Girl I liked wants to link up with me, is it wise despite the history?

These things can never be simple...

During my final academic year of uni I liked some first year girl. I've made threads about this topic and the various stages I was at with her (well I didn't get far...), but anyway nothing happened. I didn't even get a strong and straight answer that she didn't like me.

Anyway, the other day she msgs me on msn says "hi [my name]" asks me to call her when I say I'm coming uni on Thursday and asks me on msn if I drive. She also asks me to meet her too. Fair enough.

When I was in uni today I asked her when she's in she replied and told me. What stood out is that she left no x's or anything like that. That has been somewhat gradually reduced since I told her how I feel. Anyway, even though she wants to meet me, I have to make all the effort to hook up with her. This is despite everything that's happened... She acts like nothing happened!

Problem is, firstly, I liked her and she knew. Despite this, she acted like she liked me too which made me look even more stupid and embarassed. It was all a game. Even though on the phone she didn't mention this, how do I know she won't in person? It makes me feel a bit vulnerable knowing this topic might come up at any time. I can't exactly act in the same way now. I feel insecure in my friendship with her because I have another 1 or 2 girl mates who I tell everything to and who I can confide in. But I can't do that with this girl.

Is it wise for me to see this girl? Nothing is known with her. Anything is possible. I don't think she's after my coursework because if she is then she would have asked me and I didn't do the pathway she does. Life is so boring with no girlfriend or action on that front, I need something to happen....

Reply 1

Tagit

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Basically you were good mates, she found out you liked her and maybe she doesn't like you in the same way so shes distancing herself from you maybe. Tell her thats what you think and she doesn't need to space herself as you just want to be great friends now.

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Tagit

Basically you were good mates, she found out you liked her and maybe she doesn't like you in the same way so shes distancing herself from you maybe. Tell her thats what you think and she doesn't need to space herself as you just want to be great friends now.

She doesn't need to space herself? But she approached me! Her not contacting me was probably just her away of wanting me to do all the "hard" work and her way of attention seeking. In hindsight I can see she does - well did - a lot of attention seeking.

Things can never be the same with me and her. :frown:

Before I told her I liked her, at least we had some fun. No chance of that again... You really learn what someone is like AFTER you tell them you like them or when they screw you over. Before that, you never learn anything important...

Reply 3

miki_da_magpie

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Yea, I agree with your last bit... you really dont know somone untill youve seen their bad side. Unfortunately, you still kinda like her? If you know shes bad for you, why even kid yourself, its hard but distance yourself and see if she's willing to go through the effort you went for her. A relationship that doesnt have input from both sides will never work.

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could you please do everyone a favour and stop making different threads about the progress of this relationship. Just tag it onto the end of and old thread then people can follow on.

Because I have no idea what you're talking about or why she'd steal your coursework... :s-smilie:

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Anonymous #1

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miki_da_magpie

Yea, I agree with your last bit... you really dont know somone untill youve seen their bad side. Unfortunately, you still kinda like her? If you know shes bad for you, why even kid yourself, its hard but distance yourself and see if she's willing to go through the effort you went for her. A relationship that doesnt have input from both sides will never work.

I don't like her. However, I have some wierd emphasis on must having a girlfriend, partly because I have everything else so this is all that is left in my life. Also, all my mates have one and I CONSTANTLY get asked why I don't have one so I feel like an outcast not having one. So it's pretty much all in my head but it feels "real" enough.

I feel so vulnerable to hook up with this girl as I don't know if she will ever mention the topic. We never discussed it because everything was just a PITA to do with her when it came to talking about things. I'll be on edge when waiting for her next words.

One of my good mates had some boy who liked her, at least she sent him a text saying you deserve better and so forth, and at least they talked about it and got things out in the open so when they linked up they knew where they were both standing.

Girl I liked wants to link up with me, is it wise despite the history?

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