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She's ruining my life.
I get on well with all 3 of my housemates at uni, and yeah I know people aren't going to get on all the time.
But one girl in particular, is doing her best to make my life hell, competing with me it seems, for my boyfriend's attention, flirting with him like I'm not there (she only flirts when I'm around) and is just too keen for us to break up.
I've spoken to her about it before, but she claims she doesn't mean anything by it, its just the way she is: friendly. But its getting too much and I can see right through her. I'm not the only one she's pissing off, she has her ways of getting at the other two girls in the house, and it feels like she's doing it for attention.
Sure she's had a tough past, but so have I, I don't go round telling people I've just met, my whole life story!
I thought she'd calm down last week, because she had her boyfriend down for the week. How wrong could I be...my boyfriend wanted to see a photo she had of him from last year on her computer...she told him to come in...despite being in just her underwear, having been in the middle of sex- her boyfriend was naked under the covers for god sake! It didn't matter that I was shouting at my boyfriend cos I'd just spent ages cooking him dinner and it was going cold. On another occassion a couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend was sitting next to me on the floor, I was trying to have a conversation with him about my apparent depression...and she just came and sat next to him, making him look through the ann summers catalogue with her! They didn't even notice I had gone out the room!
There's so much going on, and I need to talk to her (Im planning to today) but I just feel like shes going to break down and use her past as an excuse. I can't deal with that. I want her to realise what she's doing, she's making me feel like a nothing. But I have the fact that I'm living with her for a year.
But one girl in particular, is doing her best to make my life hell, competing with me it seems, for my boyfriend's attention, flirting with him like I'm not there (she only flirts when I'm around) and is just too keen for us to break up.
I've spoken to her about it before, but she claims she doesn't mean anything by it, its just the way she is: friendly. But its getting too much and I can see right through her. I'm not the only one she's pissing off, she has her ways of getting at the other two girls in the house, and it feels like she's doing it for attention.
Sure she's had a tough past, but so have I, I don't go round telling people I've just met, my whole life story!
I thought she'd calm down last week, because she had her boyfriend down for the week. How wrong could I be...my boyfriend wanted to see a photo she had of him from last year on her computer...she told him to come in...despite being in just her underwear, having been in the middle of sex- her boyfriend was naked under the covers for god sake! It didn't matter that I was shouting at my boyfriend cos I'd just spent ages cooking him dinner and it was going cold. On another occassion a couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend was sitting next to me on the floor, I was trying to have a conversation with him about my apparent depression...and she just came and sat next to him, making him look through the ann summers catalogue with her! They didn't even notice I had gone out the room!
There's so much going on, and I need to talk to her (Im planning to today) but I just feel like shes going to break down and use her past as an excuse. I can't deal with that. I want her to realise what she's doing, she's making me feel like a nothing. But I have the fact that I'm living with her for a year.
*starry_eyed_*
I get on well with all 3 of my housemates at uni, and yeah I know people aren't going to get on all the time.
But one girl in particular, is doing her best to make my life hell, competing with me it seems, for my boyfriend's attention, flirting with him like I'm not there (she only flirts when I'm around) and is just too keen for us to break up.
I've spoken to her about it before, but she claims she doesn't mean anything by it, its just the way she is: friendly. But its getting too much and I can see right through her. I'm not the only one she's pissing off, she has her ways of getting at the other two girls in the house, and it feels like she's doing it for attention.
Sure she's had a tough past, but so have I, I don't go round telling people I've just met, my whole life story!
I thought she'd calm down last week, because she had her boyfriend down for the week. How wrong could I be...my boyfriend wanted to see a photo she had of him from last year on her computer...she told him to come in...despite being in just her underwear, having been in the middle of sex- her boyfriend was naked under the covers for god sake! It didn't matter that I was shouting at my boyfriend cos I'd just spent ages cooking him dinner and it was going cold. On another occassion a couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend was sitting next to me on the floor, I was trying to have a conversation with him about my apparent depression...and she just came and sat next to him, making him look through the ann summers catalogue with her! They didn't even notice I had gone out the room!
There's so much going on, and I need to talk to her (Im planning to today) but I just feel like shes going to break down and use her past as an excuse. I can't deal with that. I want her to realise what she's doing, she's making me feel like a nothing. But I have the fact that I'm living with her for a year.
But one girl in particular, is doing her best to make my life hell, competing with me it seems, for my boyfriend's attention, flirting with him like I'm not there (she only flirts when I'm around) and is just too keen for us to break up.
I've spoken to her about it before, but she claims she doesn't mean anything by it, its just the way she is: friendly. But its getting too much and I can see right through her. I'm not the only one she's pissing off, she has her ways of getting at the other two girls in the house, and it feels like she's doing it for attention.
Sure she's had a tough past, but so have I, I don't go round telling people I've just met, my whole life story!
I thought she'd calm down last week, because she had her boyfriend down for the week. How wrong could I be...my boyfriend wanted to see a photo she had of him from last year on her computer...she told him to come in...despite being in just her underwear, having been in the middle of sex- her boyfriend was naked under the covers for god sake! It didn't matter that I was shouting at my boyfriend cos I'd just spent ages cooking him dinner and it was going cold. On another occassion a couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend was sitting next to me on the floor, I was trying to have a conversation with him about my apparent depression...and she just came and sat next to him, making him look through the ann summers catalogue with her! They didn't even notice I had gone out the room!
There's so much going on, and I need to talk to her (Im planning to today) but I just feel like shes going to break down and use her past as an excuse. I can't deal with that. I want her to realise what she's doing, she's making me feel like a nothing. But I have the fact that I'm living with her for a year.
Wow. Your boyfriend sounds like an insensitive, inconsiderate dolt.
Is she hot? She sounds hot...
Have you spoken to your boyfriend about this girl? Have a word, ask him if he's noticed what she's doing. You know what (some) men are like, he's probably oblivious to it 
Is she the same way with your other housemates? Perhaps one of them could talk to her, or you all could? Her behaviour seems rather odd, especially letting your bf in when she was in the middle of having sex!
Is she the same way with your other housemates? Perhaps one of them could talk to her, or you all could? Her behaviour seems rather odd, especially letting your bf in when she was in the middle of having sex!
Yeah I have spoken to my boyfriend about it...the first time in May, and he did genuinely look sorry. And I've told him again recently, regarding the thing when he went into the room, he said he felt awkward etc.
Yeah she is the same with other housemates, she takes their friends away from them, she flirts with one of our guy mates, to the point where he doesn'[t come round anymore (she doesn't realise what she's done)
And I know my boyfriend sounds like an idiot, but seriously, its like she has an overpowering effect on every guy she does this to, like she's hypnotising them or something!
And uh, where's the funny side in this? :s
Yeah she is the same with other housemates, she takes their friends away from them, she flirts with one of our guy mates, to the point where he doesn'[t come round anymore (she doesn't realise what she's done)
And I know my boyfriend sounds like an idiot, but seriously, its like she has an overpowering effect on every guy she does this to, like she's hypnotising them or something!
And uh, where's the funny side in this? :s
Ugh, yeah I have a friend like that. Tells you all the bad stuff that has happened to her in her life straight off the bat so you feel sorry for her and let her get away with murder. Controlling etc. Doesn't excuse poor behaviour. Needless to say, I'm more cautious now.
I'd have a word with your boyfriend, and ask him to support you a bit more. She might be friendly towards him, however, he doesn't have to respond to her friendliness. Obviously, his loyalties should lie with you and if you find her attention towards your bf (no matter how innocent she says it is) too forward, then put your foot down.
I'd have a word with your boyfriend, and ask him to support you a bit more. She might be friendly towards him, however, he doesn't have to respond to her friendliness. Obviously, his loyalties should lie with you and if you find her attention towards your bf (no matter how innocent she says it is) too forward, then put your foot down.
Yeah he should grow some balls and say no to her.
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I'd have a word with your boyfriend, and ask him to support you a bit more. She might be friendly towards him, however, he doesn't have to respond to her friendliness. Obviously, his loyalties should lie with you and if you find her attention towards your bf (no matter how innocent she says it is) too forward, then put your foot down.
Well, quite.
ok, sounds like a serious problem, and if im honest i dont think people insulting your bf is helping, you came here with a problem, and by the sound of it it was her and not him!! he just sounds like he may not know how to deal with it and may be feeling uncomfortable! i do however agree, that he maybe should be supportive and if its somehting of a common problem then get together with whoever has the same kind of problem with her and talk to her in a civil manor!! and everyone has there problems, believe me!! it is no excuse however to be doing somehting that clearly upsets someone and can be delt with!! its not like your asking her to stop breathing, your just asking her to back off a little and may be not be so forward with other peoples boy friends as you find it inappropriate!!
anyway, i generally dont post in these things as i find that i feel like im being intrusive, but you posted with a problem and i didnt want you to feel like people are ganging up on you or your boyfriend!!
smile!!
Sally x
anyway, i generally dont post in these things as i find that i feel like im being intrusive, but you posted with a problem and i didnt want you to feel like people are ganging up on you or your boyfriend!!
smile!!
Sally x
Does she have a reputation? I know often those things are wrong but is she like this with all guys.
Using the past to get away with stuff only goes so far, if you've asked her nicely and shes continued its a bit crap and you should tell her.
Your boyfriend sounds insensitive but some blokes are like that just sit him down away from her and explain to him how it makes you feel and how much it upsets you. If that doesn't get it through to him then his pants.
Hope it gets better, housemates can be such a pain sometimes
Using the past to get away with stuff only goes so far, if you've asked her nicely and shes continued its a bit crap and you should tell her.
Your boyfriend sounds insensitive but some blokes are like that just sit him down away from her and explain to him how it makes you feel and how much it upsets you. If that doesn't get it through to him then his pants.
Hope it gets better, housemates can be such a pain sometimes
She's probably doing it for an ego boost and to get a rise out of you. She wants to see that she's made you jealous because she wants to feel like she is worth being jealous of. As vile as her behavior is, try to be supportive and help her build up a healthy self-esteem. Give her a compliment now and then and she might not need to sleaze over your boyfriend to make her feel good about herself. Don't let her see that you're getting annoyed about her flirting and she might not do it anymore.
Step up your game!
It's the only way to obliterate the bitch. Flirt with hers, flirt with yours, Heck.. flirt with HER. Be suggestive, but be innocent to it all. Look your best at all times, wear suggestive but not tarty clothing and appear confident at all times.
It's in the bag.
It's the only way to obliterate the bitch. Flirt with hers, flirt with yours, Heck.. flirt with HER. Be suggestive, but be innocent to it all. Look your best at all times, wear suggestive but not tarty clothing and appear confident at all times.
It's in the bag.
Timeslikethese
Step up your game!
It's the only way to obliterate the bitch. Flirt with hers, flirt with yours, Heck.. flirt with HER. Be suggestive, but be innocent to it all. Look your best at all times, wear suggestive but not tarty clothing and appear confident at all times.
It's in the bag.
It's the only way to obliterate the bitch. Flirt with hers, flirt with yours, Heck.. flirt with HER. Be suggestive, but be innocent to it all. Look your best at all times, wear suggestive but not tarty clothing and appear confident at all times.
It's in the bag.
hahhahahahha LOVE IT!!! this is the best one!! go for it OP!! xxxxx
God thats whats so annoying..she flirts with abslutely everybody, apparently even me!! Anyway, I spoke to her and her response was that she honestly doesn't realise she's doing it. How the hell can you not even have an incling you're slightly flirty?
The thing is, her boyfriend seems ok with her flirting with everyone, he's quite happy to watch her in a club dancing on the polle, with guys dancing up close to her. I think there's a bit of him that doesn't liike it, because he kept reassuring her he didn't care and found it funny.
And I know she probably doesn't have the highest self-esteem, hence all her attention seeking. But seriously, I tell her how good a friend she is, and how amazing she is..what else can I say/do to make her not want to flirt with my boyfriend?!
Ah well, I've spoken to her now, lets hope things change.
The thing is, her boyfriend seems ok with her flirting with everyone, he's quite happy to watch her in a club dancing on the polle, with guys dancing up close to her. I think there's a bit of him that doesn't liike it, because he kept reassuring her he didn't care and found it funny.
And I know she probably doesn't have the highest self-esteem, hence all her attention seeking. But seriously, I tell her how good a friend she is, and how amazing she is..what else can I say/do to make her not want to flirt with my boyfriend?!
Ah well, I've spoken to her now, lets hope things change.
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