This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- One Sided Moving On
- How do i get over someone?
- Cliche, I know
- Relationship advice
- The pressure to have a relationship in high school
- Should I tell him
- How do you know if someone’s a cheater?
- Advice pls
- Getting kicked out at 18 for demanding my money.
- I’m not sexually attracted to my girlfriend anymore and I don’t know what to do
- Should i confess?
- Relationship ****
- I feel like i’ll never get into a relationship again
- Should i breakup
- AITA for pushing my best friend of 3 years
- will I ever love again ?
- Leaving Haram Relationship (Muslim Brothers and Sisters)
- Bf his kids ? Is this going to be a problem now
- Tips for boosting confidence after situationships.
- Do I stay with my bf? NEED ADVICE
Advice for getting over a relationship
OK, it's been a while since my last one and I was dumped without warning. Nothing triggered it off, etc and I know for a fact that she's moved on but I can't. It's tearing me up inside. I can't stop thinking about her and it's messing up my mind.
Scroll to see replies
Hate to sound corny, but get drunk and move on.
Staying in's the worst option.
Go out, drink away your sorrows and meet new people. Doesn't even have to be people for a relationship, just being with others will soothe it. Get a hobby that consumes a lot of time (I know concentrating on anything too complex is hard when you have that lingering over you is hard, but maybe something like running, swimming, physical exercise is great for stress relief.
Hell, even start playing videogames, that'll let your mind wander away.
Staying in's the worst option.
Go out, drink away your sorrows and meet new people. Doesn't even have to be people for a relationship, just being with others will soothe it. Get a hobby that consumes a lot of time (I know concentrating on anything too complex is hard when you have that lingering over you is hard, but maybe something like running, swimming, physical exercise is great for stress relief.
Hell, even start playing videogames, that'll let your mind wander away.
Im trying to get over someone at the moment, Im finding it hard but when i'm around people a feel so much better. Its when im alone i have time to think and it makes it worse. Go out meet new people trust me its working for me. 
You say go out and meet new people but it's hard because all my friends have a different work pattern to me so when I have the chance to go out they can't so I'm pretty much stuck on my own.
The thing is that this girl wasn't exactly stunning and my friends have told me I can do a lot better but I feel differently. It's been over 18 months now, I'm still not over it and I'm wondering if I ever will be.
The thing is that this girl wasn't exactly stunning and my friends have told me I can do a lot better but I feel differently. It's been over 18 months now, I'm still not over it and I'm wondering if I ever will be.
I do understand what your going through its really tough, I dont have many friends I might go out maybe once or twice a week and the rest of time I feel down and lonely. It sounds silly but I feel better when I'm at work because of the people around me. Couldnt you maybe invite some mates round or go round to a mates house instead of going out in town etc?
I hope things get better soon.
I hope things get better soon.
The big problem is that my friend work when I don't and I work when they don't so it's pretty hard to arrange something. I would go out by myself but I'd look a bit pathetic.
No you wouldnt, go for a walk somewhere get some fresh air. nobody would think you look pathetic!
It's different if you go to a club on your own. You look a bit pathetic stood by yourself I think.
Hmm, I broke up with my GF when she left for uni this year and found it a little hard to come to terms with - didn't really accept it to have happened subconsciously I suppose. And similarly, a lot of my friends went away to university whilst I'm working - but I'm not in constant contact with people and everyone's older than me so it only helps so much. Got 2 good friends that aren't off at uni and I see a few other people too, but the working time clashes do suck.
Try and be with friends and out, though I understand this can be hard - just jump for any opportunity! Like my friend asked me to come to a gig on thursday night - which isn't ideal to be working on friday morning but I haven't been out with anyone for a week and a half so you know.. It was agonising over my PS that's kept me in and I'm generally anxious that I should be preparing for any interviews that may be thrown my way - but concessions for my sanity come first..
Try and be with friends and out, though I understand this can be hard - just jump for any opportunity! Like my friend asked me to come to a gig on thursday night - which isn't ideal to be working on friday morning but I haven't been out with anyone for a week and a half so you know.. It was agonising over my PS that's kept me in and I'm generally anxious that I should be preparing for any interviews that may be thrown my way - but concessions for my sanity come first..
That's the thing though Sam, when I'm free of a weeknight they're all working, when I'm free of a weekend they're all working. When I'm in work, they're all off. It's quite difficult to set something up. I'm tempted to go out drinking by myself and see where I end up but I'm a self conscious person and I think going out my myself seems a bit sad and odd.
On my own? Wouldn't people find it odd if you randomly start trying to speak to them on your own?
But it can't be like that the whole time, right? Like I work 9-5 prettymuch, leaving eary and getting back at like 6-6.30, whereas my friends do shifts that go over the weekend and can be untill 9 or 11pm at times - so it feels like there's no space. But that's usually because of being knackered at the end of the day. There must be someone with a day out.
Alternatively, where do you live - fancy coming out for a drink?
haha, though if you're never having same shifts as other people maybe that's because it's you with the strange shifts..
Alternatively, where do you live - fancy coming out for a drink?
haha, though if you're never having same shifts as other people maybe that's because it's you with the strange shifts..I wouldn't consider 8.30-5 as a strange shift. London's a bit far for me at the moment, just about paid off my loan so looks like I'll have to settle for nights out in good ol' Manchester on my lonesome for the time being.
It's an old cliche, but time is the healer.
Do you think that, maybe, you don't actually think about her all the time? And that, actually, you have some good days/weeks even where things seem okay and then you fall into a bad patch and get set back?
Because there's a big difference, if you haven't even begun to get over her then you need to sort your head out and let it all go. If you have, it's just a waiting game.
Because there's a big difference, if you haven't even begun to get over her then you need to sort your head out and let it all go. If you have, it's just a waiting game.
It's just lately I'm always thinking about her and I don't know why.
Timeslikethese
if you haven't even begun to get over her then you need to sort your head out and let it all go. If you have, it's just a waiting game.
You say he has to sort his head out but how does he do that? Not everyone's equipped with the skills to get over something as difficult as that. She might be but it's obvious that he's not.
BigScouser
You say he has to sort his head out but how does he do that? Not everyone's equipped with the skills to get over something as difficult as that. She might be but it's obvious that he's not.
But, there are no universal cures. It's different for everyone and whatever we tell him to do, may not work.
All that we can say is that over time, it will fade away.
I've had 18 months of trying to get over it but it still sticks in my mind. If people say times a healer then its taking a while for me. I had a very obscure dream about her last night. Nothing untoward, just a very strange nonsensical dream that I still can't fully understand but hey I guess that's probably because she's constantly on my mind.
Related discussions
- One Sided Moving On
- How do i get over someone?
- Cliche, I know
- Relationship advice
- The pressure to have a relationship in high school
- Should I tell him
- How do you know if someone’s a cheater?
- Advice pls
- Getting kicked out at 18 for demanding my money.
- I’m not sexually attracted to my girlfriend anymore and I don’t know what to do
- Should i confess?
- Relationship ****
- I feel like i’ll never get into a relationship again
- Should i breakup
- AITA for pushing my best friend of 3 years
- will I ever love again ?
- Leaving Haram Relationship (Muslim Brothers and Sisters)
- Bf his kids ? Is this going to be a problem now
- Tips for boosting confidence after situationships.
- Do I stay with my bf? NEED ADVICE
Latest
Trending
Last reply 1 month ago
Engineering vs. Medicine: Stuck Between Dreams and ExpectationsLast reply 1 month ago
heyyy , im new heree and im willing to have some friends xxxLast reply 1 month ago
Im 16 and never had a gf and it doesnt feel ok.
