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Can't stand random guys hitting on me.

I'm really quite a shy person, so I find it hard to meet guys who I connect with. I prefer to find guys through friendship, getting to know them and stuff. So when I go out to clubs with my friends, I hate it when random strangers come up to me and start hitting on me. It makes me really uncomfortable and scared and it can quiet upset me if they won't leave me alone.
I don't want to stop going out and dancing, but it really bothers me when really over confident abnd drunk guys come up to me and try to touch me, dance with me and stuff, especially when they won't take a hint and leave.
How am I supposed to deal with unwanted male attention? How can I make these guys go away, without being a total bitch?

Reply 1

cpj1987

15

I'm exactly the same. I generally tend to just glare at the guy, then turn away, or attempt an escape through the crowd. :p:

Reply 2

LinziP123

it happens to 99% of girls in clubs! you just have to brush them off and turn your back on them or something, or if they don't take the hint move somewhere else!

Reply 3

Dittoo

2

Say your waiting for someone, or look over to the other side of the club and say 'ive gotta go meet my friends over there'

Reply 4

sweetfloss

15

LinziP123

it happens to 99% of girls in clubs! you just have to brush them off and turn your back on them or something, or if they don't take the hint move somewhere else!

And also, ask your friends to rescue you by dragging you away if needs be. Another plus of going out in a large group of girls :smile:

(or if you're out with a guy in your group latch onto him when you're accosted!)

Reply 5

punktopia

3

How else are guys supposed to meet girls?

Reply 6

username47781

20

Ah just make an excuse that you don't want to talk to them.

Reply 7

squeak

21

you could:

a) go to gay bars
b) get a rolled up newspaper, hit them on the nose and say "no! bad!"
c) dress like a scumbag

or there is the classic "F off", glare (or push), and turn away.

Reply 8

Dionysus

15

Well you are, presumably, very good looking, if it's happening as regularly as you claim. Can you really blame guys for having a go? Just tell them you aren't interested or say you have a boyfriend.

Reply 9

saladin

Why dont you spend your leisure time somewhere more sofisiticated

Reply 10

Cushti

10

Try going out with a male friend who you trust??

Reply 11

Hylean

15

it is generally much easier for the people to meet in clubs though. the drink gives them the confidence to attempt conversations with people they don't know. you may not necessarily like them, but you don't have to reject them. you may end up with a great mate if you give it half a chance. you never know, behind that drunken, cheesy facade is a guy you'd really get on with. if you are feeling pressurised or shy, get a friend to join you and take the weight off your shoulders a bit.

Reply 12

Cushti

10

I disagree Hylean, guys who try it on like that in clubs are, 95% of the time, only after one thing.

Reply 13

Hylean

15

i didn't say they weren't after it, i just argued that if she responds a bit more kindly but make sure they know she isn't interested, she could end up with a new friend or possible friend.

the few times i've been hit on in a club, i've never been interested, but i've become quite good friends with the people who were hitting on me.

Reply 14

dobbs

17

Cushti

Try going out with a male friend who you trust??

This is one of the best methods by far - I have a large number of female friends who are like the OP (i.e. don't want to meet guys in a club!) and so when we go out clubbing I have taken to various methods of making random guys leave them alone.

If you do have a male friend who you go out clubbing with, here is my tried and tested method:

When the random guy comes over and tries to dance with you, do the usual - just shake your head and mouth "No thanks" to him. Usually they'll back off a little, but stay close and keep looking towards you (and your mates 'cos he's probably not too picky! :rolleyes:

). Let your male friend know, and all he has to do is dance between you and the random guy - if this doesn't give him the hint my foolproof plan is to then slowly move backwards towards the random guy so that my ass hits his crotch, then it's as simple as doing a little bit of hip thrusts backwards and hey-presto the guy will freak out with having some other guy's ass thrusting into his crotch and he will leave.

Guaranteed to work - I have done this on numerous occassions and it has never failed. However, try not to do it to anyone who looks like they may beat the living crap out of you. I did that once, and only came away without being hurt because my female friends crowded around me to stop him. Haha :biggrin:

Anywho yeah - male friends always work :smile:

^ LMAO

dobbs

This is one of the best methods by far - I have a large number of female friends who are like the OP (i.e. don't want to meet guys in a club!) and so when we go out clubbing I have taken to various methods of making random guys leave them alone.

If you do have a male friend who you go out clubbing with, here is my tried and tested method:

When the random guy comes over and tries to dance with you, do the usual - just shake your head and mouth "No thanks" to him. Usually they'll back off a little, but stay close and keep looking towards you (and your mates 'cos he's probably not too picky! :rolleyes:

). Let your male friend know, and all he has to do is dance between you and the random guy - if this doesn't give him the hint my foolproof plan is to then slowly move backwards towards the random guy so that my ass hits his crotch, then it's as simple as doing a little bit of hip thrusts backwards and hey-presto the guy will freak out with having some other guy's ass thrusting into his crotch and he will leave.

Guaranteed to work - I have done this on numerous occassions and it has never failed. However, try not to do it to anyone who looks like they may beat the living crap out of you. I did that once, and only came away without being hurt because my female friends crowded around me to stop him. Haha :biggrin:

Anywho yeah - male friends always work :smile:

You sound like a total pansy.

Dress "ugly"

Rachel Revenge

I'm really quite a shy person, so I find it hard to meet guys who I connect with. I prefer to find guys through friendship, getting to know them and stuff. So when I go out to clubs with my friends, I hate it when random strangers come up to me and start hitting on me. It makes me really uncomfortable and scared and it can quiet upset me if they won't leave me alone.
I don't want to stop going out and dancing, but it really bothers me when really over confident abnd drunk guys come up to me and try to touch me, dance with me and stuff, especially when they won't take a hint and leave.
How am I supposed to deal with unwanted male attention? How can I make these guys go away, without being a total bitch?

Stop going to clubs where the environment is conducive to that kind of behavior. If you want to socialize and dance without the horny drunks, join a ballroom dance society or a salsa dance class. Then you can dance, socialize, and still meet horny men, but at least they're not drunk, and can take you for a spin on the dance floor minus the groping (at least until after the dance class).

Reply 19

silverbolt

19

if thier not too drunk when they approach them look at them and give that very female snarl thing with your mouth, slowly look them up and down and then go "you wish" and turn away.

Cripples any mans ego

Can't stand random guys hitting on me.

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