To wait or not to wait?

Tricky one. Basically my (ex of 2 days) girlfriend and I reluctantly agreed that we needed some space apart after a very stressful 2 months. We've both said we love each other and that our feelings haven't changed for one another, but she just can't be in a relationship at the moment, and she didnt think it was fair on me with uni aswell, and I know she's right. We've agreed that we're both not or will be interested in other people, and that she wants me as her best friend because she can't live without me. This is tricky because I can't be her friend, and not look at her every day and think of the amazing times we had, which were plenty because she is really special and we clicked amazingly.

So I put forward to her, that I was willing to wait, whether it be 1 month, 6 months, a year etc., do you think this is healthy? and has anyone been in this situation before?

Reply 1

dh00001

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i would suggest distancing yourselves for a while. so you can both get your heads around things. else, in my opinion, you will be stuck in a limbo of wondering if youre over or just slightly appart or what.

Reply 2

Mikemaria

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Tricky one. Basically my (ex of 2 days) girlfriend and I reluctantly agreed that we needed some space apart after a very stressful 2 months. We've both said we love each other and that our feelings haven't changed for one another, but she just can't be in a relationship at the moment, and she didnt think it was fair on me with uni aswell, and I know she's right. We've agreed that we're both not or will be interested in other people, and that she wants me as her best friend because she can't live without me. This is tricky because I can't be her friend, and not look at her every day and think of the amazing times we had, which were plenty because she is really special and we clicked amazingly.

So I put forward to her, that I was willing to wait, whether it be 1 month, 6 months, a year etc., do you think this is healthy? and has anyone been in this situation before?

Lots of people are in this same situation , Idont think anyone can really tell you whats best because it's your choice at the end of the day

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Anonymous #1

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Mikemaria

Lots of people are in this same situation , Idont think anyone can really tell you whats best because it's your choice at the end of the day

Yeah and it's something I want to do because in my mind she's too good to give up. If she said she didnt love me anymore, then fair enough I'd back away, but with comments such as "you are the only person i've ever wanted" and "my heart will always be yours" amongst others, I'm not willing to give up.

I guess I'm just looking to find out whether this is a cardinal sin of relationships, or whether someone has been in the same situation and it's worked, or it's been a disaster

To wait or not to wait?

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