Don't know how to approach this..

Ok. I met a guy about 2 weeks ago and at the moment we're "seeing each other". We've probably seen each other about 7 times in the past 14 days.

Anyway he's really nice, my friends think he's awesome. He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met. On Thursday night he came over and we watched a film, talked and then went to bed. In the morning he left really early, even though he had no need, and was a bit off.

I thought nothing of it.

Until yesterday afternoon when I spoke to my house mate and asked her if I could invite Matt* out tonight. She said yes but i need to speak to you first. So we went into her room and she told me and showed me the texts that he'd texted her that morning saying that he was freaked out.

So she asked why and he replied with something like "I like her. She's a really nice girl but when she starts saying things like never leave me, i want to be with you forever then i start to freak"

So my friend texted back "that really doesn't sound like her but i'll have a word with her" && he texted back "thanks"

First off I didn't say anything like that. I'm the sort of girl who freaks out if a guy puts 4 kisses in a text, or if they want to see me everyday etc. I wouldn't say that to a guy after 2 years let alone 2 weeks. My longest relationships been a month so to say something like that to him is practically unheard of for me. I was a little hurt at the fact he was communicating with my friend so i asked her to text back. For arguments sake we both agreed just to say i'd said it but didn't mean it in that way etc etc and he sent one back saying ok he'd see how it goes.

I got a text from him last night telling me he hoped i'd had a good day. So I sent one back saying yes. hope you had too. very blunt. A few texts later he asked me what I was doing and I said I was going out with my girl friends, to which he replied, oh was going to come round and speak but doesn't matter. So I informed him we weren't going till late and he was more than welcome to come round and speak. He said he'd be late so no. So I replied with okie dokie. speak soon.

About half an hour later I got a text back saying hope you're not mad at me for speaking to your friend.

In actual truth I was still a little peeved because I would have rather him come to me and then I could explain things to him but I sent one back basically saying no. don't worry about it. you could have done worse things. He sent one back saying hehe good. have a good night hun. think of me bored alone whilst you're having fun. lol x.

And that's all I've heard from him. But I'm at a bit of a loss. I'd text him now to say "hope you're having a good day" but I'm now scared he'll take that the wrong way. I'd invite him out somewhere next week but I'm worried he'll think I'm getting too obsessed.

Which I'm not. We usually text in the morning, maybe a random text in the afternoon and then in the evening.

Basically I just want advice on how to take this possible relationship from now on. I really do like this guy and under no circumstances do I want to ruin anything and scare him off. but i'm so worried now that the little things I did before are gonna. Should I text him tonight? or wait until the end of the weekend? If I don't will he think I don't like him anymore?

Thanks in advance for any advice :smile:

and sorry about the length of the post. I honestly didn't think it'd be that long. heh.

Reply 1

Donald Duck

If its normal for you guys to send a random message in the evening, just send one. Just don't make it clingy, like "Are you free tonight? Tomorrow ... is on the tv, and I thought it would be nice to see it together etc".