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Gay boyfriend?

i'm female, and have a new boyfriend who i've been with for 2 weeks.. but my friend and other people tell me they think he's gay! and apparantley it's obvious.

i personally don't think he acts gay. he kisses me a lot and tries to get in my trousers a lot, but now i can't help but feel paranoid!

i said.. why would he go out with me if he was gay? and someone said he can't have realised it yet.

i don't know what to think?! should i mention it to him? any advice? :s-smilie:

Reply 1

dh00001

16

ignore them. if youre happy who cares what they think

Reply 2

Angrybanana

11

Ask them why they think it's so obvious. If he's always trying to get into your trousers, that indicates a healthy sexual interest in you.

Reply 3

FreeBird

People joke that my boyfriend is gay, and he's getting a bit annoyed with it now. Thats probably all it is. Joking. We've only been going out just over 2 weeks too, and he's sounds the same as yours lol
Just dont read too much into it, if you see him looking at other blokes arses, then's the time to worry. lol

Reply 4

ForeverIsMyName

15

Tape yourselves and send a copy to all of your friends.

Simple.

Reply 5

20083

2

He may well be gay, you're just his cover story. Gay guys do that frequently before coming out.

Reply 6

shamess

Erm, ask him? Stop being paranoid. If he says he's not, then you either have to trust that or leave him.

Reply 7

username47781

20

Maybe drop it casually that some of your friends have been saying he is gay, then again they might just be jealous.

Reply 8

Olga:))

Why not just ask him to his face whether he's gay.

I feel it should be decided between you and him only.

Think about him too, he has feelings after all and has an opinion. Who knows, it could be just his way of having fun?

Don't panic any way, talk to him. I'm sure you'll be fine since your problem is soluble.

Good luck :smile:

Reply 9

Renal

17

Even if he is gay, he's boshing you, which makes him, well, straight and which makes you, well, happy.

Simple as.

Reply 10

Jonatan

13

a) You can't tell if someone is gay unless they tell you
b) You can't tell if someone is gay unless they tell you
c) Even if he does like men, it doesn't mean he doesn't like women. He could very well be Bi.
d)Even if he is gay others don't know it, if they are correct it will be from pure luck rather than because they could see it.

Reply 11

Poica

14

My sister went out with a lad who everyone said was gay, but was in a happy relationship with him for 2 years.

Admittedly now his myspace says that he is "all about the gay" and wants to meet "a tanned and drop dead gorgeous man (who wouldn't)".

Oh how I laughed when I saw that.

Reply 12

Arteta

15

^What the hell is in your avatar? I can't tell what i'm looking at!

Yeah just ask him, but assure him you're not asking because you think he's gay...but becuase other people say that, and you can't tell if they're joking. That way you shouldn't offend him too much if he's straight.

I think people think i'm gay all the time, i really don't care. I'm completely straight and i just sorta laugh it off.

Reply 13

Blazenmoon

7

He might be gay, he might not, but people used to say my boyfriend was gay for some reason and i've been with him over 2 and half years. I think my housemates gay, and even dirty dances with boys, but has a girlfriend and doesnt understand someone would think he was gay from doing that...

Either he is gay, or he might just be in touch with his feminine side. If your new boyfriend doesnt dirty dance with boys and eye them up, he's most likely straight, but u might as well ask him if your comfortable with doing that. If he does dirty dance with boys and talk about brad pitt more than you, then maybe you should consider he is Bisexual, but he cant be gay if he clearly wants to have sex with you. I'd imagine a true gay man trying to cover up his sexuality with a gf wouldnt see the need to pursue sex with u in private to prove it, he'd just play up on the relationship where everyone could see how straight he is.

Reply 14

20083

2

Olga:))

Why not just ask him to his face whether he's gay.

I feel it should be decided between you and him only.

Think about him too, he has feelings after all and has an opinion. Who knows, it could be just his way of having fun?

Don't panic any way, talk to him. I'm sure you'll be fine since your problem is soluble.

Good luck :smile:

Lol, she can't ask him that. Any straight guy would dump her for that!

Reply 15

Zoecb

11

He's clearly not gay, as he's with you and seems to be very physically attracted to you.
He might just be slightly camp and your friends are picking up on it. I wouldn't worry about it, I have quite a few male friends who act a bit camp but are straight as a ruler.

Reply 16

Olga:))

Well it depends on how you do that. Approaching him with a serious and worried expression and asking 'Honey, are you gay?' would be a bit ... strange)

But making up some rubbish about her being interested in girls and while being on the subject of bisexual inclination somehow ask him if he's ever experienced a similar feeling :girl:

might be acceptable, IMO.

Reply 17

Psyk

16

Zoecb

He's clearly not gay, as he's with you and seems to be very physically attracted to you.

He could just be very good at acting. Chances are though, he isn't gay. It would be pretty difficult to convicingly pretend you're enjoying it in a long term sexual relationship.

Reply 18

Meep!

9

My boyfriend's parents thought he was gay before he started going out with me, as they happily informed me one evening. As did a few of his friends, actually, but only due to him not really having had girlfriends before me. However, several years down the line, I ca safely say he most definately is not.

Reply 19

Aspect

2

I would definitely not talk to him about it. He could well be gay, you never know. If you talk to him about it now, if he's straight, he will most likely be incredibly offended and your relationship will be ruined. If he's gay, he's clearly not ready to confront the issue and will still be offended, again your relationship will be ruined.

Fact is you've only been with him two weeks. Ride it out a while longer and see how things go, see how comfortable you are around him and what your perception is. If things start to get serious, then you may need to have a good think and possibly a conversation with him.

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