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There's a guy I know, a friend of a friend, who I talk to on MSN, text frequently (well, he texts me), and I've met once for a coffee...
He's recently invited me to the cinema with him...now I wouldn't really mind, but I think he says it as a "date"...whereas I don't think of him as anything more than a friend. He's keeps hinting he likes me: eg, calls me beautiful, talks about how he wants a nice girlfriend, etc.
At the moment, I'm thinking of going, but if he makes it obvious he wants more than friendship, to tell him I'm not interested...
But I don't know!
Ideas?
There's a guy I know, a friend of a friend, who I talk to on MSN, text frequently (well, he texts me), and I've met once for a coffee...
He's recently invited me to the cinema with him...now I wouldn't really mind, but I think he says it as a "date"...whereas I don't think of him as anything more than a friend. He's keeps hinting he likes me: eg, calls me beautiful, talks about how he wants a nice girlfriend, etc.
At the moment, I'm thinking of going, but if he makes it obvious he wants more than friendship, to tell him I'm not interested...
But I don't know!
Ideas?
Reply 1
Anyone?
Reply 2
Maybe you can ask him if you can bring a friend along? That would pretty much hint it to him that you don't like him. You could just tell him you only see him as a friend or you're not interested in dating anyone at the moment.
Reply 3
Why don't you just be honest and tell him you want friendship only.
Reply 4
Oh I dunno...dress down and just say something like 'it's great we can just hang out together like this. I'm glad we can get on as mates despite being the opposite sex'.
Reply 5
18
just sleep with himReply 6
Rock Fan
Why don't you just be honest and tell him you want friendship only.
well i've never said anything to suggest i want anything more...
Reply 7
Just tell him that he is a good friend, ask to bring somebody else along etc.
I'm sure he'll get the idea.
I'm sure he'll get the idea.
Reply 8
Anonymous
well i've never said anything to suggest i want anything more...
The easiest way to get the message across will be to say "yeah, we can go to the cinema..." Then after it is organised you tell him, "hey, we could invite [mutual friend] along."
He will either cancel (he doesn't want to be friends, he just wants you as a gf) or go along (either he feels too embarrassed to cancel, or he is happy with just friends).
Edit: Randomgirl ^^ beat me to it.
Reply 9
Anonymous
well i've never said anything to suggest i want anything more...
Maybe you are giving off that signal but maybe you don't realise it. Sometimes you have guys that you are simply not interested.
Reply 10
The thing is - on the day he's invited me to go with him, most of my mates are working. (And he knows that)
Reply 11
Anonymous
The thing is - on the day he's invited me to go with him, most of my mates are working. (And he knows that)
Or tell him about this guy that you have a huge crush, making it obvious that he's not him (describe his features, say you work with him etc.) I know everyone will say "just be honest"
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