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What to talk about on dates?

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Is it bad to talk about yourself too much? Because of the constant use of 'I' in the conversations which could be rude and the other person may not be that interested in your past experiences.

Reply 1

bright star

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if talking on a date's awkward, i'd have a serious think about whether i wanted to be on a date with this person again.... imo it should jus flow....

Reply 2

Germi

OP

bright star

if talking on a date's awkward, i'd have a serious think about whether i wanted to be on a date with this person again.... imo it should jus flow....

Good point. The biggest trouble is thinking too much and reading too much into it.

Reply 3

RaulS1987

Ease the tension by not labeling it as an official date where you have to impress the girl and show her how perfect you are for her. Just go out with her like a friend. That's how it always ends up for me anyway, you get a long well with somebody so you decide to go out and have fun and it grows from there.

Don't think. I like that girl. So now I have to make my move and propose a date to her. Just let it flow and ask if they want to do something etc. :wink:

Then you just talk like you always talk to people. If you tend to talk a lot about yourself its who you are. I tend to talk a lot about myself with new people here but thats simply because my situation is a lot different, as I am in Australia since a few months and have a lot of funny experiences etc.
Its just making conversation at that point. I dont think the problem is talking about YOURSELF but not giving the OTHER person a CHANCE to talk about THEM. Once you've talked about something relating to yourself just keep a bit of silence (dont drop quiet all of a sudden in the middle of a conversation :tongue:

) and see if they start talking. If they don't and you find the silence uncomfortable you can bring up another subject yourself :smile:

They will probably find that silence uncomfortable in the beginning as well and will be glad to talk about something (providing YOU are an INTERESTING person hehe)

Just my 2 cents, im no date-expert or hitch by all means :wink:

Reply 4

Germi

OP

Actually I talked a lot about myself because I was afraid there wasn't much else to talk about as she is fairly quiet just like me.

Reply 5

thegreatprocrastinator

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A quote from the film, 'She's the man:' Do you like cheese?

Perfect date question.

Reply 6

RaulS1987

It's normal to talk about yourself in the beginning I reckon. You gotta know what peoples interests and dislikes are before you can actually have real conversations about everything and nothing :smile:

Like I said as long as you gave her the oppertunity to talk if she wanted too than she is probably pretty relieved that you talked and didn't sit next to each other quietly :smile:

Reply 7

hippieglitter

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If she is quiet and you don't think she will say much of her own accord, ask her questions. Say something about you then ask her something related about herself, for example if you're telling her about what kind of music you like finish by saying 'what about you?' and that will indicate that you want her to tell you what kind of music she likes. If you are comfortable enough to go on a date with somebody you should be able to talk about anything. I'm not a very chatty person but on a sort of first date with my ex we talked til 2in the morning.

Reply 8

jumpinglunch

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Anything.........just find stuff you both share in common.

Reply 9

BluesMan

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Talk about exploding pandas

Reply 10

El Dorado

It always makes me slightly uneasy, this "if you and your partner are right for each other you'll be able to talk about anything..." - my girlfriend and I are both known to be 'big-talkers' when with friends, etc, and yet when we're together we don't talk lots and lots... in fact only when absolutely necessary, to be honest. I've never considered it a problem- its not like any silences are awkward, they're comfortable, since we're both the type of people who will talk mostly in response to a visual stimulus and don't like thinking on our feet.

But maybe it SHOULD worry me?

Reply 11

bright star

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i didn't necessarily mean you need to talk all the time, however, if you're not enjoying yourself then what's the point.... i never have and don't kno that i ever would go out with someone that i didn't feel i could talk to until the end of time tho.... maybe that's jus me tho!

Walnuts?

How subsidy reform has led to unrest in the Middle-East.

Reply 14

Pedin

I find jokes help....... Lots of jokes. About anything. Make a joke about a random thing and then the conversation can start from there. Jokes about Panda's for example can lead onto a conversation about pretty much anything

Reply 15

20083

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Pedin

I find jokes help....... Lots of jokes. About anything. Make a joke about a random thing and then the conversation can start from there. Jokes about Panda's for example can lead onto a conversation about pretty much anything

Can a joke about a panda lead into a conversation about which cheese goes best with which wine, when you are wearing a certain type of shoe?

Reply 16

Pedin

Nessyfencer

Can a joke about a panda lead into a conversation about which cheese goes best with which wine, when you are wearing a certain type of shoe?

Yes, Panda joke leads to animals, leads to cow, leads to both dairy produce and the leather industry

:smile:

Reply 17

20083

2

Pedin

Yes, Panda joke leads to animals, leads to cow, leads to both dairy produce and the leather industry

:smile:

lol, ace!

Reply 18

castroneves

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Fluent in Lies

How subsidy reform has led to unrest in the Middle-East.

you beat me to it :p:

Alternatively discuss the best routes from Margate to Morcombe and which roads to avoid lol

Reply 19

Pedin

Nessyfencer

lol, ace!

I know, gotta love Panda based conversations though this is going slightly off topic so another piece of advice from me, the guy who has never had a girlfriend *geeky two thumbs up* would be to jokingly take the piss out of something she does and make it blatently obvious its a joke, smile and wink afterwards or you risk having your testes pierced by the heel of a stilletto............. Women still wear those right?

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