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I feel like I'm missing out

Ok firstly im male and first year at uni. I know this thread prolly have been posted many many times before, but its just something I have to get outa my chest. So please bear with me, thank you.

Basically Im not living at halls, and its been 3 weeks since uni started. I went to one fresher's event, which was clubbing, the people I went with... well I don't talk to them much anymore. I've met a few good people. This one guy who is living in halls, and I sit next to him in lectures sometimes, hes really friendly, he even asked me to go clubbing with him and his friends few days ago, but I couldn't because I lived too far away and had to work the next day. This guy has a few friends on my course, they all live in halls and live in the same hall I think. When I tag along with them during lunch or something, I feel like Im an outsider, not because Im new to the 'group', its because when they talk about 'so and so did that thing in the hall last night and it was hilarious'... I wont have a clue to what they're on.

Im not exactely a club person, mainly because I haven't been clubbing alot, but I really prefer going to gym, do a sport, or just socialise in the pub. I feel like I haven't got friends lol. Because outside of uni I don't really contact with any of the people from uni.

Anyways my rant is over, if any1 can give me any advice on what I should do or think is welcome, if you want to flame me - go for it lol because I know I'm pathetic atm!

Thanks for reading this boring post!
who cares what so and so did in the hall, thats pathetic.
Have you joined any sports socs/teams? That would be a great way of meeting people (on a regular basis usually too).

I say make an effort with the guy on your course, next time he invites you clubbing go!

:smile:
Even if you don't enjoy clubbing, if you go with them a few times it's a way of getting yourself a foothold in the group and they might call you up to do other things aswell.
Reply 4
randomgirl
Have you joined any sports socs/teams? That would be a great way of meeting people (on a regular basis usually too).

I say make an effort with the guy on your course, next time he invites you clubbing go!

:smile:

Im planning on joining the investment soc, and rock climbing soc. But yeah you're right I should make an effort with him.
And to the poster above randomgirl, you're right I am pathetic :frown:
Reply 5
You could always take a sleeping bag with you and stay round someones halls if you really want to. That's what most people at my uni are doing if they're doing something the next day or staying out late etc.
Reply 6
Anonymous
Ok firstly im male and first year at uni. I know this thread prolly have been posted many many times before, but its just something I have to get outa my chest. So please bear with me, thank you.

Basically Im not living at halls, and its been 3 weeks since uni started. I went to one fresher's event, which was clubbing, the people I went with... well I don't talk to them much anymore. I've met a few good people. This one guy who is living in halls, and I sit next to him in lectures sometimes, hes really friendly, he even asked me to go clubbing with him and his friends few days ago, but I couldn't because I lived too far away and had to work the next day. This guy has a few friends on my course, they all live in halls and live in the same hall I think. When I tag along with them during lunch or something, I feel like Im an outsider, not because Im new to the 'group', its because when they talk about 'so and so did that thing in the hall last night and it was hilarious'... I wont have a clue to what they're on.

Im not exactely a club person, mainly because I haven't been clubbing alot, but I really prefer going to gym, do a sport, or just socialise in the pub. I feel like I haven't got friends lol. Because outside of uni I don't really contact with any of the people from uni.

Anyways my rant is over, if any1 can give me any advice on what I should do or think is welcome, if you want to flame me - go for it lol because I know I'm pathetic atm!

Thanks for reading this boring post!


lol you sound soooooooo much like me. in fact, i could almost have written that. however the only difference between us is that im happy with only having a select group of good friends. the only thing which is wrong with my life atm is that i would really like a gf. but girls dont even pay attention to me so i guess im just going to have to wait. :rolleyes:
Im in my 4th year at uni, and lived at home for 3, (living back home in my final year), and I felt as though i was missing out so i moved into halls for my 3rd yr, didnt feel like i missed much tbh! ive still got close friends not living in, so i wouldnt worry too much about anything
Reply 8
Haha, I know what you mean. I live with a couple (which was possibly one of the biggest mistakes I could have made) and two other guys, and they NEVER want to go out. I have some friends in other groups and whilst I do go out with them sometimes, I always feel on the edge of the group, or like I'm only there cos I'm friends with X, Y or Z. Feel so lonely sometimes. Like this weekend, my housemates have not left the house, despite my attempts to get them to do something, and I don't think I'm close enough to anyone else to just invite myself over... I'm in 2nd year and it feels like everyone is in their set groups now, and trying to change that is awkward. It's really depressing.
Reply 9
halls are pretty much boring 98% of the time. dont worry you aren't missing much. what so and so did in the hall usually consists of - somebody screaming when they were drunk and waking everybody up. the novelty soon wears off
its ok i'm in the same position. I moved to cardiff early and didn't even consider halls. It can sometimes seem like your missing out, trust me i've had that feeing a million times.

I'm not really a clubbing person either, i prefer nice pubs and gigs lol

It is important to make an effort with people. I've made a couple friends already and we are tackling the rest of our class one by one lol

I know its hard to break the ice but normally i just talk about work and then gradually swing the conversation onto nights out and stuff.

Maybe suggest buying a few beers and heading over to their halls for an evening?