfriend and I both love each other very much, but just don't know whether we're really compatible as a couple (if that makes sense...)

He did something in the past that really hurt me and I guess I'm not really ever going to get over it. Thats just one of our problems.

We're also in a long distance relationship (I'm in my first year at uni) and we've been finding it hard. I know he loves me, but he just lacks the motivation to keep in contact properly. When we're together everything is fine, but the lack of contact has caused a lot of arguments in the last few weeks.

Basically, I dont know whether to just end it (despite loving eachother) and continue to be best friends or keep going with it and hope things eventually improve.

Pah, I doubt this even makes sense lol
Reply 2
When you've given up wanting to make it work. No matter how bad it seems, most relationships could be worked out. But if you stop caring then its over.
when these words are said
"**** off and leave me alone, i never wanna see u again"
I think a realtionship would be over for me if I stopped caring about the other person. So if I stopped thinking about them, or wondering what they were doing, or hoping they were having fun, worrying about them- things like that, then thats when I think there would be no point in even trying to save the realtionship anymore.
Yeah when you stop wanting it to work and all the sentences become I instead of we.
Reply 6
When you have a restraining order placed upon yourself.
when the spark has gone and its not retrievable, seeing as your both a long way away then maybe a break is good, will give you the chance to enjoy uni more!
Reply 8
its when you have to wonder if its over and not worth trying.
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We're also in a long distance relationship (I'm in my first year at uni) and we've been finding it hard. I know he loves me, but he just lacks the motivation to keep in contact properly. When we're together everything is fine, but the lack of contact has caused a lot of arguments in the last few weeks.



In the same situation except im left at home. He's just finished freshers week and was pretty hurt by his complete lack of willing to try and stay in touch. We haven't broken up but he is 'confused' as to what he wants. Do i stick it out as i really love him (and know that before uni...a mere week ago we were planning our holiday next year and he'd invited me away with his parets again) or break it up with him as i can only see it ending in (my) tears and heartbreak.

Has anyone been in the same situation, with it getting better when things settle down? Im just so scared and dont want to loose him. I know i probs sound like a loser but i dont really care! Id rather be honest.

Thanks, K-G x