Can&#x27;t be as serious and sincere as I want to be at school

OP

It's at sixth form actually not school. I feel it's quite a Britsih thing, this hatred of seriousness, sincerity even

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Thud

17

So ignore everyone else. Yes you'll be the unpopular clever kid but at least you'll go somewhere.

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OP

Thats kind of how it is. I feel under pressure but I'd be just as under pressure if I was more involved with my peer group, cos people aren't a help.

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OP

Whats more I'm achieving a lot academically, I've always been honest and OK in my dealings with people, yet people who dont achieve anything and are just ****ty at times to people get so much more respect than me. People seem to have a twisted idea of what they respect and I don't command enough, get patronised an it ****s me off. I'm battling to make something of my life against all these *****, with a psychological disadvantage of it seeming like I'm not getting anywhere when I am... :frown:

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OP

Sorry the thread topic had kind of changed. I just feel quite alone, would like help on any part of the thread.

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*Messalina*

I completely understand - unfortunately it's a sad fact of life that some people are s***s. If you want to be more serious and concentrate on academic things, then do it and to hell with them! Ultimately it'll be you going to a great uni and being really successful in the future, not them.

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Crimson Black

13

Don't worry about it, you're right, school imparts a twisted sense of respect where those who are the biggest tossers are the most admired (apparently). Just live through it, it's intelligence and commitment that is rewarded in the 'real world'.

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OP

Crimson Black

Don't worry about it, you're right, school imparts a twisted sense of respect where those who are the biggest tossers are the most admired (apparently). Just live through it, it's intelligence and commitment that is rewarded in the 'real world'.

That post so hits home. Thanks for your words. :smile:

Reply 9

Just bear with it. It'll only last for 2 years and you're bound to find others who share your view during that time.
And afterwards you'll end up at a decent uni and be really successful while the "low mentality people" will be working in McDonald's or call centres for the rest of their lives.

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Crimson Black

Don't worry about it, you're right, school imparts a twisted sense of respect where those who are the biggest tossers are the most admired (apparently).

That is true to some extent. But actually these "tossers" are only admired by their loud-mouth lackeys. The majority who appear to remain indifferent probably truly dislike them.

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OP

alex_hk90

And afterwards you'll end up at a decent uni and be really successful while the "low mentality people" will be working in McDonald's or call centres for the rest of their lives.

If only that were true. Some of them do pretty well, seem to blag their way through. I'm just worried my anxiety will make me screw up.

Reply 12

Revenga

Do you really need or want their respect anyway? Personally I don't care much for having the respect of ******s, if they don't like me they can piss off as far as I'm concerned. Do what you do best, and if there is anyone worthy there they will respect you for what you are. If you don't find anyone immediately, don't worry because you will eventually, whether it be at University or whenever.

It may be a long and lonely road, but it has an end. When you reach it you'll be far more of a success than those ****ers ever will be.

Reply 13

Anonymous

If only that were true. Some of them do pretty well, seem to blag their way through. I'm just worried my anxiety will make me screw up.

They'll be found out eventually. Don't worry about it.
I know it's obvious but try not to be so anxious if you think it'll screw you up. :wink:

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Revenga

Anonymous

If only that were true. Some of them do pretty well, seem to blag their way through. I'm just worried my anxiety will make me screw up.

Don't worry, the gap will start to grow very soon. Come university and the people who don't put in the effort will fail, there is a lot more personal study to do so if you are doing a difficult degree you can't just blag your way through.

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OP

Revenga

Do you really need or want their respect anyway? .

I don't care for being admired by them. I just want them to not be cheeky and act like dicks towards me, when I consider my conduct makes me more worthy of respect than the dicks they don't have the balls to stand up to.

Unfortunately not all the dicks will do badly though, some will, some will be successful, dickishness is indepedent of success.

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Anonymous

I don't care for being admired by them. I just want them to not be cheeky and act like dicks towards me, when I consider my conduct makes me more worthy of respect than the dicks they don't have the balls to stand up to.

Ignore them, and don't act like you think you deserve more respect than them.
If you do then they'll just continue annoying you.

Reply 17

Revenga

Anonymous

I don't care for being admired by them. I just want them to not be cheeky and act like dicks towards me, when I consider my conduct makes me more worthy of respect than the dicks they don't have the balls to stand up to.

Unfortunately not all the dicks will do badly though, some will, some will be successful, dickishness is indepedent of success.

Unfortunately I have to admit that is true to a degree, but don't worry, success comes in many forms, and even if they end up rich they will still be ********s, and people will treat them accordingly. What goes around comes around.

Just rise above it, ignore them as best as possible and concentrate on your life and your success, if they are dicks, tell them to **** off. Have more respect for yourself.

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OP

alex_hk90

Ignore them, and don't act like you think you deserve more respect than them.
If you do then they'll just continue annoying you.

Oh don't get me worng, I'm not someone who acts like I'm importasnt or success means you have the right to misteat people.
When I said worthy of respect I meant I base that some ob ability./achievement but a lot on conduct. I guess I mean it seems perverse that some people just get respect unconditionally and are never stood up to, even though they treat others how they want .

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