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Am I being unreasonable?

Am having a mini-fight with the boyfriend and feel totally justified - but I'm a bit high on pain killers and delerious from flu so I could be wrong and want an outside opinion.

The background:
1. I live in the east of the city, he lives in the centre and he works in the west
2. From my house to his work would be about an hour's walk, and he has no other transport right now, whereas from his house to my lectures is more like 10 mins on a bike, so fairly naturally during the week we stay at his.
3. This week I've been coming down with freshers flu (not that i'm a fresher - just freshers committee and they've infected me!)
4. We made a pretty big deal out of the fact that this weekend I would meet him after work and then we would stay at mine until Sunday morning when we'd go our separate ways to go to church.

What's wrong:

I spend yesterday afternoon in town buying nice food and renting films and stuff so this would be a nice weekend. In the process I may have sort of cycled into a car because I was pretty dizzy and shouldn't really have been on the road. About half 4 he texts me to say he's going to be at work late and it could be as late as 8 when he turns up. So I grump a bit about having hung around in town but go home.


About 6 he calls to say that a friend of his is back in town (having been travelling) and wants to go out for dinner. I say fine fine go without me but he's pretty insistent that we stay together so, thinking this restaurant is fairly near my house (two restaurants with same name, I've been to the one near my house with said travelling-friend before so stupidly assumed...) I agree. Then I find out this is actually right by his house so I get a 45 min walk in the cold to get there.

He says he'll come walk to meet me but sets off late and I only find this out when I call him at the time he's meant to arrive to ask where he is, which just gets me more irritated

Anyway after a night of me coughing and sneezing and looking like death warmed up he sort of realises that oh I'm ill and feverish and just wanted to be in my own bed and apologises profusely (I go home anyway, sort of to prove a point and mostly because my bed is a lot nicer than his) and promises he'll come running tomorrow (now today) when I text

So I texted him @ 11 and said come over @ 1 for lunch? And he says it'll have to be later cos he has things to do.

Now my whole nice weekend in bed in my flat has turned into him coming over about 8 tonight and staying til tomorrow morning. Do I have a right to be as upset as I am?
Reply 1
Anyone?
Reply 2
Yeah i think so. I'd explain precisely how you feel! Maybe he'll feel bad and make it up to you xx