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I feel really rubbish!
I think this will end up being more of a release than asking for help.. but we'll see. I want to post as anon just incase any of my friends use TSR that I don't know about!
Basically, I have a group of "friends" that I don't really classify as friends because I don't really trust them and they have been disloyal to me in the past and stuff. They used to be best friends, but now they are more like aquaintances if you know what I mean.
I don't want to type out the whole story because there isn't really anything specific. It's just lots of things put together that's making me feel rubbish.
It's like they don't care about me. It's like I'm some bit on the side, the second best. But they pretend to be so nice about it. It's so hard to explain. It's not like their being bitchy, they're just so unknowingly two-faced and they use me like they don't know what they're doing. It's like they just can't be bothered and I don't really make any difference. I'm just there. And it doesn't make a difference whether I'm there or not.
A few days ago they had such a good time without me. (I don't have an issue with them having a good time without me, there's nothing wrong with that). I couldn't go because my trains were cancelled and I live further away than everyone else. So I spoke on the phone trying to explain to them and whether it was worth me taking the bus which would have taken much longer. But they just kept throwing the phone from one person to the other, like "yeah, whatever talk to [someone else]". In the end they said they'd call back after they had paid for food but they didn't.
There are also extra people coming into the picture. New faces that I haven't even met before and that they are all very close to. How can they be best friends with both? Especially when we haven't even met?! They even promised that these new people wouldn't be there the day I couldn't make it, but they were. We're all going to this thing in a few weeks and they promised that there won't be any new people there. But I've been told by someone else that they definitely will be there. Why can't they just be honest?
Sometimes I just want something bad to happen to me to see how much they care. I wish I could explain it more clearly. I'd like to have a strong friend unit because my family unit isn't very strong. I have to put friends first. Which is why I sometimes feel as though I have no one. From what I've written here, do you think they're worth it? I mean I can have such a laugh with these people, and we have some really good times, but I just really can't trust them and I feel so worthless sometimes.
Basically, I have a group of "friends" that I don't really classify as friends because I don't really trust them and they have been disloyal to me in the past and stuff. They used to be best friends, but now they are more like aquaintances if you know what I mean.
I don't want to type out the whole story because there isn't really anything specific. It's just lots of things put together that's making me feel rubbish.
It's like they don't care about me. It's like I'm some bit on the side, the second best. But they pretend to be so nice about it. It's so hard to explain. It's not like their being bitchy, they're just so unknowingly two-faced and they use me like they don't know what they're doing. It's like they just can't be bothered and I don't really make any difference. I'm just there. And it doesn't make a difference whether I'm there or not.
A few days ago they had such a good time without me. (I don't have an issue with them having a good time without me, there's nothing wrong with that). I couldn't go because my trains were cancelled and I live further away than everyone else. So I spoke on the phone trying to explain to them and whether it was worth me taking the bus which would have taken much longer. But they just kept throwing the phone from one person to the other, like "yeah, whatever talk to [someone else]". In the end they said they'd call back after they had paid for food but they didn't.
There are also extra people coming into the picture. New faces that I haven't even met before and that they are all very close to. How can they be best friends with both? Especially when we haven't even met?! They even promised that these new people wouldn't be there the day I couldn't make it, but they were. We're all going to this thing in a few weeks and they promised that there won't be any new people there. But I've been told by someone else that they definitely will be there. Why can't they just be honest?
Sometimes I just want something bad to happen to me to see how much they care. I wish I could explain it more clearly. I'd like to have a strong friend unit because my family unit isn't very strong. I have to put friends first. Which is why I sometimes feel as though I have no one. From what I've written here, do you think they're worth it? I mean I can have such a laugh with these people, and we have some really good times, but I just really can't trust them and I feel so worthless sometimes.
Reply 1
Why are you hanging out with them if all they see you as is a doormat.
Reply 3
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Why are you hanging out with them if all they see you as is a doormat.
Because we had a talk about all of this recently, after a short period of me giving them the cold shoulder. And they seemed really apologetic and insisted that they really wanted me to be their friend. They were getting quite teary about it too. I don't know, I don't want to bring up another talk again.
I have a lot of friends. But everyone has a group of best friends don't they? I couldn't be without these people but at the same time I'm feeling really bad around them.
I know family should come before friends, but we're not very close.
Reply 4
Are they treating you like a doormat again since you started talking to them?
Reply 5
I wouldn't say they're treating me like a doormat. It's like they don't know what they're doing. But yeah, it's kinda gone back to normal but they're "nicer" these days.
Reply 6
no offence but GIVE UP i spent all of secondry school and nearly enough my first year of college following an trailing after 'friends' who didnt actully give a ****.
**** them, they have nothing for you.
**** them, they have nothing for you.
Reply 7
How do you think I should go about it? Ignore them? Talk to them and tell them I don't feel comfortable anymore? I've done all of that before, they'll think I'm doing it for attention or something.. 
Reply 8
**** em.
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