Scared of being at home

Well I have just started uni, it's been great so far. But there is a few things that are worrying me. I am living in halls, and to be honest I prefer living in my room on Campus, than going back on the weekends. My home is just really an upsetting place to go home to, my family don't have enough money to decorate the house. I don't hate my mother or my sister, so it's not them thats upsetting me. It's just that I feel so bad about comming back for just one day. I have been living on campus for just a little bit over a week now. I feel my like my room is my place now, and home doesn't feel like home. Like right now I just want to get back to my room instead of being back at home. Is this right for me to be feeling this way?

Please don't remove the anonymous on this post, someone I know uses this forum.

Reply 1

Angrybanana

Do you absolutely have to go home? Just tell your mum you'll ring her lots and have lots of work to do so have to get it done at the weekends.

Reply 2

randomreg

Yeah, it's great that you're already calling your halls your home. It's the way it should be (in my opinion)! Unless you have to go home at weekends for some reason, I'd actively promote staying in halls over weekends. Some people even stay on campus during the holidays too. I would have done that myself if I hadn't been in a long-distance relationship at the time!

Reply 3

*Lou*

Last year (when it was my first year at college) i could say i had similar issue, i didn't want to go home, but because it was my family that was upsetting me, I was going back to an empty house, no-one really cared about actually being at home, spending time together and you know,, random stuff that family usually does.
Anyway, i don't think you should absolutely go home every weekend, but i think it it would be nice if you would go home every once in a while (you didn't mention the distance between ur home and college?), at least for holidays - cause as you said, it's not the problem in your mom or sister and at least for holidays you should be together. I don't know why everyone are so "against" going home for weekends/holidays, I mean.. those are your parents, and if you are so lucky and you DO get along and have a nice relationship then there is no reason for you staying on campus.

Reply 4

chaywa

Don't disown your parents on a constant basis but ultimately do what feels right for you when the need presents itself.

Also a lick of paint can do wonders as far as aesthetics go...

Reply 5

devilsthorn

Staying on campus saves travelling costs. You even get free internet!

Does anyone know how to cook with one hand only? Lol.

Reply 6

hippieglitter

Seems normal to me. There is nothing wrong with my parents place but after a few weeks living away at uni in halls or here in my student house that's exactly what it is, my parents place, i don't think of it as my home anymore, this is my home, in Plymouth, with my mates. If you are anything like me you will feel like that now, but by about April or May you will be sick to the teeth of work and people and uni and will be dying to go back.