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Planning to ask a friend out on her birthday and what to get her

theres this girl that started in my college since september. I'm on my second year of college. I already knew her bk in high school although we didnt really speak to each other much since her cousin is my really good mate.

Well since college has started.. we've been pretty close together, we hang around with other friends together and we can just chat about loads of stuff when we're alone on our free periods too. I've recently started to like her more and more.. not just as a friend but a gf/bf type. she's got a really nice personality and she's really good looking too... she knows i like her more than a friend, and i'm thinking she has feelings for me too and i know she's single!

The thing is... i'm not too sure how to ask her out. its her birthday next week and i'm planning on buying her a nice pressie and then ask if she could 'be mine'. Any ideas on what i can do on her birthday? should i like buy a rose or something ? and how do you think i should proceed in 'asking her out' ? :s-smilie:

sorry its my first time asking someone out for real lol.

Reply 1

BabyGirl

My best friend liked this girl, on her 16th birthday he asked her out. He was abit useless so I went and bought a rose and gave it to him to give to her. She liked it, but it depends on each girl?
I don't think a present is necessary personally, but it does depend on how close you are etc.

And to ask her out, just be honest and straightforward. Tell her you like her straight out and you'd maybe like to go out on a date, and take it from there! Be confident and calm, good luck sweetpea!

Reply 2

Dionysus

Nobody's 'asked someone out' as a formal process since about 1982 :biggrin:

Just say 'shall we go for a drink/meal/to the cinema' etc. It's not that difficult really. Good luck.

Reply 3

Megatronix

If you're over 18 ask her if she wants to go for a drink some time. If you're under ask if she wants to go to the cinema or something. Make sure it's a film she'll like, doesn't matter whether you do or not :P If she has a good time she'll want to do it again.

Or just tell it to her straight that you like her and if she wants to go out some time.

Don't say you want to be her boyfriend or you want her to be your girlfriend or any other signs of owning one another.

Be cool, look at her straight in the eyes.

Reply 4

dumbdunc

Dionysus

Nobody's 'asked someone out' as a formal process since about 1982 :biggrin:

Just say 'shall we go for a drink/meal/to the cinema' etc. It's not that difficult really. Good luck.

Haha yeah. But don't sound to casual and off hand if you're mates already or you might randomly have a friend of hers calling you at half one in the morning to ask if you were asking her "out" or just as friends.

Lol. That was funny day =P

Reply 5

Sephrenia

I owuld go for a rose =)

I was asked out formally-ish. There was the question 'Will you go out with me?' during scrubs :p:

Reply 6

Wangers

whats really formal? like asking the 'rents before?

Reply 7

jumpinglunch

Erm maybe another day? If she says no,it will ruin your day and more importantly her birthday...........

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Thanks for the replies! what colour rose do you's think i should get her...? Well i was thinking the present was just a normal birthday present where as the rose is the 'asking her out' bit lol.

I'm getting a strong feeling that she does like me too.. so hopefully i'm not wrong. i don't mind it ruining my day but i certainly dun want to ruin her birthday...

Reply 9

yellow96

Anonymous

Thanks for the replies! what colour rose do you's think i should get her...?

Red. Don't ask her on her birthday. Either she'll be all wound up with excitement and say yes without thinking, or she'll have been upset by something or other (birthday tradition) and will say no without thinking about it. If you want to ask her to be your girlfriend without actually saying so, you could wait until the day after her birthday. Give her the rose and say you didn't want to hijack her birthday, but would she like to go out some time.

Reply 10

*Katie*

If she's the kind of girl that'd like a rose, then go for that. I'd much prefer a bunch - I never know what to do with one - stick it in my back pocket?

Go for the day before. Then you can wish her a happy b'day at midnight with a kiss.
Dear Lord, that was a bit romantic for me.

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