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First depressing signs of crappyness
I just now got the signs that I'm going to be very sad for a while
I don't like to call it depression as I'm trying to convince myself that I'm not a hopeless depressed person. I feel as if I am worthless and I can't be bothered to do absolutley anything, I get really withdrawn into myself and start being annoyingly self-centred, I just feel stupid and that i'm silly for feeling like this when far worse things happen in the world, and on top of this I manage to keep up the facade that I'm normal and happy.
I'm having a rubbish time and the things that would usually keep me sane aren't there anymore (new at uni, new place, 4 hours from home). The worst thing is that when I was doing reading for my uni course a minute ago, I just thought "why am i doing this?" Which is really serious because that is usually the thing that stops me from doing something dangerous.
I just feel like I'm on a downward spiral and I really do not want to be like that right now
I've had counselling for the two years previous to university and that didn't really work, just telling someone how I felt and how terrible my life was (!) didn't really solve anything.
I'm not looking forward to this. I felt exactly the same last year from about january to april (and to a less extent for the rest of the year until now) which wasn't nice.
I don't know what to do. How do I stop myself from feeling like this? What can I do to make sure that I get out of the other end of this tunnel alive and well?
I just don't know what to do
Sorry about the essay
I don't like to call it depression as I'm trying to convince myself that I'm not a hopeless depressed person. I feel as if I am worthless and I can't be bothered to do absolutley anything, I get really withdrawn into myself and start being annoyingly self-centred, I just feel stupid and that i'm silly for feeling like this when far worse things happen in the world, and on top of this I manage to keep up the facade that I'm normal and happy.
I'm having a rubbish time and the things that would usually keep me sane aren't there anymore (new at uni, new place, 4 hours from home). The worst thing is that when I was doing reading for my uni course a minute ago, I just thought "why am i doing this?" Which is really serious because that is usually the thing that stops me from doing something dangerous.
I just feel like I'm on a downward spiral and I really do not want to be like that right now
I've had counselling for the two years previous to university and that didn't really work, just telling someone how I felt and how terrible my life was (!) didn't really solve anything.
I'm not looking forward to this. I felt exactly the same last year from about january to april (and to a less extent for the rest of the year until now) which wasn't nice.
I don't know what to do. How do I stop myself from feeling like this? What can I do to make sure that I get out of the other end of this tunnel alive and well?
I just don't know what to do
Sorry about the essay
Reply 1
Hi - Its impossible to comment specifically without knowing the facts of why you feel depressed; but generally speaking if I were in your situation I would speak firstly with one of your tutors to let them know your feelings and they should be able to put you in touch with someone in a welfare/counciling role at the uni - would also be handy for them to know if your study began to suffer in any way.
Would also make sure that you chat about it with your closest friends/family in order that they can support you as much as they can.
Dont know what else to say, but wish you all the best
Would also make sure that you chat about it with your closest friends/family in order that they can support you as much as they can.
Dont know what else to say, but wish you all the best
Reply 2
I'm trying to convince myself that I'm not a hopeless depressed person
wow
. "what you hate about others is what you hate about yourself"go further than a counsellor. thats what i did, go see a psychiatrist, they are gold. you cant keep telling urself youre ok, it'll just get worse..
I think your feelings aren't actually that abnormal for someone who's just started uni and you're labelling yourself unnecessarily.
I think you need to make an effort to improve your coping mechanisms (not many friends, don't know the area, not sure about your course (?), doing any sports?) and then when they're going better and you still feel unhappy, then maybe seek outside help.
Councelling and anti-depressants should be a last resort.
I think you need to make an effort to improve your coping mechanisms (not many friends, don't know the area, not sure about your course (?), doing any sports?) and then when they're going better and you still feel unhappy, then maybe seek outside help.
Councelling and anti-depressants should be a last resort.
Reply 4
I was about to post a topic on this, i hope you won't mind if i posted my query in here instead.
First of all I know i'm depressed. It came extremely apparent this morning as when i got in from a night out i cried, i wept for no reason, for no reason i can think of anyway. I just felt (and feel) immensely sad. I've been avoiding my flat mates, most social interaction and missing most days in uni. I have been starving myself for 3 weeks. I have eaten very little. And have had suicidal thoughts. But anyway, this is besides the point..
The thing is i want to go home (from uni) today, so i can go to the doctor tomorrow before the week is out. Then perhaps spend the weekend with my parents in the lakes. But i have a deadline on monday. Is this issue reason enough to miss this deadline? Should my tutor understand?
Thanks, and sorry for hijacking your thread OP.
Oh btw, i have never been like this before. I'm scaring myself.
First of all I know i'm depressed. It came extremely apparent this morning as when i got in from a night out i cried, i wept for no reason, for no reason i can think of anyway. I just felt (and feel) immensely sad. I've been avoiding my flat mates, most social interaction and missing most days in uni. I have been starving myself for 3 weeks. I have eaten very little. And have had suicidal thoughts. But anyway, this is besides the point..
The thing is i want to go home (from uni) today, so i can go to the doctor tomorrow before the week is out. Then perhaps spend the weekend with my parents in the lakes. But i have a deadline on monday. Is this issue reason enough to miss this deadline? Should my tutor understand?
Thanks, and sorry for hijacking your thread OP.
Oh btw, i have never been like this before. I'm scaring myself.
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I was about to post a topic on this, i hope you won't mind if i posted my query in here instead.
First of all I know i'm depressed. It came extremely apparent this morning as when i got in from a night out i cried, i wept for no reason, for no reason i can think of anyway. I just felt (and feel) immensely sad. I've been avoiding my flat mates, most social interaction and missing most days in uni. I have been starving myself for 3 weeks. I have eaten very little. And have had suicidal thoughts. But anyway, this is besides the point..
The thing is i want to go home (from uni) today, so i can go to the doctor tomorrow before the week is out. Then perhaps spend the weekend with my parents in the lakes. But i have a deadline on monday. Is this issue reason enough to miss this deadline? Should my tutor understand?
Thanks, and sorry for hijacking your thread OP.
Oh btw, i have never been like this before. I'm scaring myself.
First of all I know i'm depressed. It came extremely apparent this morning as when i got in from a night out i cried, i wept for no reason, for no reason i can think of anyway. I just felt (and feel) immensely sad. I've been avoiding my flat mates, most social interaction and missing most days in uni. I have been starving myself for 3 weeks. I have eaten very little. And have had suicidal thoughts. But anyway, this is besides the point..
The thing is i want to go home (from uni) today, so i can go to the doctor tomorrow before the week is out. Then perhaps spend the weekend with my parents in the lakes. But i have a deadline on monday. Is this issue reason enough to miss this deadline? Should my tutor understand?
Thanks, and sorry for hijacking your thread OP.
Oh btw, i have never been like this before. I'm scaring myself.
Why can't you go home tomorrow, go to the doctor, do your work over the weekend and give it in or send it in for monday?
Alternatively, ask for the deadline to be extended for you, explain how bad you're feeling and that you're going to the doctor tomorrow, the tutor will probably give you an extension.
Reply 6
Saffie
i don't think it's worth missing the deadline. Anti-depressant's won't work immedietely anyway, infact they could make you feel worse at first.
Why can't you go home tomorrow, go to the doctor, do your work over the weekend and give it in or send it in for monday?
Alternatively, ask for the deadline to be extended for you, explain how bad you're feeling and that you're going to the doctor tomorrow, the tutor will probably give you an extension.
Why can't you go home tomorrow, go to the doctor, do your work over the weekend and give it in or send it in for monday?
Alternatively, ask for the deadline to be extended for you, explain how bad you're feeling and that you're going to the doctor tomorrow, the tutor will probably give you an extension.
Cheers. I have to make a model you see, which requires workshop time. Though i suppose i could improvise some how.
I think the latter is the best idea. I'll send her an email, hope she understands. Thanks again.
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