help dumped my fault

been with my bf 3 years since i was 14 was all going fine untill i cheated on him (only a kiss) with another boy this was 7months ago as we just had our 3 year anniversiry last week he knew about this one kiss and forgave me.

Some of my and his friends knew but i ended up kissing this other boy few more times over the next 3 months. i fell out with these mates and so they decided to tell him.

Not only that but my best mate decided 2 confess all and tell him i kissed a boy in a club on hoilday and some1 else. i was already dumped when he found out about the first boy let alone another 2.

i would be upset if he did it 2 me but its only a kiss and and were young its not liek its the end of the world. its had a big impact on me and him. he now feels he can trust no1 cos all his mates lied 2 him and ofcourse ive fallen out with my best mate

i really want 2 get back with him and he still calls me and spends lunch with em once a week at school but im finding it really hardly and lonly cos i have lost alot of my mates. i only have 6months left at school but its hell cos i really do love him i have spent the last 3 years with him and now i dont no what 2 do

i no its my falut i have appolgise and sent letters 2 him but i cant do much else. to make it worse his new mates think he shouldnt speak 2 him so it means he will only speak 2 me when no1 is around which is really hurtfull.

i feel really sad ive lost my mates and my bf and life is well **** atm just would like some advice

Reply 1

Bismarck

13

If you knew it was your fault, you wouldn't keep on finding new guys to kiss after getting caught with the first one. And you're still saying it's not a big deal. It seems to me you're only sorry you got caught, and there's no reason to think you won't continue your behavior if this guy takes you back. So I would recommend changing your behavior before you try to get back this guy or anyone else.

Reply 2

Profesh

20

Anonymous

been with my bf 3 years since i was 14 was all going fine untill i cheated on him (only a kiss) with another boy this was 7months ago as we just had our 3 year anniversiry last week he knew about this one kiss and forgave me.

Some of my and his friends knew but i ended up kissing this other boy few more times over the next 3 months. i fell out with these mates and so they decided to tell him.

Not only that but my best mate decided 2 confess all and tell him i kissed a boy in a club on hoilday and some1 else. i was already dumped when he found out about the first boy let alone another 2.

i would be upset if he did it 2 me but its only a kiss and and were young its not liek its the end of the world. its had a big impact on me and him. he now feels he can trust no1 cos all his mates lied 2 him and ofcourse ive fallen out with my best mate

i really want 2 get back with him and he still calls me and spends lunch with em once a week at school but im finding it really hardly and lonly cos i have lost alot of my mates. i only have 6months left at school but its hell cos i really do love him i have spent the last 3 years with him and now i dont no what 2 do

i no its my falut i have appolgise and sent letters 2 him but i cant do much else. to make it worse his new mates think he shouldnt speak 2 him so it means he will only speak 2 me when no1 is around which is really hurtfull.

i feel really sad ive lost my mates and my bf and life is well **** atm just would like some advice

Well, he clearly disagrees, and has rightly decided as a consequence that you don't respect him enough to deserve to be his girlfriend. He knows what he wants, and an open relationship isn't it.

Be sure to send him my felicitations.

Reply 3

Bubblebee

15

I'm sorry mate but you can't go on about how you want him back and are lonely if you have betrayed his trust, not once, but three times.

It sounds like you need to get your head screwed on and grow up a bit before you hurt him again.

Reply 4

Minardi

12

Reply 5

Meep!

9

It's entirely your fault, so I'm afraid I don't really have any sympathy with you. Once is bad enough, but you didn't just stop there, you:

anonymous

ended up kissing this other boy few more times over the next 3 months.

I think this is bad enough, but then it gets worse:

anonymous

Not only that but my best mate decided 2 confess all and tell him i kissed a boy in a club on hoilday and some1 else.

You come across, frankly, as a bit of a slag, and no it is not:

anonymous

only a kiss

It's a complete breakdown of trust. You brought this upon yourself, deal with it and don't whinge to us.

Reply 6

Thud

17

It's your own fault and he is completely right to break up with you for it.

Reply 7

sokissme

sorry, but you obviously didnt care about your relationship with this guy when you went round kissing various guys behind his back.
if a guy did that to me, i would break up with him.
therefore i see no reason AT ALL for him to forgive you and get back together with you.
you messed it up, you can deal with the consequences.

Reply 8

username47781

20

Sorry but if I was your boyfriend I would ditch you as well, I think you knew exactly what you were doing and you couldn't have loved your boyfriend that much. Sorry to be harsh but I think you are not mature enough to be in a relationship.

If you want advice, i'd move on.

Reply 9

gracie88

14

You're right it is your fault :smile:

and i can see why! I feel sorry for your (now ex)boyfriend. Would you be reacting the same way if he had 'just kissed' a few girls?!

Reply 10

RosiePosiePuddingAndPie

12

I'm really sorry, but one kiss then I can see why he would forgive you (I'm ashamed to say I've done the same to my boyfriend, and he's forgiven me)... but repeatedly doing it? It sounds like you've hurt him a few too many times, and he doesn't want to put up with it anymore.

Unless he's a very forgiving person, I don't think he'll want to get back with you. You should try to make up with your old friends again, or try to make new friends. Life is a learning curve, at least you won't make this mistake again. :frown:

Reply 11

Liquid Skin

1

Every time you cheat a kitten dies and winnie the pooh has all of his honey stolen.

Honestly you are pretty nasty. Once was bad enough but once you committed the sin again and so soon after the first mistake you sealed the end of that relationship. I'd like to say you at least have a conscience but as Bismarck said it sounds like you're sorry to have been caught rather than for the act itself.

You can't have your cake and eat it. Hopefully you'll learn from this mistake.

Reply 12

Rei

14

I hope he never gets back with you...

Reply 13

thegreenmonk

If it was me you did that too I would probably react the same way as your ex. It is a form of cheating and a complete break of trust. I doubt you will get him back since once you brake trust its difficult or impossible to regain.

Things you can do, think why you ended up kissing those guys? Unconsious desire to move on? unhappy? etc. Get your head sorted as to why and try to see it from his pov. I mean you already said that you wouldnt be happy if he did i to you, why should it be different the other way round?

Youve apologised which is good - and you still speak which is also good, so try to preserve you friendship and dont push to get back together.

Reply 14

Lofty

13

You are what a guy refers to a bitch.

You're own fault, like Bismarck said in a better way than i ever could :p:

, the only thing you regret is that you got caught.

Reply 15

smoothchic

Sorry to hear that. But its sad to read what you did after 3 years in a relationship.
It seems like you weren't happy in it and couldn't wait to slip.

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