I'm a lad who doesn't like talking about sex - will I get anywhere in life?

I find it hard to 'boast' about my sexual exploits (not there is anything to boast about anyway) when talking to a group of lads. I am noticing this is an increasing problem for me. For everyone else this seems so natural and enjoyable but I find it embarrassing. I just do not want to talk about what I do with girls and what positions, and how hard etc. Maybe I'm just weird and boring, but if I turn my nose up at those conversations then I will surely get left behind in life.

Reply 1

Meep!

MY bf is very coy about talking about sex to his friends, and I'm pretty damn grateful for it. It'd be horrible if all his friends knew about our sex life. I don't think it's a bad thing to keep it private at all. Be proud of yourself that you don't feel the need to coast about it.

Reply 2

TSR Community Staff

Why will you get left behind?

Talk about what you want and what you feel comfortable with. Don't feel pressured in to talking about things you don't want to, otherwise you won't be honest with yourself.

If the people around you don't appreciate that, then are they worth knowing?

And no, you won't get left behind for being yourself and being comfortable in what you do. It might not be the easiest things at times, and you might not always find the people around you are true friends. But you'll be happier in the long run and still be yourself :smile:

Reply 3

Poica

You can be pretty sure that any girl you're with will appreciate this attitude. It's much cooler not to boast and just be secure in yourself.

Reply 4

laced

I'd say that it's more of a good thing! My boyfriend is the same and I think that's it's much better: some things are meant to be kept between two people. I'd have much more admiration for a lad who has respect for the girl he's sleeping with than to boast about what they've done, how many times etc.

I agree with the above poster - if you're not comfortable talking about it, don't feel pressurised into it.

Reply 5

hippieglitter

My boyfriend doesn't talk about our sex life in public, like most guys he does talk about sex in general but i don't really know any guys who would disrespect their girlfriends in that way to discuss what they get up to in bed. If you don't wanna talk about sex, don't talk about sex. Its your choice you're not gonna get left behind by not talking about it.

Reply 6

DodgyTrousers

I wouldn't worry about it, I never offer anything to those conversations either.
It's nothing more than adolescent chest-beating, and half the stuff you hear is a total lie anyway.

Besides, as said above you can bet the women you do see would far rather you kept their bedroom antics to yourself, it's not anyone else's business!

Reply 7

RaulS1987

I love boasting about my sex life. I tell everyone all about the positions, what dates, what time, how often, how long, what we say during the intercourse, what she suggests etc.

There is just one problem when I talk about it. Im a virgin. :tongue:

I think guys will respect you if you just come and out say that its private to you and you dont wanna talk about it. You SHOULD expect some teasing about it for awhile though. But thats just guys being guys right? I dont think theyll start excluding you etc. Or theyre just ***** anyway.

Its the same as hanging out with people that smoke and you dont, or drinking etc.