I joined an online dating app two weeks ago haha, put a few pics of myself up and filled up my bio which tbf was pretty detailed.
Anyway I got a message out of the blue from this guy, not unusual ofc, but he lived like 5 hrs away (on the other side of the UK) which I found odd. He only had one pic up, a black and white one of his abs (no face or anything). When I went to his profile it isn't filled out like he was actually looking for anything just a load of random stuff about him. Nothing about the girl he wants at all and apparently he's open to chatting to girls from everywhere. When I asked him about the difference he said we could be penpals lol..?!
We've been talkin about stuff we have in common like both being Spurs fans and we DO have great chemistry.. but he also let it slip many times that he was "a fan of BDSM." Now I'm not and nothin in my profile indicates that.. but this seems like a big redflag to me, to be messaging a girl so far away (I am also average looking), and then seems like he's targeting women for BDSM purposes. He has said some creepy things to me or at least overprotective like he "insists on physical affection" (albeit with winky emoticons). And he asked if I was on KIK which is an app for teenagers (apparently he's in his 20s like me..)
Is the fact he has no proper pics up, doesn't seem to be actually looking for anything proper even with women from his area and says creepy stuff enough of a red flag? Apart from that he seems almost TOO nice sometimes like he's gushing over me and agreeing with everythin I say, he did this almost straight away and idk about guys who move too fast! Already started saying stuff like "I wish you were here with me" lol.