confidence

im not at all confident in myself so when i row with someone im constantly worrying and thinking oh god thats it they are never going to speak to me again,

and sometimes when im out i don't feel i can be fun and dancy so i sit there and i can't actully get up and dance coz im too worried about making a fool of myself, i dunt have any self confidence, with anything and ive started feeling depressed,

is there anyway i can boost my conifdence, does excercise boost confidence? (eg: more energy may result in more confidence coz im always tired as well)

and how can i be more out going and fun,

i feel like none wants to be near me coz im boring and always moaning i need a boost, any ideas??

Reply 1

cpj1987

The only way you'll be able to boost your confidence is by pushing the boundaries and doing things outside of your comfort zone.

In general situations; this can be something as simple as walking in a busy area on your own, speaking up when you could easily get away with staying quiet, and taking on new challenges as they come along.

This approach works for me. I see life as a succession of opportunities, and I take every single one - even if I expect the outcome to be negative, because every experience is just that, an experience; and I believe you should have as many experiences as possible.

If you're managing to argue with people, that's a good start, surprisingly enough. It shows that you have opinions that you're self-confident enough to voice, so the tip here is to state these opinions, back them up when you're talking, and understand that you have as much right to voice your opinions as anyone else. As long as you're not harsh or offensive, people will still talk to you. :p:

With regards to going out and dancing; do you drink? Alcohol in itself can be a confidence booster, but I found that for me, the best thing was to drink my way to confidence when out for the first few months or so, and then stop drinking completely, and force myself to carry on dancing etc. when I was out and sober. Once you realise that the drink made no difference, and that whether you're drunk or sober, nobody is thinking of you as a fool - you'll have that natural confidence without the drink.

I went from a shy girl with no confidence, no emotion, and, for a long while, an inability to speak; to who I am now - a happy, confident person who takes up every opportunity, and every experience. I now have a LOT of friends, some very close, and I'm permanently happy. I'd consider my life to be perfect. It's possible for this change to happen to ANYONE if it happened to me - but it won't happen alone, you have to be the one making that change. :smile: