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Upcoming date problems

Hi, im meeting a girl who ive been talking to of the internet on saturday. We are both 21 and seen each other on webcam so far etc...

Only thing is, shes going to be driven down their by her mate. Now this mostr likely means her mate will be coming along with us around town , and that makes me feel a bit awkward, like i get the sense im being judged. I really want to take the opportunity to get to know the girl and maybe flirt a bit, but in the presence of her friend it makes things a bit awkward.

Have you people got any ideas what we could do on Saturday if her friend is indeed coming along, and how should i interact with both of them.
Reply 1
Her friend's probably just coming along to make sure you're not somehow a pervert (despite having seen you on webcam) and then she'll most likely bugger off and leave you to it. But you're right, you are being judged. Girls always judge their mates' blokes.
Have one of your mates on standby to tag along?
Reply 3
go to the cinema. that what you won't have to talk and will thus avoid saying anything the girls might judge as stupid/racist/mental

I wouldn't have thought her friend will accompany you the whole time, but it's really common sense to take someone with you if you're meeting someone you've only met over the internet before; don't feel like it's some sort of reflection on you.
Reply 5
Ive got no problems as a guy meeting with random people, im quite happy with myself in that way, so i just hope her friend comes along, says hi, talk for a bit, then goes off and does her own thing in the town centre!
Reply 6
Have you asked her about it? I mean I'm generally quite direct about these things but if you don't want to be you could always say something like shall i bring a mate too or will your friend have some shopping or something to do in town?
Reply 7
yep
have a wingman on standby
Reply 8
For all she knows you could be a phycho killer wanting to chop her up and plaster her into your bedroom walls.

However she foolishly believes her friend will be able to protect her!

No wait you just want to go on a date? Oh...
Reply 9
Yeah i dont want to take it the wrong way, im sure ill chat to her on the phone tonight, talk about tomorrow. Might slip in something like (so has your mate got some shopping and stuff to do ) because really, i dont want this meeting to turn into something where they go shopping for a bit together - that would be a real waste and taking the piss
Reply 10
You should feel you are lucky!

On the first date people usually feel a bit embarrassed and lost for words. And there will be three of you so there is less chance for awkward silence coming up.

It's also understandable that she wants someone to be around for self-protection reasons.

Don't make a big problem out of it) I'm sure that once she feels safe she will make it clear for her friend that it's time you were left on your own.

Good luck:smile:
Reply 11
I'd say she's being sensible bringing a friend- for all she knows you could be some wierd psycho necrophiliac or something. Why don't you get a friend to tag along to keep the other girl company?