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Reply 1

Yes go for it!!

Dont let your inhibitions hold you back. Chase the bad things away. You cant let this hold you back. You do only live once!

Please go for it!!

Reply 2

Lara C.

just let him know how you feel, he wont judge you and im sure hed be flattered to have a girl say that to him. i know i certainly would! :smile:

Reply 3

I_am_the_mob

Go for it, you never know unless you try
And a way to get rid of bad confidence is let go of the fear and let something good :smile:

Reply 4

dobbs

mollymustard

Should I go for it and try and meet up with the guy, or just leave it like I usually do.???

May I be the first of many many people in this thread who will say "MEET HIM!" - I can't imagine anyone saying "just leave it like you usually do" :rolleyes:

(EDIT: Well I was the first of many when I first started writing this reply, but now I'm the 4th!)

If you're chatting online then it makes it even easier to just say "Hey I was thinking about going to see [insert recent movie here], you fancy seeing it?" and if he says "No thanks" then no big deal.

Anyway, can I just say that on the overall situation you're at (what I perceive to be) one of the the hardest parts of your life - the end of high school/sixth form. Why? Because you've known the people around you for YEARS and no matter how much you change or improve, they will always remember you as "that fatty" or "that geek" or "that guy who pissed his pants in science class in year 8" (not me, but someone I knew!). Even if you are now a gorgeous, intelligent, witty, amazing person only your closest friends will (hopefully) realise this - most others won't see the change.

This is why University or general life after sixth form/college is good because you meet new people and can start with a clean slate. So don't worry too much about what people who you've known for ages think - because you'll meet new people and they'll see you for who you are now, not what you used to be :smile:

Anywho yeah - meet the guy! Don't be afraid of him saying "No", you'll only regret it :wink:

Reply 5

jenifaar

go for it. if you're the sort of girl guys think of as mates, that will turn into something more as and when. also, since you've spoken to him since, i'd say he's not just humouring you; or he'd have stopped by now.
so just try, and don't go into it thinking "oooh what do i do IF"...if it works, you'll know what to say, and when, and if it doesn't, then what have you lost, in all honesty? you don't have to see him again. good luck :smile:

Reply 6

Dionysus

Firstly, I took the liberty of looking at your MySpace profile and you're easily good looking enough to get a bf. Secondly, from my own perspective and experiences as a male, I'd say that if you think a guy might possibly like you, he actually desperately wants you. If you were asked for a drink/trip to the cinema, for crying out loud phone him up and ask him when he wants to meet up! If he suggested meeting up, you definitely didn't 'get the wrong end of the stick' - you've basically pulled if you want to.

Reply 7

Double Agent

You have to belive that you are equal to everyone anywhere. You are, why shouldnt you be? When it comes to guys, i think they'll either be really obvious they like you, or too shy or stupid to notice, or do anything about it. Pay them lots of attention, make them feel important. If it doesnt work move on, youve lost nothing. Experiment, see what works what doesnt work, and have fun. Dont mind read or try and guess what they are thinking, if they are showing signs of like you back, go with it, you only live once.

Reply 8

Reue

Dionysus

Firstly, I took the liberty of looking at your MySpace profile and you're easily good looking enough to get a bf.

Agreed. Assuming we've both stalked the correct myspace account! :wink:

Reply 9

BabyBee

I think go for it! You've nothing to lose if he isn't a proper friend yet then there's no harm in seeing what happens!

I'm a firm believer that there is someone out there for everyone and maybe you haven't met the person who can truly appreciate your quirkiness!!

I'm a bit unique (lol) and I didn't think i'd find anyone who could put up with me let alone love me for who i am, and i did. :smile:

Reply 10

Invocation

Sounds like you're lacking in confidence. That gets really awkward for guys.

Reply 11

steelmole

It indeed sounds like you aren't very confident, at least in this area of life. That makes it all the more important to take a risk! Doing things that are difficult and risky is what means you're living!

I suggest just asking him in a casual way. It's clear that your nervousness about the situation is manifesting itself as being not sure about him liking (and i've had a lot of experience of this sort of thing) so just take the plunge. Of course it's much easier said than done, but trust me, you'll look back on it and think "How could I have been so silly?".

Reply 12

sokissme

OMG!!
i could have written this!!
i have EXACTLY the same issues!
i have lost the weight, i am always still seen as the "english" one [i live in spain] so no-one really notices me, i have this guy who i know online and am thinking of meeting up with again!
you are me!! lol

Reply 13

randomgirl

Go for it girl, might as well give it a go :biggrin:

Reply 14

dumbdunc

Take the risk. Y ou have nothing to lose and it sounds like he's definitely interested.

If things go well it will boost your confidence and then who knows what will happen!

Reply 15

naivesincerity

Dionysus

Firstly, I took the liberty of looking at your MySpace profile and you're easily good looking enough to get a bf.

Yeah, you're lovely.

Reply 16

jenna_is_ace

I looked at you're myspace too and I think you're pretty.
The boys making advances are doing it because they find you attractive I'd think. Just try and start thinking more positive, meet up with this guy! Try and ask him questions about himself if you find conversation hard, that way he will have to talk more haha.

I know it will be difficult to keep the doubts out of your mind, because if I'm honest I'm exactly the same as you, I always think boys are chatting to me because they want an excuse to talk to my really pretty friends, but then when I try and let that go, I usually do fine with the boys :smile:

Reply 17

Unregistered

Think of it this way: What have you got to lose?

Reply 18

blue bubbles

Go for it, go on a date, be yourself!

I hope it works out!

all the best!

Reply 19

mollymustard

Hmmm.
Im still not sure hes intrested.
I asked if he felt like meeting up after I get back from my holiday (on thursday).
He said friday or saturday sounded good for him but wed have to arrange it later.
As Im going on holiday this is impossible.
Maybe it was a polite brush off??

Oh well.

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