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I'm dull

I've been told i'm dull and totally boring, i can see their point to be honest.
Is there any ways to improve your personality.

Reply 1

Don John

17

Telling yourself that you are boring is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Be more positive, and buy "Change your life in 7 days by Paul McKenna"

Reply 2

fleur de lis

15

Get some hobbies? Go do some voluntary work or something? Read the papers and watch the news... Take an interest in stuff going on around you.

Get out more.

dont change your personality unless you want to change it, not for other people. if you do then try to find some new hobbies, something which will bring you out of yourself so to speak. physical hobbies are good for this, rugby, gym etc etc.

Reply 5

pink_lucie

14

Don John

Telling yourself that you are boring is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Be more positive, and buy "Change your life in 7 days by Paul McKenna"

'feel the fear and do it anyway' is good, cant remeber by who but its for women

Reply 6

Dionysus

15

Very few people are really genuinely boring. You may not be into the same sort of socialising activities as other people, but find people who share your interests and you'll do better.

Reply 7

Lara C.

3

what activities do you like btw?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

I don't get out much. I have an xbox 360. I like football, i have a guitar but dont play it and that's about it.

Reply 9

Glutamic Acid

17

Are you unhappy? If not, don't listen to them.

Reply 10

silverbolt

19

Anonymous

I don't get out much. I have an xbox 360. I like football, i have a guitar but dont play it and that's about it.

why do you have a guitar and not play it?

Reply 11

devilsthorn

1

I have a piano but I can't seem to play it, lol. Self teaching sucks. If you lack hobbies then find new hobbies. Walk into random people and introduce yourself.

Reply 12

zzzzzoe

11

i think the more you try changing/"improving" your personality the more of it you lose!
you can't really change your personality i dont think personally, just.. learn to like it? dont pay too much attention to that comment, those people probably dont know you anyway
:smile:

Reply 13

username141550

2

'Characters do not change. Opinions alter, but characters are only developed.'

I doubt you're dull, as Dionysus says, it is very rare, some people that seem dull are more shy etc. Perhaps you're rarely in contact with people who have similar hobbies/opinions. I think some of my friends would consider me a bit dull, but that's more to do with the fact I don't much like clubbing etc - I would much rather a good book. To them that seems dull, but personally I think it's far more interesting.

Reply 14

dazmanultra

1

zzzzzoe

i think the more you try changing/"improving" your personality the more of it you lose!

There's nothing wrong with losing certain parts of your personality, for instance, with me the part of my personality back when I was 18 that was making me be more self conscious than I am now, or the part of me back when I started university which meant I actually didn't have a good night out unless I was drinking. I'm not going to be mourning the loss of those two traits. :smile:

Experiences change you, and more often than not for the better. You learn. You see things from other perspectives. You appreciate things you have, more. The best way to become a more interesting person, is to do more interesting things. Travel to interesting places, try some new hobbies.

One of my favourite books to recommend to people is "Yes Man" by Danny Wallace. It basically advocates saying "yes" more in your life. The author found himself in a rut, constantly looking for excuses to not go out, hang out with friends or try new things. He was in a habit of saying "no" to opportunities far too often. That changed when, as a bet with a friend he was challenged to say "yes" to every question asked of him for 6 months. The results were really very interesting, as well as humorous on occasion. Definitely check it out. :smile:

Reply 15

matt@internet

12

pink_lucie

'feel the fear and do it anyway' is good, cant remeber by who but its for women

Why is it for women? What's it about?

Reply 16

Dionysus

15

Well you've already identified two areas you like: football and guitar. Maybe join a football team and start playing your guitar, join a band.

Reply 17

Mernard

"dull" is a matter of opinion, surely. Feck whoever told you.

Reply 18

zzzzzoe

11

dazmanultra

There's nothing wrong with losing certain parts of your personality, for instance, with me the part of my personality back when I was 18 that was making me be more self conscious than I am now, or the part of me back when I started university which meant I actually didn't have a good night out unless I was drinking. I'm not going to be mourning the loss of those two traits. :smile:

Experiences change you, and more often than not for the better. You learn. You see things from other perspectives. You appreciate things you have, more. The best way to become a more interesting person, is to do more interesting things. Travel to interesting places, try some new hobbies.

One of my favourite books to recommend to people is "Yes Man" by Danny Wallace. It basically advocates saying "yes" more in your life. The author found himself in a rut, constantly looking for excuses to not go out, hang out with friends or try new things. He was in a habit of saying "no" to opportunities far too often. That changed when, as a bet with a friend he was challenged to say "yes" to every question asked of him for 6 months. The results were really very interesting, as well as humorous on occasion. Definitely check it out. :smile:

ohh hmm i dont know! id agree with what youre saying, but i think what i meant was just that you can't really pretend to be someone else other than yourself. does having interesting experiences change your personality? im not sure!

Reply 19

jumpinglunch

13

Whats so good about the person who told you that?

I'm dull

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