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Yeah, of course. If a girl has many male friends it doesn’t mean that you don’t have a chance, it just means she likes male company. Talk to her, and as you take the same courses you’re already a step ahead. Find a reason to get talking and see where you go from there.
Reply 2
Say this to her:
"I must be in heaven because baby you are clearly an angel"
.... :P

<just joking, btw. +cheesyness> :P
Oh get a grip.
talk to her :eek:

I know it's scary
Reply 5
RaulS1987
Say this to her:
"I must be in heaven because baby you are clearly an angel"
.... :P

<just joking, btw. +cheesyness> :P


:smile:

Actually after my first conversation with her, I probably literally felt like that was true.

However upon reflection I don't think she is that interested in me.
Reply 6
stardust&starshine
Yeah, of course. If a girl has many male friends it doesn’t mean that you don’t have a chance, it just means she likes male company. Talk to her, and as you take the same courses you’re already a step ahead. Find a reason to get talking and see where you go from there.


I can't find reasons to talk to her though.

Plus she is not interested enough for me to make any moves.
Reply 7
Upon reflection I think she may be interested in me afterall, not sure though.

Talking to her would be the best but what happens if I don't have the opportunity to or just couldn't do it? How about sending her an email? She would know me straight away so recognising who I am wouldn't be a problem. HOwever I don't know her well so that could be a problem with this method. It is the least scary for me.

What other methods?

If emailing is good what should I write? Probably start with something general at first?
Reply 8
E-mail?

Oh yeah, because we all love a man who can't say things to our face and lacks confidence...
Reply 9
Better then doing nothing?

However I see your point. The ultimate goal is to be with them and confidence via email dosen't translate to confidence later on. So it's better to do it face to face from the start.

Although online dating is successful in general so E-mailing may not be that bad?
Reply 10
You can't compare the two. You've already met her and spoken to her... for online people meeting it'd be a step back. So, I'm failing to see what you're getting at.


Grow a pair and she'll like you more.
Germi
There is this girl that seems to be extraverted and has many male friends.

I am introverted and quite the opposite it seems but she may have shown signs of interest, I'm not sure. There are similarities between us as we take the same courses. Is there a chance?

If so how should I go about it?

No, you have no chance. Sorry...
Reply 12
*Ella*
You can't compare the two. You've already met her and spoken to her... for online people meeting it'd be a step back. So, I'm failing to see what you're getting at.


Yeah ok. BUt what about online communication to get to know each other more? People dating online usually meet only after a period of chatting.


*Ella*

Grow a pair and she'll like you more.


:confused:

a pair of what? Please don't say b***s
Reply 13
Sehnsucht
No, you have no chance. Sorry...


That's what I thought until recently when a bit of 'communication' started between us. Although there is nothing obvious yet. I don't want it to slip away.
Germi
That's what I thought until recently when a bit of 'communication' started between us. Although there is nothing obvious yet. I don't want it to slip away.

No, sorry - even if she strips you naked and jumps on top of you it's still safest to assume you have no chance. Seriously, play it safe... what's the best that can happen?
Reply 15
Sehnsucht
No, sorry - even if she strips you naked and jumps on top of you it's still safest to assume you have no chance. Seriously, play it safe... what's the best that can happen?


Please explain the meaning behind your first setence? She could turn out to be genuine. But you think the personality difference is too fundamental a factor? Maybe she wants a quiet person as a partner?

I've played it too safe in the past and regret it.

You raise a good question. For the immediate future, the best would be that we see each other at places outside where we normally meet in other words going on dates. Not sure how it work out, even more unsure is how it will ever happen.:redface:
Germi

I've played it too safe in the past.

Surely not? :eek:

Still though, better to keep playing it safe, you might regret asking her... you have nothing to win and everything to lose really huh?
Reply 17
What have I got to lose?

Why would I regret asking her? What would she do? I am not really friends with her as I don't talk to her much and might never see her again. So nothing to lose really.

Actually not being friends with her could be a disadvantage as it might be too much a jump. It is this jump which I fear the most.

Nothing to win? What if she agreed and we have a good time? ALthough the odds are possibly low for this one.
Reply 18
Sehnsucht
Surely not? :eek:


You don't know me at all. I am extremely reserved.
Reply 19
Germi
I can't find reasons to talk to her though.

Plus she is not interested enough for me to make any moves.


You don't need a reason to be sociable.
You do need reasons to be antisocial though...