Long Distance & Marriage

Me and my g/f live in two different countries. We fell for each other after she studdied in UK for a few months but returned due to finishing her degree.

6 months on we are still together and although 2months back we was considering of finishing things due to some integration issues and understanding, we were able to both meet half way (or 60/40) to accomodate each others wants/needs.

Issue currently - Everything for the past 1 month has been fine. Were really in love and always spending hours on the phone and net with each other.
Initially before the 1 month, she trvelled allot. In 4 months she travelled 4 times which in total last for 4 weeks. Each time she was away she wouldnt call or text as she said family were always about (even though any 1 can find 1min to them selves).
Any how 2 weeks back she went for a wedding and was away for another 4 days and in that time she called once on the day she departed and that was it.
In them last 2-3 weeks she also finally told her friend (best friend) about me as she was scared it wasnt going to work in the past but as things dramatically changes and things between us was so consistent, she finally started to believe (also I changed in terms of telling her about how much I loved/cared for her very often as shes kind of insecure at times).

Any how shes gone again since saturday to her grand mother place and she asked me to call her while travelling, then she texted me the day before yesterday and yesterday as well.

I guess I should be really happy that shes made the effort but it all feels so forced. As I had big issues with her keep travelling and then not being able to contact me, considering we want to marry each other.
She was online today and guess what she had time to go on facebook but not 1 message.
It just feels to me if the person who I want to marry so much needs continuous space, which I dislike and don't want, maybe not the one for me.

I guess its crazy me thinking this, but I guess im insecure and I feel I have a right to as this ain't no relatioship. Already its hard as its long distance but to travel so often and hardly be in touch. I guess thats where im the trust is dyeing.

What do you guys feel on the above.
Am I majorly over reacting or should I feel the way I do?

Reply 1

Ang|ophi|e

During this time have you been the one that called her or left her a message on fb? It sounds like she is pretty busy and calling you when she can. I think you are over reacting but it's normal to be that way when the person you love is far away. Since this is obviously a serious relationship, you should talk to her about it when you get the chance.