2 Unsuitable guys

I met a guy at uni and went out with him for about 2 years,, I really loved him and he loved me but we used to argue a lot and he had a lot of diffulties with money, studying ect which put a strain on things. He was a muslim with quite a strict family so we had to keep things a secret from them and i wasnt able to talk 2 him on the phone when they were with him and he couldnt stay round at mine too often as he had to lie about it. He promised we would be together properly when we left uni but this was looking unlikely as he was failing his degree and took a year out so will end up graduating after me anyway.

Basically in the end I had enough so split up with him. I had other things going on and had got a well paid job in corporate finance so I thought why should I hang aroung with some1 whose family think im not good enough even tho im more sucessful than him.

I then met another guy who I got on really well with and found him attractive. He was a realy nice guy but very arragont and seems to flirt around a lot. I was seeing him for a couple of months but went off him a bit . He hasnt really done anything wrong apart from he seems really busy and doesnt always pick up his phone ect ect.. so i acted really cold with him just to show him I wasnt that bothered.

Now Ive found out my ex wants to get back with me, I still love him but im not sure if it will work. Also if he ever found out about the other guy I was seeing when we werent together then he would dump me for sure.

Not sure which one (if any) i should go for.

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If you love him, then go for it why not?....But remember, if his family are that bad he will eventually have to tell them about you. So bare that in mind, I am sure in the end it will sort itself out. My bro married outside his race, parents got the hump, but they now they are soo cool about it and adore my grandkids and sister-in-law

Basically in the end I had enough so split up with him. I had other things going on and had got a well paid job in corporate finance so I thought why should I hang aroung with some1 whose family think im not good enough even tho im more sucessful than him.

I then met another guy who I got on really well with and found him attractive. He was a realy nice guy but very arragont and seems to flirt around a lot. I was seeing him for a couple of months but went off him a bit . He hasnt really done anything wrong apart from he seems really busy and doesnt always pick up his phone ect ect.. so i acted really cold with him just to show him I wasnt that bothered.

Now Ive found out my ex wants to get back with me, I still love him but im not sure if it will work. Also if he ever found out about the other guy I was seeing when we werent together then he would dump me for sure.

Not sure which one (if any) i should go for.

Second guy, these guys are tricky. He could EITHER be like that, or just be acting that way because he thinks thats the only way he can create attraction. Ever heard of the expression 'alpha male' - well he is acting like one. By being unavaliable, busy, and arrogant and cocky. The paradox is, he may actually not be that way and is only doing that to get you in the state where you are actually considering him to be a possibility.

Thank you mod for removing the anon. *hi five*