Friend acting strange...

I was just talking to one of my friends online (which we do all the time) but today he's started talking about how he wants to touch himself and that i should do so too and stuff like that, its really starting to freak me out because we never really talk about stuff like that and i don't see him in that way at all. Some of my mates i expect it from but he just said it out of the blue it's just weird, what should i say to him?

Reply 1

pumpkin7

tell him to keep his thoughts to himself.

Reply 2

daniel_williams

well maybe its self exploration, guys will go through stages of getting sexually arounsed and wanting to explore teir sexual fantasies, to talk about it might be a case of trying to show off, or maybe they want to share an experience with you. maybe this person has said it out of the blue becasue they are oppressed about stuff, maybe sexuality, try to talk to them about why they randomly said it and if theres something they need to talk to you about. be supportive as a friend there maybe more than meets the eye with this.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Well he is 19 and a virgin (not really out of choice lol) so i think he's just really sexually frustrated, but he's never really showed any signs that he likes me in that way and i don't really like talking to some guys in that way especially him cos he might take it that i fancy him. With some mates i talk openly about it because i know they won't start taking it in the wrong way but its just really uncomfortable with him. I was saying that i was writing an essay and was bored so he started saying "stick a vibe on that'll make it more fun" its just weird is all and i don't want to say anything horrible to him cos he might get offended :frown:

Reply 4

Radicool

Well if it's out of the blue, maybe he's drunk?
Or someone could have found out his password and is pretending to be him. Or he has friends around and doesn't realise what they're saying on his account.
The last one has definitely happened to me a few times lol.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

spit_fire90

lol i was thinking that but i can tell by his typing that it was him (he doesn't have very good typing skills) and he told me that his car was fixed (i was in there wen it broke down and have been asking about it) so its definately him.

Reply 6

daniel_williams

well 19 year old virgin i can see why he might be sexually frustrated especially if he knows other people are getting some action so to speak. he might also feel left out of conversation because if you are discussing with other people sexual related he will not have the ability to chip in with his 2 pence worth. i have to admit it is weird to randomly come out and say something like that and especially making a comment like he did towards you. perhapse he is interested in you and the only way he can feel he's getting close to you is to have a sexual related conversation, I'm sure he sees you laughing with other guys when you talkto them about stuff. give him the benefit of the doubt on this one and see how things progress, if he starts to freak you out, confront him and tell him staight you feel uncomfortable and find out exactly why he is doing this.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Yeah i'll just give him the benefit of the doubt for now, he might just be unbelievably horny at the moment, i know he's not drunk though as he's just gone out for a ride in his car hopefully to cool himself down abit haha

Reply 8

FreeBird

My friend does that sometimes, and he has a gf at home :s-smilie:

but i think he just does it when he's horny, i dont respond much, but hes a good friend so i try not to upset him, so a lot of 'hehe's come out from my side of the convo.
lol maybe if you just dont encourage it, he should stop? if you dont say much, and maybe change the subject? he'll get the hint and stop it. Hes probably just trying to fit in.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

He won't feel jealous cos he hasn't seen me talking like this to my other mates as he doesn't know them.
He's probs just unbelievably horny, most lads get like that sometimes i just replied with lols, haha's and yeah, thats when he decided to take a drive lol.

Reply 10

Robob

It sounds like maybe some of his mates have been pissing about on his msn...

Reply 11

username47781

Might have been someone mucking around and not him who wrote all that, but if not and it was him who wrote and he does it again, just tell him that you are uncomfortable with him talking dirty.