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Haven't started puberty yet...getting really depressed
I'm 17 (gonna be 18 in march) and nothings happened puberty wise. I look just like a 13 year old. I'm 5'2, I have no body hair (none on legs, underarms, arms, and you can forget facial/chest hair) and my voice hasn't really deepened. I'm stuck in a kids body and it sucks so much, I'm sick of short jokes and what not. I started a four month course of steroids in August (in the 3rd month) but it's made no difference at all, I'm just getting so depressed. My Paediatrician just tells me to be patient. I want to study medicine myself, but i hope after god knows how many years of training I can give someone more advice than that, my mum's got better advice.
Girls usually always go for tall (or at least taller guys) and I've never had a girlfriend, kissed or further than that. They all just think I'm a nice guy, but at the end of the day they'd rather go out with someone else who's taller/more developed, no matter how hard I try to be out going or sympathetic or anything. I have average looks and they're made worse by my lack of growth.
Everyone treats me like a kid, I'm pretty sure even my parents do, they think just cause I look like one, they can treat me like one...everyone at school gets really surprised when I tell them I enjoy drinking beer, etc, they all think I'm some sort of innocent, just cause I look like I could be their younger brother.
Uni interviews'll be coming up soon and I'm sick of having to tell everyone that yes I am a 17 year old, I want to be seen as a serious prospective student, i dont want the first thing they notice to be my height. Same goes for my fellow prospective students, I dont want to be treated like this forever.
It's just really ****, I'm sick of all the girls I fancy going out with complete douches, and I don't have a fighting chance at all of getting a gf.
I dunno, this is just a rant, but if any of you can give any advice, it'd be appreciated
Girls usually always go for tall (or at least taller guys) and I've never had a girlfriend, kissed or further than that. They all just think I'm a nice guy, but at the end of the day they'd rather go out with someone else who's taller/more developed, no matter how hard I try to be out going or sympathetic or anything. I have average looks and they're made worse by my lack of growth.
Everyone treats me like a kid, I'm pretty sure even my parents do, they think just cause I look like one, they can treat me like one...everyone at school gets really surprised when I tell them I enjoy drinking beer, etc, they all think I'm some sort of innocent, just cause I look like I could be their younger brother.
Uni interviews'll be coming up soon and I'm sick of having to tell everyone that yes I am a 17 year old, I want to be seen as a serious prospective student, i dont want the first thing they notice to be my height. Same goes for my fellow prospective students, I dont want to be treated like this forever.
It's just really ****, I'm sick of all the girls I fancy going out with complete douches, and I don't have a fighting chance at all of getting a gf.
I dunno, this is just a rant, but if any of you can give any advice, it'd be appreciated
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Reply 2
Don't worry mate, it'll happen soon....I was the same, i used to be the tallest guy all thru school till about 13, then everyone around me grew and got hairy n stuff. Goin into 6th form i still hadn't started, and got bullied by kids even in year 8!! Finally at some point in year 13 aged 17 or 18, things started changing, i was the last in my year, but i guess someone's gotta be!! I'm now 6"3, so all good now, but i know it sucks seeing all the other guys changing around u!! Didn't start shaving till i was 21 tho!!
Reply 3
Thanks to you both...
Dac_10, I have a feeling that's not gonna be me. My paediatrician calculated my expected height (my parents are both quite short) and it was like 5'6, which yeah is better than 5'2, but is still short, and girls still might not be interested...
Anon4362: Yeah I got bullied by year 8s last year too, eventually I told a teacher and the guy in charge got suspended so at least they've stopped...but thanks for the reply, but again I dont think i'm ever gonna be massively tall...
But it's just so irritating...I can't even pretend to be happy with my height, people detect this and just make jokes the whole time and I'm sick of it, ffs I didn't ask to be like this...
Dac_10, I have a feeling that's not gonna be me. My paediatrician calculated my expected height (my parents are both quite short) and it was like 5'6, which yeah is better than 5'2, but is still short, and girls still might not be interested...
Anon4362: Yeah I got bullied by year 8s last year too, eventually I told a teacher and the guy in charge got suspended so at least they've stopped...but thanks for the reply, but again I dont think i'm ever gonna be massively tall...
But it's just so irritating...I can't even pretend to be happy with my height, people detect this and just make jokes the whole time and I'm sick of it, ffs I didn't ask to be like this...
Reply 5
when a year 8 starts anything punch them in the face, say something about there mother, spark up a sovereign, spit on the floor and you will have earned their respect.
they will never bother you again.
they will never bother you again.
Reply 6
I know what you're going through, was 5'4 until about year 11, you feel like your age but people treat you like a kid. I think that as you are getting treatment for the physical things, try and get yourself feeling more optimistic about it. With every minute that goes by, you are a step closer. I think if you wanted to appear older there are a couple of things you could do. Get a decent stylish hair cut, some good fitting clothes and try and radiate confidence. It will put years on you.
Reply 7
Well nah you aint gonna feel happy about your height or way u r, till u start changing!! Well my parents are no more than 5"5 and maybe 5"8, yet i still managed to make it to 6"3, an as far as i know my mum wasnt shagging the milkman!
And peewan dan its all very well saying wholl care in 20years, but u dont realise how hard it is at the time. the worst was gettin ready for games, and i was still lookin like a kid, when all the other guys were lookin like men, i hated that!!
Also i learnt to drive at 17, i was so embarrassed to fill up at petrol stations cos i looked too young to drive!!
But like i said all good now, and when youre older its good to look younger!
Hang in there!!
And peewan dan its all very well saying wholl care in 20years, but u dont realise how hard it is at the time. the worst was gettin ready for games, and i was still lookin like a kid, when all the other guys were lookin like men, i hated that!!
Also i learnt to drive at 17, i was so embarrassed to fill up at petrol stations cos i looked too young to drive!!
But like i said all good now, and when youre older its good to look younger!
Hang in there!!
man dnt worry about it, it will happen u jus gotta wait, and about the girl thing... seriosuly dnt worry its all about confidence i have seem sum pretty ugly guys get alto fo girl (not bad ones either) becaues they have confidence... and yh dont take anything from younger years bullying is not on in any way!
Reply 9
man dnt worry about it, it will happen u jus gotta wait, and about the girl thing... seriosuly dnt worry its all about confidence i have seem sum pretty ugly guys get alto fo girl (not bad ones either) becaues they have confidence... and yh dont take anything from younger years bullying is not on in any way!
I know, it's just that I'm friends with loads of girls, we talk, we share stories, etc, etc...I just can't seem to cut it past the "friend zone" and into potential boyfriend material, and I think it's height since all the girls i've talked to say "i'd like a guy to be somewhat taller than me"
Well nah you aint gonna feel happy about your height or way u r, till u start changing!! Well my parents are no more than 5"5 and maybe 5"8, yet i still managed to make it to 6"3, an as far as i know my mum wasnt shagging the milkman!
And peewan dan its all very well saying wholl care in 20years, but u dont realise how hard it is at the time. the worst was gettin ready for games, and i was still lookin like a kid, when all the other guys were lookin like men, i hated that!!
Also i learnt to drive at 17, i was so embarrassed to fill up at petrol stations cos i looked too young to drive!!
But like i said all good now, and when youre older its good to look younger!
Hang in there!!
And peewan dan its all very well saying wholl care in 20years, but u dont realise how hard it is at the time. the worst was gettin ready for games, and i was still lookin like a kid, when all the other guys were lookin like men, i hated that!!
Also i learnt to drive at 17, i was so embarrassed to fill up at petrol stations cos i looked too young to drive!!
But like i said all good now, and when youre older its good to look younger!
Hang in there!!
I know. PE was the worst from years 9-11 when everyone else was developing and I wasn't...I wore tracksuit bottoms the whole time to cover up the fact that my legs weren't hariy and when my PE teacher asked me why I wasn't wearing shorts I had to give him a note saying I had a skin condition. It was so embarresing having to not only deal with delayed puberty but also a made up skin condition.
Yeah, I'm really pissed off since I can't drive, I know I'll look so stupid behind the wheel and then there'll be all these comments like "can you reach the pedals" and all that ****...
I know what you're going through, was 5'4 until about year 11, you feel like your age but people treat you like a kid. I think that as you are getting treatment for the physical things, try and get yourself feeling more optimistic about it. With every minute that goes by, you are a step closer. I think if you wanted to appear older there are a couple of things you could do. Get a decent stylish hair cut, some good fitting clothes and try and radiate confidence. It will put years on you.
Hmm yeah, my problem isn't really talking to or getting to know girls, I have loads of friends that are girls. But since I look like a 13 year old kid, none of them would ever want to take it past the friend stage, no matter how confident I am (and I am quite), I'll always be " a nice friend" and that's it.
when a year 8 starts anything punch them in the face, say something about there mother, spark up a sovereign, spit on the floor and you will have earned their respect.
they will never bother you again.
they will never bother you again.
Yeah, I did punch one of the kids who was doing it, then he left me alone but all his friends continued until I got the ring leader suspended. Luckily they aren't doing it last year. Still it was really embarressing going up to my head of year and saying, excuse me a 12 year old is harassing me.
In 20 years, who will give a ****?
Probably no one. But right now, all my friends are enjoying their teen years, going clubbing, driving, having sex, etc. And I'm doing **** all apart from hanging around with my friends (who are having fun) and trying to forget the fact that for the forseeable future no girl will ever like me in that way, and I can't do half the stuff they can. I'm sick of having drinks bought for me. It's not a very nice feeling, that's all.
Reply 10
I know it's difficult but your doctor is right, you just have to be patient. Things will kick in eventually, my brother didn't start growing until he was nearly 15, in his case it was probably more of a calcium deficiency than anything else as he started taking calcium tablets (he hates all dairy products) and 5 months later suddenly hit a growth spurt, and won't bloody stop!
If you're feeling...excluded (best word I could think of) then ask your doctor if he knows about any support groups in your area for people with the same thing. Sometimes talking about it with someone who has "been there, done that, got the t-shirt" makes you feel a lot better.
If you're feeling...excluded (best word I could think of) then ask your doctor if he knows about any support groups in your area for people with the same thing. Sometimes talking about it with someone who has "been there, done that, got the t-shirt" makes you feel a lot better.
Reply 11
MentalSarcasm
I know it's difficult but your doctor is right, you just have to be patient. Things will kick in eventually, my brother didn't start growing until he was nearly 15, in his case it was probably more of a calcium deficiency than anything else as he started taking calcium tablets (he hates all dairy products) and 5 months later suddenly hit a growth spurt, and won't bloody stop!
If you're feeling...excluded (best word I could think of) then ask your doctor if he knows about any support groups in your area for people with the same thing. Sometimes talking about it with someone who has "been there, done that, got the t-shirt" makes you feel a lot better.
If you're feeling...excluded (best word I could think of) then ask your doctor if he knows about any support groups in your area for people with the same thing. Sometimes talking about it with someone who has "been there, done that, got the t-shirt" makes you feel a lot better.
Thanks for your reply
I've been on vitamin pills, calcium supplements and biphosphanates since I was 15...I've had everything from fortnightly blood tests to DEXA scans every quarter just to check if it was somehing else...nothing seems to work, and yeah I know, I gotta be patient, but it's just so tough.
Reply 12
oh yeah, and friends all goin to pubs, there was no way i was even gonna try goin in a pub lookin about 12years old. They'd all go to pub and id go home!!
It will happen, never heard of anybody not goin thru puberty!! By the time u start uni im sure things will have started to happen!!
It will happen, never heard of anybody not goin thru puberty!! By the time u start uni im sure things will have started to happen!!
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Dac_10, I have a feeling that's not gonna be me. My paediatrician calculated my expected height (my parents are both quite short) and it was like 5'6, which yeah is better than 5'2, but is still short, and girls still might not be interested...
Dac_10, I have a feeling that's not gonna be me. My paediatrician calculated my expected height (my parents are both quite short) and it was like 5'6, which yeah is better than 5'2, but is still short, and girls still might not be interested...
I'm 22 and my height is 5'6, it can be a tad annoying at times I'll agree but really you need to kind of just ignore the jokes - in fact most of the time I'm the one who makes jokes out of my height.
For example, at University I joined the rowing team - ha! I was easily the shortest male rower there, but I worked really hard and because of my height my weight
ower ratio was pretty good. I know it sounds stupid, but when you seem smaller than others then if you put a bit of effort in your achievements look so much better than the 6'5 guy who's done well - but that's expected of him!Anyway, onto girlfriends. Since the age of 20, I've had 3 girlfriends...it's no big deal finding a girl who's the same height or shorter than you when you're 5'6. Don't worry about it, as I say, learn to love your height and the things you can do with it (you get amazing leg room on flights and long train journeys - laugh at the tall people!) and it's all about your attitude anyway. I work with kids who are regularly towering above me but they're like 14 years old - so what? I'm older, I know it, and I make sure they know it.
Anywho - hope what we've said makes you feel a bit better, you will have to be patient though. It will all come in good time
I'm not too tall either mate. I'm 17, and 5ft6/7. My problem is quite the opposite as I'm quite hairy lol and have a beard/or usually a lot of stubble and most people think I'm a 22 year old midget. I've always been the shortest in all the schools I've been to and I know how it feels when some yr9s are even taller than you lol it's really intimidating. But no-one picks on me, but occasionally my friends call me 'the little man' but in a more joking kind of way, but that's it. If you look confident, act confident, dress good etc. then no one will pick on you. From what it seems like is that you haven't had your growth spurt yet. But again it's 99% to do with genetics, which is a real pain in the backside knowing that there's not really anything you can do to enhance your height or increase growth. All you can do now is wait and hope that you grow taller this summer (as I am to) *fingers crossed*
Hope that helps.
Hope that helps.
Anonymous
Thanks to you both...
Dac_10, I have a feeling that's not gonna be me. My paediatrician calculated my expected height (my parents are both quite short) and it was like 5'6, which yeah is better than 5'2, but is still short, and girls still might not be interested...
Anon4362: Yeah I got bullied by year 8s last year too, eventually I told a teacher and the guy in charge got suspended so at least they've stopped...but thanks for the reply, but again I dont think i'm ever gonna be massively tall...
But it's just so irritating...I can't even pretend to be happy with my height, people detect this and just make jokes the whole time and I'm sick of it, ffs I didn't ask to be like this...
Dac_10, I have a feeling that's not gonna be me. My paediatrician calculated my expected height (my parents are both quite short) and it was like 5'6, which yeah is better than 5'2, but is still short, and girls still might not be interested...
Anon4362: Yeah I got bullied by year 8s last year too, eventually I told a teacher and the guy in charge got suspended so at least they've stopped...but thanks for the reply, but again I dont think i'm ever gonna be massively tall...
But it's just so irritating...I can't even pretend to be happy with my height, people detect this and just make jokes the whole time and I'm sick of it, ffs I didn't ask to be like this...
5'2 maybe not be the best height in the world but its not the end of the world, remember there are girls this height also.
Reply 17
i like short guys and tall guys. We arent all that shallow. it'l happen eventually. I know its tough now but it will get better. Just hang in there, keep smiling and eventually itl all fall into place.
Lol I wasn't trying to have a digg at women on general :P It's just all the girls I've ever asked out have always told their friends who then told me that the reason was that I'm too short.
5'2 maybe not be the best height in the world but its not the end of the world, remember there are girls this height also.
Heh but for some reason they prefer guys who are like 8 inches taller than them, I honestly don't get it
Thanks dobbs btw, it did make me feel a bit better
Reply 19
Dude, I have a similar problem to you.
I cant talk to girls because I feel insecure about my height.
The only difference is I am 6ft 5"....
Just remember its about confidence and not what you look like.
I cant talk to girls because I feel insecure about my height.
The only difference is I am 6ft 5"....
Just remember its about confidence and not what you look like.
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