Ex-Boyfriend

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I had been going out with my boyfriend for a year. We had had a couple of ups and downs and then because things weren't working out we started getting snappy with each other. I assumed it was just another bad patch but my boyfriend took it more seriously than me. Rather than trying to save the relationship he suggested breaking up to hopefully save our friendship. So thats what happened. It was really hard for me at the time because it was the beginning of the summer holidays and I had no one around me to help get through this. We carried on talking on a fairly daily basis (texting and msn) but this slowly faded out. We do talk maybe once or twice a week (on msn) but obviously its not the same. When we do talk its like we're strangers.

The strange thing is its been two months and I still think about him so much. It was always him that was so much more into our relationship than I was but yet he seems to have forgotten about it all so quickly. I understand that if we want to move on we should stop talking. I just don't understand why I'm finding it so hard. Obviously I did like him a lot and while we were going out but I can remember getting annoyed about things with our relationship a lot and I was never really that fussed about what went on. I guess its because I always had the reassurance that he would never give up but now he has given up and I really don't know what to do. We had honestly thought that we were going to be together forever and it was obvious that we were being too naive about it. I know its probably best that we're not together as it obviously didn't work out but I'm having a really hard time convincing myself that. It doesn't help that this is the time when I'm meant to be concentrating on my UCAS application and I can't seem to concentrate on it.

I wish there was a good enough reason for us to break up but there just wasn't a solid reason. If we'd had an argument about something and were mad at each other I think it would have made it easier to forget about him. I really need some help about what I can do to take my mind off him as everything I do doesn't seem to work. I don;t have many friends around as they don't live near by. After school I just watch TV or go on the computer. And at weekends I just tend to stay at home. I know this is a long post and I appreciate anyone who has read through it.

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Reply 1

lincs_b

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From what you've said I think it may have been an excuse to split up with you and he'd been thinking about it for awhile. Sometimes I think we all miss the familuarity of a relationship rather than the other person in it. Concentrate on yourself and good luck for the future.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

I've thought that he may have planned it but it doesn't make sense to me because he was always the one that promised never to give up and that we would (and he especially would) always make our relationship work for us.

To be honest- deep down I always knew we weren't truly right for each other but I like you said I liked the familiarity of the relationship. It just so tough to forget it all so quickly... like he seems to have done. And it really hurts to think that he was planning it but then at the same time it hurts even more than it may not have been planned and he could through it all away without giving it too much thought.

I feel like such a loser that two months down the line i'm still hung up over him. I'm really put off relationships now but I just can't seem to get this out of my mind.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

I've thought that he may have planned it but it doesn't make sense to me because he was always the one that promised never to give up and that we would (and he especially would) always make our relationship work for us.

I said a similar thing to my ex-girlfriend about a month before splitting up with her. In fact, when we had a "serious discussion" I had wanted to split up with her but it was so hard to (I didn't have a good reason except that it just "didn't feel right") and when I went around to talk about it and hopefully come out not in the relationship anymore, somehow I turned it into strengthening our relationship even more and saying that I hoped we would make our relationship work.

As I say, about a month later I made it obvious to her that I wasn't enjoying it, she picked up the signs. We split up :redface:

Ex-Boyfriend

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