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Boy that doesn't get along with boys!

This is going to sound really wierd, growing up, there was more girls around than boys.

That must be why now I feel like I get a long more with girls. But I'm a boy! I don't know what to do.

Sometimes I get a really strong feeling that I want to be one of the guys, the rest of the time part of me feels like I have a wall up against guys. Like, I want to be individual, not a typical guy, cos girls always complain about them.

Its wierd. I don't know what to do, my heads messed up. :s-smilie:

Eep. Help

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

AND i don't know what to say to them when I'm with them. Its like I freeze. I don't want them to judge me badly. Help

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Please somebody reply

Reply 3

joe456

Are you straight?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

I'm not sure. Do you think thats what it is

Reply 5

cpj1987

15

There's nothing wrong with it. My best friend's a straight male but he often gets on with girls much easier than with guys, and like you, doesn't want to be a 'typical guy' in the way that annoys girls.
Why does it bother you, if that's who you are, gay or straight?

Reply 6

Mos Def

17

Yo wassup man, check the rugby out last night? ... footie out last night? ... You heard this song? ... you watch this programme?

Just dont talk about make up and all the queer stuff, and its the same as talking to girls.

Reply 7

gbduo

15

Perfectly normal, i have more girl friends than bloke mates, in fact i share a flat with 3 other girls and have a strong relationship with my girlfriend.

I work in a very blokey environment though which means i get the best of both worlds but what you describe is normal.

G

Reply 8

generalebriety

16

Calm down... people don't reply instantly, you know. :wink:

It could be that you're gay. On the other hand, it could just be that you feel more comfortable around girls. (I'd imagine that if you were gay you'd want to be around boys more; it doesn't sound like you're nervous around them, just that you dislike their company.) I'd imagine the latter, and it's no bad thing.

Reply 9

generalebriety

16

T_Bag

Yo wassup man, check the rugby out last night? ... footie out last night? ... You heard this song? ... you watch this programme?

Though the fact that he gets on better with boys than girls probably implies that he dislikes watching sports. :p:

I'm the same. (Though I'm gay, but that doesn't mean the OP is. Oh dear, bad example...)

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

My dad was judgemental of me and I always felt like I couldn't live up to his expectations, like as a boy... I think that is having an effect now :frown:

Reply 11

Economist

11

You sound gay imo

Reply 12

Rooftopcowboy

12

I get on with other men, but generally its in smaller groups (say 3 others maximum)

I hate nothing more than large groups of other men drinking, talking 24/7 football, women and stupid jokes.

even though I like all of the above things, but in moderation and not all the time. Some blokes at uni just live a 24/7 world of Nuts magazine..and i find it really blinkered and boring (and I do in fact purchase said magazine from time to time!)

I think with me its because i went to an all boys secondary school, so ive done the whole 'larking about' thing for years, and want more varied conversation these days, which in general women provide!

Reply 13

Mos Def

17

generalebriety

Though the fact that he gets on better with boys than girls probably implies that he dislikes watching sports. :p:

I'm the same. (Though I'm gay, but that doesn't mean the OP is. Oh dear, bad example...)

Well tbh i hardly ever talk about footie or rugby with my mates, it was just an example. Like i said, he can talk about music, tv, films...so many things! And i too think it has nothing to do with sexual orientation.

Reply 14

Sakapaka

haha, if i tried to do something like this i would get banned or something. It is obvious he is taking the piss.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

I feel kind of nervous around boys now. Apprehensive. Like, I don't know what to do. It puts me off being around them

Reply 16

cpj1987

15

Anonymous

I feel kind of nervous around boys now. Apprehensive. Like, I don't know what to do. It puts me off being around them

Then hang around with girls. As most people so far have said, it's no big deal. :smile:

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

But I want to hang round with guys. Its like I'm stopping myself.

Reply 18

cpj1987

15

Anonymous

But I want to hang round with guys. Its like I'm stopping myself.

Why do you want to hang around with guys so much, if you get on better with girls? I'm guessing that's a social norm thing, you want to be seen as being a 'normal' guy? If that's not you, it's nothing to worry about. Is it holding you back in some way?

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

Yes, in day to day I feel much more worried about how other guys see me. So I tend to stick with the girls

Boy that doesn't get along with boys!

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