Relationship paranoia

I'm really confused.

I was best friends with this girl, and we ended up starting going out a few months ago. Before we had went out, I'd definetly noticed she had a tendency to go after lots of guys, I can think about 6 or 7 in the past 4-5 months, quite a few close friends to us both. We've been going out since July now, but I can't stop feeling paranoid she is going to end up kissing another guy, it's messing with my mind in that I can constantly see pictures of her doing it, and images of her in my head with my friends she had been with. I really love her, definetly do, and she has said the same (she has offered me to move in with her etc).
Recently, however, at a university party, she was getting really close to one of my friends who had came back from living in Ireland, and I felt quite a few times was rejecting company with me to be with him. She had said she was helping him find a pull, but now I'm hearing from a few close friends he has said she offered to do things with him in the background, and said she'd kiss him if she wasn't going out with me. :frown:

She denies it and everything, but she was drunk, and she's like that when shes drunk.
Today also, one of her work colleagues told her guys were all sleazes after the workmate found out she'd been cheated on. She said she shouldn't trust me and I'd eventually cheat (which I would never ****ing do, never). Anyway, we talked about it some more, and she eventually said "I haven't even tried to, which freaked me out even more that shes going to.

What should I dooo :frown:

Reply 1

dh00001

really you need to put it out of your mind. it sounds hard and it is but its better that way.
if you continue to dwell on what could happen it will **** you up inside and pull the two of you apart.
shes with you for a reason after all

Reply 2

username47781

Yeah she is with you because she wants you, remember that.

Reply 3

rawkingpunkster

Maybe she wants him now, but might change in a month or so...

I guess if you're worrying and the time, and she isnt helping you with them, then maybe you two shouldnt be together.

Reply 4

Palinurus

1) as the smart man said, she's with you because she wants to be.

2) wouldn't it be better if you focused your thoughts on how you can make her happy, rather than speculating idly on what might possibly happen in the future?? that will at least xtrengthen your relationship.

Reply 5

Georgiahoneybee

If you really want to make it work with her, and you obviously do if you love her, you've got to put these thoughts out of your head.
She does sound like a bit of a flirt, which obviously doesn't help the situation.
Have you been cheated on in the past or anything?
Don't accuse her of doing anything, because that will just make her defensive and feel like you don't trust her.

Reply 6

Arteta

Yeah you shouldn't accuse her of anything until you have proof. Until you have proof you shouldn't mention anything to her, even if she was cheating she'd try harder to hide it if you're suspicious. If you don't know anything, or appear to not know anything she'd be more relaxed about it and you could catch her out.

But don't just believe what others say, you should trust her...you're best friends. She wants to be with you, why would she want to mess that up?

Reply 7

Lauren-silk

rock fan told me this........she is with you for a reason and you dont need to be paranoid talk to her about it and if she knows she is doing it then she will change for you if she really does love you

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