University and Life

When I chose to come to university I told myself that things were going to be different and I wasn't going to be the standard wallflower like I've always been. I was wrong. I've read quite a lot of TSR forums about people struggling with fitting in at university and such. It's incredibly overwhelming to try and fail. I become anxious around strangers and can't function and usually go back to my halls and just stay in my room with my door locked. I can tell that everyone thinks I'm just weird and untrustworthy because of the fact I never talk to anyone and or hang around with people. This is incredibly detrimental to my work since I struggle to go into the computer labs when anyone is there. So I go to sleep throughout the day and go and do my wok at night. This means whenever I have lessons I'm always tired and miss lectures also. I've always had anxiety and depression ever since I can remember. I don't know how to make this end without it ending badly. Sorry about all the pronominal use of I.

Are you talking to your GP or student support? You seem to have some anxiety/ sociability issues and need to be tackled, so get help.

What year are you in? How are you doing on the course?
Its difficult (not impossible) to turn things round without a plan or some counselling, especially as the cliques may already have formed. If it all appears a mess and you are sleepwalking into more of the same then maybe consider another course at another uni to give you a fresh start?

The academics aside, it appears that uni could be a very formative experience for you and if it carries on as it is, then you could end up being even unhappier, lonely and anxious, which is not where you want to be. You could even suspend your studies to give you a chance to deal with things.

I'd suggest a year off or doing something like VSO.

First year, B grades that have slipped to D's, the cliques seemed to have formed since round about a few weeks after freshers. I don't have the time or money to restart another course. I don't have a GP here it's 200 miles south, wouldn't even have the confidence to talk to them to be honest. It's become so bad I don't use the shared kitchen ever since there's usually people in there.

1. What you are dong is not normal and you need help.
2. Its spiraling down now and you arent showing any ways to change the situation.
3. Your declining grades and increasing isolation are going to continue in years 2 and 3, so you could have a thoroughly miserable time plus fail your degree.

1. Your GP is 200 miles away. Answer= register with a local GP, they will also have a student health clinic. they will also have a student welfare team. Help is there if you look for it. Just print off your OP and hand it to them, then you dont have to say anything.

2. You say you dont have the time and money for a new course. Are you paying for it yourself? SFE allows one gift year where you can change your mind and they will still fund a complete degree. If its mental health issues you can apply to ask them to ignore the fees incurred. Its much more sense than failing a degree.

You see you have a problem and now you have to be brave for your own interests and talk to people who can help.

What is normal for a university student? You're right I do need help but I hate being a problem to others even if it's a doctor and my parents don't know anything about it plus they don't need to deal with this right now. By time I mean I want to be done with uni and education by the time I am 24 with a masters or 23 with an undergrad.