How do you get over a breakup?

I just experienced my first breakup and I'm struggling to find meaning in life again. :frown:

Reply 1

14

It takes a lot of time, my friend. I feel you.

Be kind to yourself, cut off contact with your ex, and focus on what you enjoy doing. PM me if you want to chat. :smile:

We're here for you!

Reply 2

username155270

15

Start talking to other people

Reply 3

Jirga

2

Original post by xobeauty

Start talking to other people

what else?

Reply 4

Kiri_Royale

OP

I should probably mention that I was broken up with a couple of weeks ago and he informed me yesterday that he is dating someone else. Even though we were in a long term relationship....

Reply 5

cheesecakelove

20

My first break up came out of the blue. In the hours that followed, I felt an emptiness in my life. I resolved to find a way to move on. First that meant staying in my room and crying, thinking about what I could have done better. Then I thought I have to forget this way, it is history now, focus on my happiness. I did things that made me happy...favourite food, watching favourite TV, hanging out with friends. Although it still hurt from time to time, doing different things and keeping myself busy took my mind from dwelling on him. And I guess with time, your heart recovers and you move on.

Reply 6

Kiri_Royale

OP

Original post by wolf harris

he is jelly and a loser the girl is probably banging someone else now

If you're talking about me then I should inform you that I am a woman.

Reply 7

wolf harris

Original post by Kiri_Royale

If you're talking about me then I should inform you that I am a woman.

well he is probably inserting his D inside another girls vagina as we speak too bad

Reply 8

TheEngineer12345

11

Time heals all wounds. You need to accept that you will be hurting for a while, you need to understand that it does take time to adapt, but dont force yourself to move on in one day. I was in a serious relationship, i thought i would be marrying this girl some day. we would talk about kids and our future etc. a year and a half into our relationship she dumped me and cut me off completely because i got into an argument with her friend and her friend said if she dont cut me off she wont be friends with her anymore. so it was me or her basically. I was hurt and i didnt see how i could live without her because my life and future was built with her in the middle of it. but soon you look back and wonder what was all the emotion about.

Be prepared because initially, everything that happens will remind you of them, and you will have memory flashbacks but these fade away with time untill you dont give af anymore.

just give yourself time my friend. your just a human, what your feeling is normal. but as with all tragedies and deaths and breakups and murders etc, at some point our human body stops producing as much sorrow chemicals and we can get back on our feet.

This time next year this breakup will just be a distant memory

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Theres not much you can do yourself. you just have to wait it out. have a few undisturbed cry sessions to just get it all out. And DO NOT talk to him. block his number and avoid seeing him around. Go gym and get sexier and it will definetly make you feel better tho. i love to flex subtly infront of my ex and look at the regret on her face :u:

Reply 10

TheEngineer12345

11

Your growing up. We've all been dumped at some point. And will all probably dump at some point. Its just the process you have to go through to find what your looking for. Tip, guys generally dont get serious about women untill about 20 so thats a good age to start getting serious. untill then dont expect a husband out of your school or college boyfriend

Reply 11

Kiri_Royale

OP

Original post by TheEngineer12345

Time heals all wounds. You need to accept that you will be hurting for a while, you need to understand that it does take time to adapt, but dont force yourself to move on in one day. I was in a serious relationship, i thought i would be marrying this girl some day. we would talk about kids and our future etc. a year and a half into our relationship she dumped me and cut me off completely because i got into an argument with her friend and her friend said if she dont cut me off she wont be friends with her anymore. so it was me or her basically. I was hurt and i didnt see how i could live without her because my life and future was built with her in the middle of it. but soon you look back and wonder what was all the emotion about.

Be prepared because initially, everything that happens will remind you of them, and you will have memory flashbacks but these fade away with time untill you dont give af anymore.

just give yourself time my friend. your just a human, what your feeling is normal. but as with all tragedies and deaths and breakups and murders etc, at some point our human body stops producing as much sorrow chemicals and we can get back on our feet.

This time next year this breakup will just be a distant memory

I'm so sorry that happened to you. :frown:

How long did it take for you to get over it?

Reply 12

BlindingLight

21

Original post by TheEngineer12345

Time heals all wounds. You need to accept that you will be hurting for a while, you need to understand that it does take time to adapt, but dont force yourself to move on in one day. I was in a serious relationship, i thought i would be marrying this girl some day. we would talk about kids and our future etc. a year and a half into our relationship she dumped me and cut me off completely because i got into an argument with her friend and her friend said if she dont cut me off she wont be friends with her anymore. so it was me or her basically. I was hurt and i didnt see how i could live without her because my life and future was built with her in the middle of it. but soon you look back and wonder what was all the emotion about.

Be prepared because initially, everything that happens will remind you of them, and you will have memory flashbacks but these fade away with time untill you dont give af anymore.

just give yourself time my friend. your just a human, what your feeling is normal. but as with all tragedies and deaths and breakups and murders etc, at some point our human body stops producing as much sorrow chemicals and we can get back on our feet.

This time next year this breakup will just be a distant memory

Feels bad man

Reply 13

blue900

13

Original post by TheEngineer12345

Time heals all wounds. You need to accept that you will be hurting for a while, you need to understand that it does take time to adapt, but dont force yourself to move on in one day. I was in a serious relationship, i thought i would be marrying this girl some day. we would talk about kids and our future etc. a year and a half into our relationship she dumped me and cut me off completely because i got into an argument with her friend and her friend said if she dont cut me off she wont be friends with her anymore. so it was me or her basically. I was hurt and i didnt see how i could live without her because my life and future was built with her in the middle of it. but soon you look back and wonder what was all the emotion about.

Be prepared because initially, everything that happens will remind you of them, and you will have memory flashbacks but these fade away with time untill you dont give af anymore.

just give yourself time my friend. your just a human, what your feeling is normal. but as with all tragedies and deaths and breakups and murders etc, at some point our human body stops producing as much sorrow chemicals and we can get back on our feet.

This time next year this breakup will just be a distant memory

This is the grieving process. Psychology its grieving which is the same as losing someone. Only with time people move on. It must of taken you at least over a year to forget about her.

Reply 14

username1842595

6

it took me a year to get over my ex properly before i could fully date again. it just takes time.

Reply 15

Kiri_Royale

OP

Original post by Fermion.

it took me a year to get over my ex properly before i could fully date again. it just takes time.

I was hoping to get over him in a few weeks since exams are next week. :frown:

Reply 16

blue900

13

Original post by Kiri_Royale

I was hoping to get over him in a few weeks since exams are next week. :frown:

Unfortunately the human mind is not made like that. If you lost a family member, it would be the same feeling.

What you need to do is just break contact and keep yourself busy.

Accept that you will be sad every day for a long time.

Just study and focus on your exams.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

Realistically, about 4-6 months to fully get over it. When you finally get over it trust me, you become 10x stronger. Like nothing really will make you feel sad. Your just happy by default. Like seriously you become that posotive guy/girl that everyone asks for advice and they ask you all the time how are you always so happy. Not knowing that you now know how to live because you know what it is like to loose everything

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

took me about 6 months to fully get over it

Reply 19

TheEngineer12345

11

Took me about 6-8 months

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