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Pressure?

Wtf?!

Lol, jesus christ! Serenade her with a bit of Louis Armstrong - As Time Goes By, you know, 'you must remember this, a kiss is just a kisss...', then scoop her up in your arms and force a full on smacker on her :-D

Reply 2

FreeBird

Just dont mention it! Bringing stuff like that up all the time to 'rookies' does feel very pressuring. I'm sure youre not trying to be though. Just leave it to happen whenever it happens. I'm sure she'll appreciate that. Let nature take its course. When the right moment comes along to kiss her, kiss her. :smile:

Reply 3

generalebriety

16

The term "whenever" in "whenever I mention a kiss" sounds very demanding to me - so you've done it at least twice in two weeks? Well, that's putting pressure on her, surely?

Reply 4

Bedshaped

OP

14

Hmm.

Girls are so confusing :frown:

Reply 5

Jono310

8

don't force her, even with music on, she will see straight through that, its terrible advice lol!

If she has fancied you for ages this will be a really big deal for her. she knows you want to kiss her, so there is no ambiguity there, she knows that, so you just need to be patient and when she wants to kiss you, i'm sure it will be obivous.

I know its sounds cheesy, but if you go a certain amount of the distance towards her and give her a chance to come the rest then it will all be a much happier event.

all the best

J

Reply 6

Envy Eyes

Bedshaped

Allright there people.

I'm a 17 year old lad at sixth form. Recently I asked out one of my friends to go out with me, 2 weeks after breaking up with my last girlfriend (thats irrelevant).

Anyways, although I fancy her and like her...shes so strange. I'm her first boyfriend...and intend on being her first kiss. Its been 2 weeks since we started going out and she's rejected me once for a kiss...

This has never ever happened to me before, although I've never been out with a girl whose never kissed anyone before and now whenever I mention a kiss, she accuses me of "putting pressure on her" and says she doesn't like it. She also said "boys only want one thing".

I'm so confused, is this girl ready for a relationship? Am I going too fast? How do I go about kissing her?

I just had a massive argument with her on the matter...

So scared :frown:

P.S She fancies me 100%. Apparently she used to talk about me all the time...trust me she fancies me.

It does sound like you're putting quite a bit of pressure on her and the more you go on about it the worse she'll think of guys and will be screaming that men only want one thing lol. The reason she may have never had a relationship before could be because she doesn't like the idea of just being a physical plaything for a guy and so may want someone who is really interested in getting to know her, not just her body :wink:

. If you really like her, then you'll put in the effort and I'm sure once she's sure that you really are interested in her, for herself, then she'll loosen up on the whole kissing situation.

Reply 7

Envy Eyes

Jono310

don't force her, even with music on, she will see straight through that, its terrible advice lol!

True it is, it sounds quite painfully cheesy. So much so that it sounds almost amusing to me (horrible of me I know :biggrin:

haha), it could maybe, maybe work if she has a very quirky sense of humour like mine. Maybe if she found it funny, then she could appreciate how well you two get along personality wise aswell...otherwise it could just go very wrong and be quite cringeworthy!

Reply 8

Bedshaped

OP

14

Cheers guys, some really helpful advice here.

I really like her. Thanks for all the advice guys, I'll remember not to mention it and will get to know her a bit better.

Blah, most of my relationships begin with kissing anyways. This is like the second time I've asked out a girl.

Reply 9

nougat

Jono310

don't force her, even with music on, she will see straight through that, its terrible advice lol!

If she has fancied you for ages this will be a really big deal for her. she knows you want to kiss her, so there is no ambiguity there, she knows that, so you just need to be patient and when she wants to kiss you, i'm sure it will be obivous.

I know its sounds cheesy, but if you go a certain amount of the distance towards her and give her a chance to come the rest then it will all be a much happier event.

all the best

J

You clearly haven't heard the song.

Reply 10

nougat

Envy Eyes

True it is, it sounds quite painfully cheesy. So much so that it sounds almost amusing to me (horrible of me I know :biggrin:

haha), it could maybe, maybe work if she has a very quirky sense of humour like mine. Maybe if she found it funny, then she could appreciate how well you two get along personality wise aswell...otherwise it could just go very wrong and be quite cringeworthy!

OK, it was actually a joke! Obviously I am just too good :cool:

Reply 11

devilsthorn

1

You've been in a relationship before and it didn't work. That's already given you a bad reputation when it comes to these virgin girls. They don't want men who are looking for sex. Don't get surprised if she tells you she will only have sex with you after marriage... Respect her wishes if you want to continue on with her.

Or find someone more slutty.

Reply 12

Teao the Cat

17

Well, it has to be in the right situation... if you are all cuddled up... My first kiss was all warm and comfy after watchinig a film, and it just... happened... he didn't ask, it was just obvious that it was the time. So make the right situation, and I imagine it will just... happen.

Reply 13

Envy Eyes

nougat

OK, it was actually a joke! Obviously I am just too good :cool:

Well, personally for 'lol-factor' I would go for Marvin Gaye - Lets Get It On, because that song is hilarious!

Reply 14

Megatronix

Do something to earn a kiss, like taking her for a meal where you wear a shirt and such. Don't just expect to pop her kissing virginity like that. She sounds like it means alot to her.

Thought that would be obvious.

Reply 15

Wangers

16

Megatronix

Do something to earn a kiss, like taking her for a meal where you wear a shirt and such. Don't just expect to pop her kissing virginity like that. She sounds like it means alot to her.

Thought that would be obvious.

Do you always buy/"earn" your way into relationships?

OP, go with the flow, if she fancies you it will happen....

Reply 16

Robob

17

Two weeks and no kissing :s-smilie:

That really doesn't count as 'pressuring'... :/

Reply 17

sweetfloss

15

Robob

Two weeks and no kissing :s-smilie:

That really doesn't count as 'pressuring'... :/

I think that if someone feels pressurised their views should be taken into consideration!!!

Try kissing her on the cheek or forehead first. Small steps and all. I know I was MEGA nervous before my first kiss :redface:

Reply 18

Bedshaped

OP

14

Robob

Two weeks and no kissing :s-smilie:

That really doesn't count as 'pressuring'... :/

Yeah thats what I thought.

Blah.

Blah.

:frown:

Reply 19

miki_da_magpie

2

Bedshaped

Allright there people.

I'm a 17 year old lad at sixth form. Recently I asked out one of my friends to go out with me, 2 weeks after breaking up with my last girlfriend (thats irrelevant).

Anyways, although I fancy her and like her...shes so strange. I'm her first boyfriend...and intend on being her first kiss.

You intend as in, you want to be for your own reasons, or do you mean IF you do, you would be her first kiss... if it came to that. If you start off thinking you will be then Im afraid you're in it for the wrong reasons.
A kiss should not be pressured, whatsoever, if she says she isnt ready and doesnt like it, then respect that, it means that for her, she is not ready, she doesnt trust you enough, or any other million reasons.
As for "earning a kiss"... that almost like saying you need to take a girl to the movies to get some, what a load of BS. Get her to like you and trust you, and dont mention it. If you really like her then you will wait until shes ready. You've let her know that you are ready, so open yourself up and let her do what she wants...

Pressure?

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