Creating jealously with girls

Hi

I'm a guy and there are these two girls at uni whom I've been flirting with and teasin for the past 2 weeks or so - they are v.clearly are attracted to me. :wink:

They know I've been gaming both of them at the same time and I'm pretty sure they talk about me. Now there's this third girl who gets really touchy-feely with me; i'm not necessarily attracted to her but I've been using her, admittedly inadvertently, as a pawn to create jealously amongst the first two girls. This worked as i've had the first two girls come up to me and say "you're so sick, you flirt with everyone/you're such a flirt".

So my question is: would you be put-off by someone who constantly flirted with other girls?

Reply 1

username47781

20

Er yes I think many girls would be put off by this, look if you really like one of those girls stop playing games like this.

Reply 2

Helenia

20

Yes. Playing games is not cool.

Reply 3

Ilora-Danon

3

Being a player will only get you a bad reputation. I wouldn't go near a player with a ten foot barge pole.

Reply 4

YouAreWhatYouEat

are you completely dumb OP!!!........

do you think your gunna get replies like 'yeah girls find it immensely attractive that you flirt with other girls' :rolleyes:

...........

Reply 5

username47781

20

The other problem is, you could end up losing all three girls and not having another girl come near you.

Reply 6

bone-machine

9

Anonymous

Hi

I'm a guy and there are these two girls at uni whom I've been flirting with and teasin for the past 2 weeks or so - they are v.clearly are attracted to me. :wink:

They know I've been gaming both of them at the same time and I'm pretty sure they talk about me. Now there's this third girl who gets really touchy-feely with me; i'm not necessarily attracted to her but I've been using her, admittedly inadvertently, as a pawn to create jealously amongst the first two girls. This worked as i've had the first two girls come up to me and say "you're so sick, you flirt with everyone/you're such a flirt".

So my question is: would you be put-off by someone who constantly flirted with other girls?

YES. its total turn off. i am in the situation of thse girsl, a guy flirts with me crazily at uni and via texts and at some parties.....then at other parties ignores me and flirts outrageously with other girls infront of me. it doesnt make me jealous as such...just more convinced that im just ANOTHER one of the girls he flirts, with, needless to say if his aim was to make me jealous to bag me... its failed because i dont feel 'special' if you know what i mean, and i didnt want to risk telling him my feelings because im not sure if im the one he REALLY likes.

also any feeling i did have for him sart fading becuase hes acting like a total cock in my eyes
bad plan stop its CHILDISH, your in uni now, women want more mature men now not boys playing mind games

Reply 7

hippieglitter

19

Games are for kids, if you like one of them go for that one and stop playing with the other two, its not fair on any of them to get their hopes up and knock them down again.

Reply 8

Tyrannosaurus Cal

15

You'll only end up getting bitten at both ends

Reply 9

k-lee C

......

is this a joke? what do you expect our answers to be? "yes, go for it, flirt with everyone! nothing turns a girl on more than to see him lavishing attention on everyone else, only talking to us in an effort to make the other girls jealous!"

to be honest, some just having a bit of a flirty personality is okay. but you are doing it in a calculated and manipulative way, with the aim of actually hurting these girls. that just makes you an arse.

Reply 10

randomgirl

14

Yes.

Don't waste time playing mind games. Life is short.

'nuff said :wink:

Anonymous

Hi

I'm a guy and there are these two girls at uni whom I've been flirting with and teasin for the past 2 weeks or so - they are v.clearly are attracted to me. :wink:

They know I've been gaming both of them at the same time and I'm pretty sure they talk about me. Now there's this third girl who gets really touchy-feely with me; i'm not necessarily attracted to her but I've been using her, admittedly inadvertently, as a pawn to create jealously amongst the first two girls. This worked as i've had the first two girls come up to me and say "you're so sick, you flirt with everyone/you're such a flirt".

So my question is: would you be put-off by someone who constantly flirted with other girls?

I disagree (to some extent) with most of the advice so far.

The girls are interested in you. Clearly. All three of them. Why? Because they want you to be interested in them alone. You make them laugh with the teasing and flirting and they like that and want more. And what is teasing and flirting if not playing games?

A not-playing-games conversation is like this:

Boy: Hello...
Girl: Hey..?
Boy: You are aesthetically pleasing. I want to speak to you. Come on a date with me.
Girl: Shove it, weirdo.

Booooooooooring. And unsuccessful.

The caveat to my disagreement with the "don't play games" brigade is this: know when to stop the games. If there is actually a girl you really like, then go for it.

However, the "you're such a flirt" comment from a girl is..... HER FLIRTING! (Ahhh, clever huh! :p:

) It's not a serious complaint.

Reply 13

Seanisonfire

15

Sehnsucht

A not-playing-games conversation is like this:

Boy: Hello...
Girl: Hey..?
Boy: You are aesthetically pleasing. I want to speak to you. Come on a date with me.
Girl: Shove it, weirdo.

Stop spying on Angus Higgins :wink:

Reply 14

donuticus

12

You Sir, are quite simply a git.

Reply 15

Ironic_

I pity those girls who are blind enough to like you. Hopefully they'll see sense and you will stop treating people like a joke. Best case scenario, they'll see how immature you are and treat YOU like a joke to see how you like it.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

Sehnsucht

I disagree (to some extent) with most of the advice so far.

The girls are interested in you. Clearly. All three of them. Why? Because they want you to be interested in them alone. You make them laugh with the teasing and flirting and they like that and want more. And what is teasing and flirting if not playing games?

A not-playing-games conversation is like this:

Boy: Hello...
Girl: Hey..?
Boy: You are aesthetically pleasing. I want to speak to you. Come on a date with me.
Girl: Shove it, weirdo.

Booooooooooring. And unsuccessful.

The caveat to my disagreement with the "don't play games" brigade is this: know when to stop the games. If there is actually a girl you really like, then go for it.

However, the "you're such a flirt" comment from a girl is..... HER FLIRTING! (Ahhh, clever huh! :p:

) It's not a serious complaint.

Dude, that's exactly it. The first two girls are really hot and are used to getting tonnes of attention from guys (which is flattering but boring). The last thing I want is to be classed as some of the chumps at uni who place them on a pedestal and acts all 'nice' to them and pretend to be their best friend - that will get them no where.

I think the reason why they like me is because, while I give them some attention and flirt with them, I don't act all nice and I come across as a challenge to them. I'd rather be called "rude (in a jokey way)" than "sweet" from girls (girls won't understand this, I would imagine)

yeah i know i shouldn't play with their minds but quite frankly they're enjoying it inasmuch i am - they think i'm fun and unpredictable and i like hanging out with them...no harm in that.

BTW...you've some serious game. :p:

Reply 17

U2doc

k-lee C

......

is this a joke? what do you expect our answers to be? "yes, go for it, flirt with everyone! nothing turns a girl on more than to see him lavishing attention on everyone else, only talking to us in an effort to make the other girls jealous!"

to be honest, some just having a bit of a flirty personality is okay. but you are doing it in a calculated and manipulative way, with the aim of actually hurting these girls. that just makes you an arse.