Fewl I haven't really lived, everythings too predictable

I kind of had a troubled stunted adolescence. Then I went to uni and screwed up a bit, pissed a long while away up in a beautiful city where I thought I could have a new start, but was isolated, didn't make anything of it socially or academically. Now I'm back home in my hometown, which is an Oxbridge town, so OK not the worst place to live, but it feels like I've regressed. I've been here since I was 10. Employment prospects look mediocre which I don't mind too much, not hugely ambitious have other priorities. But it feels like I havent ever properely cut loose and carved out a life for myself. Some would say I'm lucky to be living in 'Oxbridge' getting ready to take over my parents redeveloped house, or a flat in it, in a very nice location, them to be moving to the coast and me to take over the place here. Financially things quite good with as I say houses in Oxbridge and on the coast. but somehow it all seems so predictable, despite my time away I never have expereneced true independence or any sustained, fulfilling relationship. Now it feels like I could meet people here but it seems kind of stagnant, unless you're part of the university scene which I';m not. I feel so timid for being 26 and not branvching out and getting a flat somewhere else, but I'm still the timid child that won't go against what my parents think is sensible and what I'm capable of , ie predictably staying here. They still I guess can't seem to regard me as mature or capable 'cos I ****ed up at uni.

Advice much appreciated.

Thanks, I k now it sounds illy but want to do all those things and my relationship with parents is too cloying. Can't seem to prise myself away from their views and what they think is best. Still feel a bit of a child at times.

Maybe it is easier for you to be the 'child', rather than to do things for yourself. In reality it seems as though by coming on here asking for advice you are just changing from what your parents tell you to think, to what the forum members tell you to think! It ain't a good thing to do especially when most of them are probably substantially younger than you!

If you are really serious about making changes you need to move away from the computer and get out into the real world. What do you want to achieve? A different job, a new partner, a place of your own? You decide and then plan how to achieve it.

The only person holding you back is you.

Please, stop using 'Oxbridge' like it denotes the place you live. You either live in Oxford, or you live in Cambridge. Oxbridge is only ever a useful term if you're talking specifically about the universities.