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Correct anology?

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Are they analogous?

We all know that girls like rich guys (or guys with a rich family)

Guys like pretty girls.




But girls who are attracted to rich guys are normally looked down at. i.e A girl said that she didn't want to be friends with another girl because she said 'I could love any man who is rich enough.'

So my question is, is that analogous to guys like pretty girls? i.e I can see how some guys may say 'I could love any girl who is pretty enough.'

Is both as 'wrong' as each other? Or is one more wrong then the other?

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Germi
We all know that girls like rich guys (or guys with a rich family)

Guys like pretty girls.




But girls who are attracted to rich guys are normally looked down at. i.e A girl said that she didn't want to be friends with another girl because she said 'I could love any man who is rich enough.'

So my question is, is that analogous to guys like pretty girls? i.e I can see how some guys may say 'I could love any girl who is pretty enough.'

Is both as 'wrong' as each other? Or is one more wrong then the other?



Interesting ...

Loving any girl who's 'pretty enough' suggests a strong physical attraction. Loving a guy for his money suggests... superficiality and greed.

Your idea intrigues me. I think you should only love someone for love. Whatever that means.
Germi
We all know that girls like rich guys (or guys with a rich family)


Oh god, I HATE rich guys!? That'd be one of the first things to scare my off a guy, if he had loads more money than me. I hate it! I'dwant to go out with a guy I could keep up with financially. And I don't like being bought anything, I don't like when I can't afford the same things. If we were moving in together, I wouldn't live anywhere or buy anything that I couldn't afford half of so it'd be awkward.

Plus a guy who was richer than me would make me feel not good enough. I have to be the richer one! :redface:
Reply 3
They are in a way, they're both statements that imply that you could be with someone for something other than their personality, ie. to satisfy your own greed/shallow lust, regardless of what else there is to the other person.
Reply 4
Not even close. It's natural to want a good looking girl. It's not natural to get with someone for money.
I don't think so. Girls who are after a guy for money are greedy. I think guys, to be attracted to a girl in the start of a relationship, must be attracted physically (at least I do). That doesn't mean I could love any hot girl, but that any girl I fall in love with must be hot. They are 2 different things, compared to your friend.
Reply 6
Nessyfencer
Not even close. It's natural to want a good looking girl. It's not natural to get with someone for money.


Yes it is - what could be a more fundamental instinct than to want choose a partner that can protect you and your offspring?
Reply 7
Zoecb
Yes it is - what could be a more fundamental instinct than to want choose a partner that can protect you and your offspring?

That's making a huge assumption though, that money = protection. Chances are, the rich guy will continue to love his money more than his partner (she is just there for his money after all), and choose money over her well-being every time. Someone poor would be more likely to fight anyone who threatened his family (IMO).
Reply 8
Nessyfencer
Chances are, the rich guy will continue to love his money more than his partner (she is just there for his money after all), and choose money over her well-being every time.

Well, that's also a huge assumption. Rich guys are people who have a lot of money. Not necessarily guys who are in love with a lot of money. Given the same motivation to protect and support, and all things equal apart from income and wealth, a rich guy will be able to do it better than a poor guy as he will be able to locate better resources.
I'd agree with Dilute. If you fall in love with a girl, you chose the money after her, assuming its a long term relationship etc... Money does buy you protection, now if it is from people getting shot near your house, bad schools -> bullying, or from food which harms your body.
Reply 10
Germi
We all know that girls like rich guys (or guys with a rich family)

Guys like pretty girls.


Way to generalise.

:smile:
Reply 11
i would never date a guy just for his money. i personally think that wealth is irrelevant. i mean okay yes it would be nice to marry someone rich for financial security for your kids etc.. but i wouldnt do that if i didnt love him.

neither would i not date a rich guy cause he was so rich =S.

ao OP i think thats a huge assumption your making there!
Reply 12
Dilute
Well, that's also a huge assumption. Rich guys are people who have a lot of money. Not necessarily guys who are in love with a lot of money. Given the same motivation to protect and support, and all things equal apart from income and wealth, a rich guy will be able to do it better than a poor guy as he will be able to locate better resources.

But would he be willing to do so? Remember, she is only with him for money, there is no real relationship there.
Reply 13
Nessyfencer
Chances are, the rich guy will continue to love his money more than his partner (she is just there for his money after all), and choose money over her well-being every time. Someone poor would be more likely to fight anyone who threatened his family (IMO).

What's to say that a good looking person won't go off with another person, because they know they can, or that they won't love their looks better and neglect the children or whatever?
Reply 14
Physical attraction, aka finding a girl 'pretty' is pretty much a prerequisite to a relationship, whereas the guy being rich isn't.
Reply 15
*Katie*
What's to say that a good looking person won't go off with another person, because they know they can, or that they won't love their looks better and neglect the children or whatever?

There is nothing to say that it won't happen, but there is a connection there that the rich guy and girl don't have. The fact that he finds her that good looking means that he wants her all the more and wants to stay with her.
Some boys kiss me, some boys hug me, I think they're ok:
If they don't give me proper credit, I just walk away :p:
I think it's justified for a woman to want a man with money. I also think it's perfectly fine for a man to want a pretty woman. I mean, personally, I want a wealthy and beautiful woman. And one who can cook well.

Of course there are degrees w**kerishness within this. For example, a man who would never speak to a woman who isn't a supermodel or a woman who would only marry a millionaire are both pretty sad. But wanting some level of financial stability or wanting to think "hottt" when you see your partner is pretty normal.
I don't like rich guys. They often think they can get any girl because they have the money to do anything. They are often more concieted and over confident. I know this is probably a huge generalization but I'm basing this off of my personal experiences.

As for guys who likes only pretty girls, it seems fine at first. Because there is a physical attraction a relationship can occur, but the chances of it lasting as not likely.

For both cases, you can't just base a relationship purely on how much a person makes or how pretty they are. There has to be an emotional attraction as well. People often overlook this, which is why you hear couples breaking up as soon as they got together in the first place.
Reply 19
I am starting to think that they are different. Although to answer this question correctly one has to have been both a male and female which is impossible.