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Girlfriend's Past

Ok, i keep inadvertantly finding out bits of my girlfriend's sexual history and it's really getting to me. Some of the things she's done...and to know there's a video tape lying around somewhere. These 'acts' keep swirling round my head and i can't shake them.

Don't know what to expect for a answer. Just had to vent.

Reply 1

username47781

20

Look at it this way, she's with you now.

Reply 2

randomgirl

14

Who are you hearing this info from? Her or somebody else? It could just be rumours, or exaggerations...

Reply 3

kookoo_koochoo

1

it's not easy but like Rock Fan said, she's with you now, and you have to believe that it's for a reason. TBH I've been with my boyfriend for nearly one and a half years and his past still gets to me not that he did anything so bad but just that he had been with someone before me. But we are still together like I say. If it is getting to you, you need to talk to her about it, not in an outright way but just for clarification from her that it's in the past and you and her are the present and future.

Reply 4

DodgyTrousers

7

You shouldn't worry about it. Chances are ANY person you get together with could have something dodgy emerge from a past relationship/drunken night etc.

Like others have said, she's with you now and if you like her that should be enough!

Don't go by what others will think, go by what you think.

Reply 5

Bedshaped

14

If girls went on my past, I'd be single for the rest of my life.

Give her a chance lol.

Reply 6

M.A.H

17

I highly doubt your track record is squeaky clean so as many have said, give her a chance and see past it

Reply 7

jobo3

1

On the plus side she should know what she's doing :mb:

Reply 8

Bismarck

13

Anonymous

Ok, i keep inadvertantly finding out bits of my girlfriend's sexual history and it's really getting to me. Some of the things she's done...and to know there's a video tape lying around somewhere. These 'acts' keep swirling round my head and i can't shake them.

Don't know what to expect for a answer. Just had to vent.

Just get it all out into the open (so you don't get more surprises down the line) so you can start the healing process.

Reply 9

Dionysus

15

Everyone has a past - it doesn't change the way she is now.

Reply 10

devilsthorn

1

I'd dump my girlfriend if I ever found 'tapes' of her with someone else. Past matters a lot. If your girlfriend happens to be a ex-porn star, would you still want her?

Reply 11

username47781

20

devilsthorn

I'd dump my girlfriend if I ever found 'tapes' of her with someone else.

What a ridculious bit of advice.

This is what I hate if a girl has slept with a couple guys in the past, some guys go made and don't go near them, yet if these same guys have slept with 3 or 4 girls before, they don't think it's bad.

Reply 12

Meep!

9

devilsthorn

I'd dump my girlfriend if I ever found 'tapes' of her with someone else. Past matters a lot. If your girlfriend happens to be a ex-porn star, would you still want her?

She isn't an ex porn star though, is she. She's just someone who happens to have had a sex life before she met her current guy. This is fairly common in humans, would you believe!

Reply 13

D-Day

10

devilsthorn

I'd dump my girlfriend if I ever found 'tapes' of her with someone else. Past matters a lot. If your girlfriend happens to be a ex-porn star, would you still want her?

I hope for the sake of humanity that you never sire children.

Reply 14

devilsthorn

1

D-Day

I hope for the sake of humanity that you never sire children.

I'll be sure to sire children with my girlfriend, who was a virgin. :biggrin:

Total obedience and loyalty to me! :rolleyes:

Lol, I sound like someone who is sexist now. :frown:

Reply 15

Bismarck

13

devilsthorn

I'll be sure to sire children with my girlfriend, who was a virgin. :biggrin:

Total obedience and loyalty to me! :rolleyes:

Lol, I sound like someone who is sexist now. :frown:

It's not like a blow up doll can say no...

Reply 16

Hylean

15

i tend to look on it as past is past and all that matter is how they are in the present.

Reply 17

JC.

19

ah cmon unless shes done something illegal its all just fun.

Some people just like it extreme. You can either deal with it or you cant. if you cant, you'll have to find someone else.

Reply 18

Jolae

Dionysus

Everyone has a past - it doesn't change the way she is now.

sorry to diverge, but is that what they say about pedophiles and rapists? :rolleyes:

I guess, so long as it wasn't illegal, well more importantly immoral and sick (like the two examples above) then you shouldn't be TOO concerned right now. There are worse things she could have done, and NOBODY would be offering you this sort of advice if she was involved in these activities.

Reply 19

Monkey_Maiden

11

My boyfriend was like you when we started going out. He was a virgin and had never had a relationship whereas I had been in a serious one and was not a virgin. He found it really hard to stop thinking about me with my ex and the things we had done but I kept telling him he's the one I'm with now and the only guy I want. I think he's less insecure now :smile:

Just don't torture yourself thinking too much

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